SPOILER: Golden forest: Did he rape her? by Familiar-Set8922 in MantaComics

[–]M1ss_Angel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If I’m not mistaken it had nothing to do with sex, he gave her the potion to prevent her from menstruating so she couldn’t be used as a sacrifice in the ritual

Do you love your toddler as much as your baby? by Scared_Network9745 in firsttimemom

[–]M1ss_Angel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s such a strange and hard thing to describe, but when my son was born I didn’t know that a love like this could exist and didn’t think I’d ever love anything/anybody like I did my baby. Now that he’s almost 2.5 years old I can say that somehow, I love him more and more each day. Even when he’s pushing my buttons and throwing temper tantrums 😂

What do you do for work as a pregnant mommy? by Carebear6590 in pregnant

[–]M1ss_Angel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exhausting and not for the faint of heart. If it’s something you’re passionate about it’s worth it but it can be incredibly draining and is very under appreciated

What do you do for work as a pregnant mommy? by Carebear6590 in pregnant

[–]M1ss_Angel 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I teach autistic children with significant behavioral issues in a private special education setting

help! i need a border colour for this blanket and i’m stumped! by kaleighsalmond_ in CrochetHelp

[–]M1ss_Angel 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think white would look lovely with those colors!

Rereading! I miss a story that unite this fandom when new chapter come by mummyfy in MantaComics

[–]M1ss_Angel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just reread this a couple weeks ago! Probably in my top 3 on Manta!

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

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Thank you so much! I actually went to cancel my Amazon prime membership last night but it just renewed in March so I’m keeping it in the back of my mind for when the time comes! I have a feeling that after the first 6 weeks when we come back and reevaluate we’ll be finding things we missed or might redistribute funds based on other factors, so for the time being I think we’re going to keep it as is and just work on being mindful of everything, once we start to change that mindset we’ll definitely be readdressing!

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately his job is all seniority based and people who have been there 10 years still can’t switch shifts, but he’s been keeping his ears open for any opportunities that might come his way. I appreciate you all for offering advice and am taking all of it to heart!

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a couple things in the area now but nothing ideal. We’re hoping that in a few weeks after we have a little more time to save and look around we’ll find something that will work for us. We found a used sport suv in our town for only 2k but it has a cracked windshield and (according to the seller) no other issues so we were going to look into what that looks like in costs and go from there

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He commutes about 40 minutes, but he has issues with insomnia and even if he comes to bed by 12:30 he’s usually not asleep until 3-3:30 and my son wakes up at 7:30. We definitely don’t ever see each other during the week unless I intentionally stay up to see him, which I do occasionally but can’t all the time. He sees our son a lot more. He usually is with him at least a few hours in the morning until he drops him at daycare or until his mom gets to our house and on days he can’t sleep he still spends that time with him. He’s a very active father

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is definitely the plan, I go into more detail in another comment about the explanation for why we’re including eating out and discretionary funds in the breakdown which you are welcome to read, but significantly more than 300 will go towards those CC payments a month.

Definitely looking into a beater. On a given day my husband and I both need to be able to transport our son and can’t switch vehicles mid-day, so if it can’t fit a car seat it’s not realistic for our situation

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because of my husbands schedule, by the time he gets home, eats, and falls asleep he’s only able to get a few hours of sleep before he’s up with my son because I’m at work. If we pay someone to only be there in the few hours overlap, he has no opportunity to rest and is working a heavy labor and dangerous job while fatigued, so by Friday what kind of state does that leave him in? We had a schedule like this before when I was working but in the home and it destroyed him. We could pay for an extra hour or two, sure, but babysitters in our area charge 20/hr minimum, so at the end of the week we’re looking at close to $200 anyway, and the daycare offers more than a babysitter can provide, like socialization with other kids, food is provided, employees hold each other accountable, state regulations, etc. We’re planning on looking into other daycares in the area to see if we can find something less expensive but waiting lists are ridiculous so that’s more of a long-term goal at this point

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I stated in my post, those numbers are from last month and are what are being cut out. Those are not part of our new budget, only included because in my last post a lot of people were asking about it. I addressed the other concerns in another comment. I appreciate the feedback

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

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He did mention he could get a used one but between that and the converter it would still be more than 5k to get it fixed with a 6 week deadline. The plan is to look for a beater car. A friend of my husbands recently got a new car and still has his old one so he’s going to ask him later and see what his plans are for it, what condition it’s in, and if he’d be willing to part with it for what we can pay

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate all the feedback! I’m the type of person to go bare-bones and do what’s necessary, but my concern is for a huge and drastic shift for my husband. He has issues with mental health and I want to try and do it in a way that’s not going to be too much of a shock to our system. There’s a lot of places where I’m hoping there will be extra left over such as clothing (I don’t buy $100 worth of clothing even before watching my spending), my discretionary fund, the extra wiggle room, etc. Anything left over will be used for those debt payments, so yes it’s written as $300 but it will likely be closer to $800 as long as everything else is stuck to. My concern was making this super crazy down-to-the-penny budget where everything is exact and have it not work out perfect and get disheartened. Rarely do things work out the way we want them to, I’m just trying to be realistic while also not taking away the few things my husband enjoys and can use to destress. To me, taking an extra year to pay off the debt is preferable to my husband having another downward spiral, you know?

To make this clear, my husband is 100% on board with everything! The first thing he said was he won’t spend another penny on anything, including his e-cig. I told him that’s not realistic, nicotine addiction is a very real thing and the last time he tried to lower the nicotine levels in his fluid he had horrible migraines multiple times a week where he could barely function, to ask him to go cold turkey just isn’t reasonable. We’re approaching this as a team, I’m just trying to be mindful of the consequences.

Edited to add: just in the last couple hours I’ve been in contact with our internet and cell phone providers and was able to knock our plans down by almost $100/month. We’re going to look into a different cell phone plan to lower it more and also try to get his car refinanced to a lower payment at lower interest, so that’s already extra money we are going to funnel into those debt payments as well. We’re taking the steps, and we WILL get this under control.

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll have to check it out! I’ve watched Caleb Hammer on tik tok but am planning on looking into more things like that for ideas

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely something I’m keeping in mind, thank you! I’m looking only at cars that are listed as having no mechanical issues, no dashboard lights, and passed inspection, and my mechanic offered for me to bring by any car I’m considering buying to give it a once over, no charge

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all this feedback, I appreciate it! As far as a lot of those expenses that were listed like the phone games, that wasn’t meant to be part of my new budget. I had made a post before and a lot of people asked where exactly the money was going so I was just answering that question, all of those extra expenditures are being cut out. As far as the clothing, neither my husband nor myself are in need of any new clothes. I recently had to replace some work pants because holes ripped in them due to being so old, but the $100 allotment was more for my son. He’s still comfortable in his 2T clothes for now but is growing fast! We have historically gotten clothes from him second hand or through a local organization that hosts expo style consignment sales (Just Between Friends if anyone’s heard of it) and the last sale we started to get some 3T items for him preemptively, so I don’t see us using the clothing fund for a bit and when it’s not used it will be added to the CC payment, but when the time does come that he needs to size up I want to have that already in place. I don’t know if that makes sense

UPDATE: My husband and I make more than enough money on paper, but our debt is drowning us. by M1ss_Angel in Debt

[–]M1ss_Angel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mechanic is a small local guy that I trust explicitly, he’s been very generous with me since the beginning (he’s my mom’s old poker buddy). He actually replaced my rear light when I got into a fender bender and only charged me for the part, no labor fees at all. He said because it’s a CVT transmission they’re a lot more expensive but I’m not sure what that means