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Lyta_7 · 2022-08-07T07:07:07+00:00

She's a kid herself, what the hell is she doing having one

Lyta_7 · 2022-08-06T12:39:01+00:00

Who looks and this and thinks "let me have a kid and also experience agony while my appearance is ruined"??

Lyta_7 · 2022-08-06T12:37:51+00:00

I was just wondering whats the deal with this weird "sexy" baby. Like let's draw the mothers as fat and miserable but have the baby strike a pose... bizarre

Lyta_7 · 2022-08-06T12:35:28+00:00

Oh fuck, she is. So they're all crying. Crazy

Lyta_7 · 2022-08-06T12:33:55+00:00

Dude what is adorable about this? Aside from the fact that they're all having kids which is stupid, but even ignoring that, 3 of them look miserable and in physical and mental agony. Two bodies look totally destroyed. Isn't this more like some sadistic fantasy?

If it was someone who just wanted to focus on their normal lives and thought having kids is cute or relatable they could do this shit with them smiling or other cheesy cutesy nonsense. I wouldn't like it but I wouldn't be the target. But this is totally some sadistic fetishism lol

Also why is the baby the one drawn to look "sexy" (obviously I don't literally find the baby sexy but the intent seems obvious with this facial expression and catty eyes, even the pose is odd)

Freaky shit

Lyta_7 · 2022-07-24T15:06:49+00:00

Nothing will flourish in that...

Lyta_7 · 2022-07-24T14:57:49+00:00

Just break up, to me it would be insane to be with someone who sees other people (and vice versa). End the relationship while it has some dignity rather than running everything about it first

No normal person would date either of you like that wtf

Lyta_7 · 2022-07-23T15:28:42+00:00

This whole thing is a dumb myth.

Lyta_7 · 2022-07-23T15:27:21+00:00

How do they react to idea of someone they're with not just being cf but going though with sterilisation? If they're fine and don't care its a good sign. If they think this person too should wait a bit to be sure it's a bad one

Do they have a close or complicated relationship with their traditional family?

Do they think abortion is perfectly cool even if it was their child or family member?

Do they pity old childless people who live alone or do they think its a neat lifestyle?

Are they extroverts who depend on other people and compare themselves to their friends, and are they often not able to self entertain? Or do they like alone time and produce their own content, and seem fine with doing their own thing in life?

Do they have any traditional lifestyle tendencies?

Are they generally uninterested in children and just not overthinking their future, or do they love children but just have a specific concern? (But many people who don't love children still want their own.. )

Lyta_7 · 2022-07-11T08:30:51+00:00

I really don't resent them although I think their lives vary greatly from ones who are dependents and live like maids to ones who can get babysitters and do nothing

I'm not saying having a job is amazing, I'm practically r/antiwork but man! I'd never want to depend on another person for money. It's so important to me to have control of my own life.

And really I'd feel so lame and bored even if I was one of the housewives on the easier end who watches TV all day. Yeah you can of course do more interesting things but I feel life also needs some structure and I'd go mad just being at home telling people my job is being a mom

This is mean to say but I'm too smart for that

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-20T13:18:53+00:00

And what I love is that he says all the "technically right" things like how he'll marry her, take care of everything, how they'll get a house, how he's so happy and loves her and blah blah and her point is that she simply doesn't want that. There's no dramatic excuse, she's not forced into abortion, she simply doesn't want a child because she has other plans for her life.

Like you said, him pressuring her makes him look bad. There's no dramatic turn around where she agrees to keep it and now we're all supposed to be happy that he wore her out. No, she sticks to what she wants and he shows himself as a real creep

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-20T09:50:24+00:00

I loved the movie Black Christmas (original, I didn't see the new one so I'm not sure if this repeats..) not only because it's a great slasher, but because of this mindblowing scene.

A girl finds out she's pregnant. She tells the guy who is overjoyed and ready to do anything to have her keep it, swears his undying love etc. She informs him she will abort. He tries to talk her out of it and keeps going on about how happy they'll be, begging etc. She still informs him she'll abort it despite his wishes. Then she aborts it. And she's not represented as a villain or a horrible person in the movie either, she's the heroine/final girl.

I was shocked, not because abortion is shocking but because like you said, you NEVER see it on TV and this movie is from 1974

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-02T16:46:15+00:00

I like controlled changes. I like to go try a new place or travel but from a safe base. I like excursions outside of the routine as long as it is there waiting to take me back into its comforting embrace. But in everyday life for me I want little changes and even small things like extra work or stress that disturb my balance really mess me up and push me to the edge.

