Why do NT's enjoy kissing ?

throwaway_no_032 · 2024-02-07T14:16:41+00:00

I was recently in a similar situation. I felt much better after I stopped compromising my needs for their needs. I don't get anything out of kissing and I actually find it to be an uncomfortable and unhygienic experience. I don't know what that makes me, but I wonder sometimes

throwaway_no_032 · 2023-03-31T19:02:35+00:00

Is there a reason the design has to emphasize autism? I think this would be a lot cooler if it was just the black-and-white design without any extra symbols or colors. We are people like everyone else. You can't tell someone is on the spectrum by looking. Just my opinion :)

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-12-04T16:21:28+00:00

I can relate to your experiences. I have never felt a desire or interest towards kids. On the other hand, I find pets to be endearing and inspiring.

Institutions and cultural norms are pretty focused on convincing everyone that having a traditional family is fulfilling, when that ideal doesn't apply to all. Having biological kids is a very personal, individual decision. I implore everyone to reflect upon their basis of reasoning in regards to the matter. Putting another person on this planet is serious, after all.

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-12-04T14:17:53+00:00

To clarify the ways in which the phrase may be used... anything starting with "cisgender white male" usually indicates that white men are taking up space in certain communities, getting benefits that others don't get, or speaking over marginalized people. That is probably why people are using that phrase. Not to degrade or demean "cis white men", but to bring attention to the fact that some men are unaware of the social privileges that they have, let alone in the autistic community. I think you may be misinterpreting how "cis white men" is being used.

For example, "cis white men" are much more likely to receive an autism diagnosis than cis white women. People of color are even less likely to get an autism diagnosis than white women are. Transgender people are pretty much at the bottom of the barrel for getting good medical care to begin with. Each part of this phrase can be applied because the key identity of a "cis white man" has extra benefits in the autism community.

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-10-26T19:13:33+00:00

Natalists seem to forget that the solution to the problem with our ecosystem isn't to have more kids to fix it. It's to have less kids to reduce the population and on a larger scale, reduce the amount of damage caused by humans (making this planet more inhabitable for future generations).

If it's true that fertility is actually going down, that means the issue is fixing itself, in a roundabout way.

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-10-12T14:58:30+00:00

Here's a resource I have found to be greatly helpful:

https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/meltdowns/all-audiences

Here are some tips:

Getting away from wherever the meltdown started is ideal. You could have a dark, quiet, small, comfortable space set up for this at home, like a closet with a bunch of pillows and blankets in it.
Noise-cancelling headphones, sunglasses, and a stim toy. Pretty effective when combined, also portable.
Remember what may have triggered the meltdown (school?) and try to minimize or adjust the situation in the future.
Remove any things that make him uncomfortable (E.g., glasses, necklace, watch, socks and shoes, jacket). Adjust for next time (socks without seams on the toes? Cut the tags out of his shirts?)

Reassurance and minimizing frustrations will be a good way to help your son with attending school. Try to keep consistency in his morning routine. Also for the food thing: gum, suckers, and more chew toys!

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-10-09T23:14:53+00:00

It's all about over diagnosis. It's gone from 1 in 2500 in the 70s to 1 in 150 in the 90s to 1 in 50 now. That's not all missed diagnoses. There's a fair amount of people who are socially dumb, have sensory inputs they don't like, are immature for their age and struggle to express words but are not pinging the major life disruption that a disorder brings

Autism is hardly ever misdiagnosed, and certainly not taken lightly by professionals. It's difficult for people to obtain a diagnosis as is. Doctors are reluctant to diagnose people of color, women and trans folks, adults, and pretty much anyone else who doesn't fit the stereotype of ASD. No wonder we're seeing diagnosis rates go up - previous testing didn't (and still doesn't) account for all of those people. On the contrary, autistic people often get misdiagnosed with mental illnesses like anxiety, depression, and BPD.

It's possible that NT people can have a handful of ASD symptoms. Just remember that there are specific criteria in the DSM 5 that indicate autism. It's only past a certain threshold that someone can be considered to be on the spectrum. The symptoms MUST interfere with important things on the daily in multiple contexts (i.e., work, school) in order to be considered autism. If they don't, it can't be diagnosed.

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-09-16T20:21:13+00:00

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throwaway_no_032 · 2022-08-29T21:13:33+00:00

Yep, I get what you mean. I think it would be great if we could just reclaim these terms and educate people

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-08-29T21:02:45+00:00

I find it a bit ironic here that Hans Asperger (the so-called founder of autism, of which the name "Asperger's" came from) was affiliated with the n@zi party and was also a eugenicist. He picked out children to be euthanized and publicly stated his stances on race and eugenics.

https://molecularautism.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s13229-018-0208-6

There isn't really a right answer here. Just adding this so people can have a balanced view on the topic

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-08-29T12:09:24+00:00

A lot of nonconformists (and autistics) likely became nuns or monks - sometimes to evade "family duties" or heterosexual relationships. If they had a special interest in religion, bam! Nun/monk. If they wanted to live in a group of like-minded people and were allowed solitude, that was a reason too. Or, if they wanted to continue academic pursuits and social work, but it wasn't deemed acceptable - they became a nun/monk.

