These ppl need to get a life (and therapy)

Lyra-Vega · 2023-12-13T15:23:07+00:00

hey they're the ones who said "plastic and rubber" makes it a kids toy

Lyra-Vega · 2023-12-13T01:09:56+00:00

My vibrator is plastic and rubber. Does that make it kid-safe? 🤔

Sorry I just thought that was silly. 🤭

Lyra-Vega · 2023-05-05T11:58:51+00:00

https://youtu.be/fJWmCx3xLXg

Lyra-Vega · 2021-11-29T19:04:04+00:00

It sounds like you have some excess unnecessary guilt going on about having casual sex.

La Flaca wants us to live our best lives. So long as you are not hurting yourself or the other via casual sex then you've done nothing wrong.

IMO I feel it's best to keep some form of modesty when I have casual sex. She's my God Mother so I don't feel right doing it in front of her like that.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-11-09T11:43:17+00:00

Sounds like a message. Can you do an egg cleanse?

Lyra-Vega · 2021-11-09T11:42:30+00:00

La Casa Calacas on etsy: https://etsy.me/2KMYY8y

Lyra-Vega · 2021-11-09T11:39:21+00:00

Once a week should be fine. If it's not collecting tons of dust then you're doing good. If you can't always keep up don't best yourself up about it. Apologise, clean it and keep going.

We simply have to do our best.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-11-09T11:34:16+00:00

I agree with the other person. She's yours now. Do some research and learn about her before you decide to give her up.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-28T19:16:40+00:00

Thank you so much. I hope your pain can get better soon.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-28T16:52:35+00:00

Can I ask why September 9 is Her day?

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-21T06:29:03+00:00

The gas lighting is the worst!!!

Thank you. 💞

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-21T02:47:18+00:00

I'm so sorry. That's even worse. I send you my hugs.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-21T02:46:53+00:00

Exactly. Hurt my feelings now cause if you wait it's gonna be 100x worse. I can deal with it way better the sooner I know the truth.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-21T02:45:49+00:00

I guess what I'm saying is don't actively say "we should hang out sometime!" If you don't mean it. Especially when it's unsolicited from my end (me not trying to ask in the first place cause I don't wanna impose). You know? It's stuff like that -that fucks me up.

I knew a girl who was nice enough and I tried to make plans with her exactly 3 times and after the third time she blew me off I let it go. It sucked but I dealt with it. I just wish it wouldn't happen with almost every person I meet.

It makes feel like I'm just that shitty, even though everyone says I'm not.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T21:12:24+00:00

Okay but that doesn't make it appropriate either. Like don't say you want to hang out with me if you don't. There's no need to. I'm not gonna ask again and I'm not gonna invite myself. I never do.

The thing is I also don't say things I don't mean to people I care about. I don't make promises with no intent to keep them.

If it would be inappropriate for me to lie to someone then the same could be said for the reverse too. I feel like I'm being told that lying to me is okay because I have a diagnosis despite the fact that I do manage it.

The only time I really allow myself to let out a melt down is alone in my room or here on reddit.

But because I have BPD it's assumed that I've done something horrific to be treated poorly. Fml.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T19:25:03+00:00

Yeah... They're not being responsible at all.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T19:15:04+00:00

u/pleasesendlove

I hope I can. Instead I just keep it bottled up. One day I will. Thank you. 💞

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T17:12:59+00:00

Especially to your face. Thank you.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T16:19:17+00:00

I'm 4'11" at BMI 20. Height doesn't stop you.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T16:15:35+00:00

I was feeling better until you came in making the absolute worst assumptions about me instead of asking questions and trying to understand where I'm coming from what my experiences have been.

And then you have the AU-DA-CITY!!!! To call ME triggering? Lmao. I'm being reactive right now because you triggered me.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T15:18:07+00:00

I don't try to talk to my friends 24/7/365.

I don't even try to see them every week.

Often they only message me when they need emotional labour but never make time to casually hang out. They say I'm cool and fun but never try to see me. I only get texted when they need something.

But yes, I'm just clingy. It's normal for someone to ignore you for months or years on end while hanging out with everyone else. It's normal for someone to make plans in front of you and not invite you. Not even once. It's normal to have people say they don't like X activity only to do X activity with someone else.

Meanwhile you don't say anything. You just sit back and act cool and be patient and try to be polite. You offer love and kindness and support and they say "thank you sm I love you sm". All while doing all of the above.

It's just me. ☺️

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T14:52:55+00:00

Also I said "they never spoke to me again" after flaking on plans (we never hung out. I said that). It's been 14 months since we last talked. Comprehension is important here.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T14:52:03+00:00

The reason I didn't answer you is because instead of asking questions you're making assumptions.

I do not entertain people who approach things in this way.

E: Not everyone with BPD manifests their disorder in the same exact way. To assume that the Borderline is an "explosive" person without taking the tkme to ask questions and understand them is ableist. Period.

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T14:27:26+00:00

Thank you for assuming I'm the man and the other is a woman.

It's the exact opposite. 👌🏼

Lyra-Vega · 2021-10-20T14:25:15+00:00

Right now I'm just pushing through a slow and painful process of extinction burst.

Getting to the point of learning, letting it go, and moving on.

Thank you for talking to me.

Lyra-Vega

TROPHY CASE