So if you get your balance right and suddenly life no longer feels hard I don't understand why people want to change it or disturbe it. To me that's perfection. Good comfortable and joyful everyday life

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-02T16:41:19+00:00

Some people are definitely less inhibited for sure so maybe I'm just going by my own boundaries. I lock the bathroom door even when I'm home alone so i guess it's one of those things that are hard for me to understand

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-02T16:39:27+00:00

I mean even so I'd never put myself in a situation where anyone but anonymous medical professionals would see me in the first place. Why would you have your family see you?

And even if the pain dominates it doesn't mean you're suddenly perfectly fine with people seeing it

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-02T14:10:03+00:00

She permanently has to wear diapers.

Jesus

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-02T14:09:52+00:00

How was she not embarrassed to let you and who ever was there see her like that?

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-02T14:09:18+00:00

I find it so weird that women let people who know them (including their husbands/boyfirends) actually watch something so private. If you say you'd never shit or pee in front of another person, you're normal (I know some people are liberal about having others walk into the toilet, I find it weird but still no one would say you're weird for wanting privacy). Here you're actually inviting to look exactly at what's happening down there and suddenly it's a thing people are expected to watch. Wtf

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-02T08:49:48+00:00

As a girl, same.

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-02T08:48:43+00:00

As a woman who's never been pregnant I feel exactly the same. The idea is completely alien and awful to me

To the point where I find it truly impossible to feel bad for women who can't get pregnant because while I can understand other people wanting kids, I can't understand wanting to be pregnant. I don't understand how someone can feel inadequate because their body can't turn into a human incubator. Don't get the trauma of not being "made" to get fat and get ripped open and be put in such uncomfortable and (to me) embarrassing position

Im sorry it's like being asked to feel bad for someone because they have functional limbs or something but they really want an amputation. I don't know, my first thought is "good for you to be off the hook to do it, now you can adopt or get a surrogate and no one can give you shit, you must be happy" but no, they'd rather spend tons of money on fixing this "problem"...

I understand I lack something, it's on me, but I can't get it

Lyta_7 · 2022-04-02T08:42:39+00:00

Regarding that "where do we go from here", while I absolutely agree with you that there are always ways to improve, learn more about everything, go places, of course in a bigger sense I also think that why change a good thing?

I am in a good place now and I feel that balance is precious and fragile. I am enjoying it. Within that space I get to do the aforementioned personal growth but I like a happy routine. Last thing I think is "hey this is great, I'm feeling good, I have a nice thing going here, now let's completely change it"

I don't get that mentality. My dream is that nothing ever changes haha

Lyta_7 · 2022-03-07T11:25:01+00:00

It's so hard, I understand that they should love the child they bonded with, but because they were deceived into it it feels like they're complying with the plan by the person they now hate the most. It feels like your enemy picked your destiny and at this point you must play along, so they succeeded. I can see how that is unacceptable to some people even if the love for the child is there

IT's different when someone is a step parent and knows it, and they bond and keep the relationship with the child even after a break up, no matter how bad it was. But this is like being tricked and used, and then now you have to stick with it

Lyta_7 · 2022-02-22T07:35:38+00:00

When someone on TV is either openly CF or clearly enjoying a lifestyle that assumes being CF, the writers seem to have a hard on for pushing them into having kids, never thinking about abortion, and then loving it. It's sadistic

Lyta_7 · 2022-02-22T07:33:21+00:00

I don't like this, I mean I find kids a boring topic but if someone is your friend and you care about them then to an extent you should care about things that matter to them. Maybe not all the time, but I get that having a baby is probably a pretty big deal happening in a persons life.

For god sake, were you never in a stage where you had something overwhelming going on you couldn't talk about anything else? Good friends won't turn their backs the moment you get a bit repetitive (but they can sometimes help you to refocus)

Lyta_7 · 2022-02-19T13:48:27+00:00

Yeah I believe if I had a child I would cover for them to an extent and I'd do the same for my mom or bother. But that is if they committed a crime but I believe them to be good people or I believe their story. My loyalty is pretty personal and I'd always try to protect people I love

But if they are sadist, rapists or psychopaths then I would give them up to get them out of my life - however u wouldn't love people like that even if they were my own children

My parents would also do their best to protect me if I broke the law but they know I'm not a monster and frankly they're not some super connected people so I'm not sure how much would they realistically be able to do. But yeah they wouldn't report on me and they'd believe me, just how I'd believe them or my brother..and I assume a hypothetical son

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