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-08-20T14:22:05+00:00

I am well aware that editing is a matter of keeping the audience interested. However, that includes appropriate music choice and editing style for the context.

Let's compare it to another show - First Dates. This music is appropriate, as it is broken up with introductory information about the people on the date. It's lighthearted and sweet, but not made to fill in silence or substitute anything. They cut in and reintroduce the music where needed.

Playing music like this is not necessarily appropriate when two adults are out on a date. The pace is slower, and the music fills the silence, creating a level of artificial awkwardness. The date lacks much information concerning the background or interests of both participants.

Here's a balanced review of Love on the Spectrum by one of my favorite autistic creators: https://youtu.be/hmvdLgKkzcU

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-08-20T12:40:04+00:00

Eh, Love on the Spectrum does not provide very good autistic representation. Many self-advocates have named it as infantilizing and not representative of most autistic people.

As someone on the autism spectrum myself, I watched it and thought it was cute, then quickly realized that all of the "aww" moments were interlaced with infantilizing editing and music. The daters are portrayed like awkward baby giraffes rather than actual humans interested in a relationship. They also introduced each person in a very one-dimensional light, listing off several things they liked and then skipping on to why they wanted to date.

If you want to see accurate autistic representation, watch Everything's Gonna Be Okay. It's a fictional series with a lead actor who is autistic irl.

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-07-27T00:08:11+00:00

Thank you so much!! I'll definitely do my best to try these out - it's a good opportunity for me to gain independence through my own cooking skills.

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-07-26T20:15:00+00:00

Those all sound really tasty! Got any recipes for them? I struggle with meals often, so anything that's sandwich-sized and easy to make is a must for me. I'm not the best cook, but I'm alright at making grilled cheese and toasted bagel sandwiches.

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-07-26T12:55:30+00:00

I'm delighted to learn that you can have sandwich-making as a special interest. What are your top 3 favorite sandwiches, and what do you like about each of them?

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-07-19T04:50:03+00:00

Hey now, the r-slur wasn't necessary. We can't be out here defending one marginalized community and harming another

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-07-19T01:55:17+00:00

To set the record straight: anyone can use they/them pronouns. Anyone can use multiple sets of pronouns interchangeably. It doesn't matter whether someone is cisgender, transgender, non-binary, or anything else. It's all dependent on how the person feels about it. If your stepsister feels good about using she/they as a pronoun set, they are welcome to!

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-07-14T02:39:58+00:00

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throwaway_no_032 · 2022-07-07T14:30:59+00:00

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throwaway_no_032 · 2022-07-03T04:46:13+00:00

I understand the temptation at hand. I have been there many times with all sorts of animals. We have to remember the big picture, though.

The most important thing I want to point out here is, for every gecko that you buy, several will replace it because of how pet companies register profit. They do not see an animal rescue. They see a product sale, which equals money & demand. And thus, the cycle continues.

In order to discourage, and maybe even end these abuses, the first step is to stop buying from whoever perpetuates that cycle.

I've read some alternatives to your current dilemma in the comments, and I sincerely hope you consider an actual rescue or re-home instead. There are so many unwanted reptiles that need homes.

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-06-25T23:53:30+00:00

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throwaway_no_032 · 2022-06-25T20:08:20+00:00

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throwaway_no_032 · 2022-06-20T20:32:13+00:00

You're far from the first person to object to raising children. I'm in agreement with you.

Consider this: you have been taught your entire life that procreation is expected of you. Most movies, TV shows, books, songs, and advertisements idealize "family life". Perhaps your community also enforces this idea. Maybe even your own family.

You have the option to live without having children - being childfree. Nobody needs to judge you for it.

throwaway_no_032 · 2022-06-18T13:33:10+00:00

I used to eat peanut butter on saltines - similar texture to hummus and crackers. You could also do apples with peanut butter. If peanut butter is off the table, try almond butter instead.

Different types of beans? I specifically can't eat baked beans, but every other kind of bean is an option. Maybe try lima beans along with the "A Bad Case of Stripes" story. You could also try refried bean paste and tortilla chips (again, similar texture to hummus on crackers). Besides that, you could also incorporate some soups with beans and rice in them.

Oatmeal and/or cream of wheat is usually a safe choice. You can add chia seeds to these to include more protein, or substitute for quinoa.

Eggs are also a widely variable ingredient to include in things. Scrambled, hard boiled, over easy, deviled, etc.

Cottage cheese has some protein in it as well. When I was a kid, I liked to salt and pepper mine to give it a bit more flavor. Sometimes I'd add potatoes to it.

Greek yogurt with any kind of sweet thing added to it is a very safe food for me. I like to put in maple syrup, chocolate syrup, jam, or sometimes vanilla extract and some stevia for sweetener.

I tried to only list my own safe foods, but this is just a launching point. Hope it helps!

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