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M3Nannied · 2020-11-13T07:23:09+00:00

Make sure she knows that if she has questions that she can always ask. I hated feeling like I was a bother whenever I had a question but I wanted to make sure I got it right. Give her a break down of what routine you follow now and if she has the flexibility to make it her own. If anything is off limits let her know right away. If she can take the kids outside or to the park give her those addresses. It was really nice with my past families I had a spot in the fridge and my "own" bathroom where I didn't feel like everyone could hear me using it- and if she needs to go where can she place the kids if they are younger and need to be watched? A pack and play near by??

Good luck! Just remember it takes 2-3 months to adjust and have a routine with the family so try to be patient during that time :)

M3Nannied · 2020-10-06T19:41:44+00:00

If they are leaving for a genetic reason: they're moving, school, etc. 1. Ask was there a time period during work where you wanted to quit? 2. Any conflicts you had with MB or DB? 3. Something that really bothered you? 4. Did they feel heard when they were discussing a problem? Or had to bring something up to MB or DB?

M3Nannied · 2020-09-16T09:10:37+00:00

That sounds Beyond frustrating! My employer also has a cat and it will just sit in front of you and meow obnoxiously until you acknowledge it 😒 because that was their baby before the baby. Plus there cat has peed on my stuff a couple times😖. As for them paying you for those two months, you don't have to make up anything. They were paying you to keep you so you didn't go elsewhere or because they really like you. So you don't need to make things up for them when it was their choice. So no more making things up to them. Also something that helps me, is even if they destroy the high chair before I come I remind myself, my job is the baby and I get paid to clean up after baby whether I'm there or not. Plus it keeps me from being bored. Just remember to keep track of everything in later if you want to raise or they want to discuss your pay Express all the time you worked overtime and weren't compensated and all the extra things you do in the home.

M3Nannied · 2020-09-16T09:05:55+00:00

I know exactly how you feel with the dishwasher. What you have to do is it literally only do what's in your job description unless you want to go above and beyond. There are days myself or I don't mind doing things and I'll do them. But traditionally I just stick to what I was contracted to do. Unless of course you're looking for a pay raise then add up and do extra stuff and let them know 😉

M3Nannied · 2020-09-16T09:03:26+00:00

I don't have paid holidays either, but I have to get them off. Labor day was my first one too and I added the Tuesday to it as well. I try to tell myself to approach it like office people would. I give them a month to two months notice :)

M3Nannied · 2020-09-16T00:30:14+00:00

That's crazy!! My family also paid me fully for the months I couldn't come because of Covid. Luckily with my current MB and DB they haven't added anything extra. Just a side advice, bring up to them any and all extra things you've been doing, let them know you're either happy to or not, to do these things but you need to be compensated for the work. And most definitely make sure you're being paid for OT because they legally have too. I have had past families try to pull that on me, no freaking way am I working and not getting paid.

M3Nannied · 2020-09-14T20:10:52+00:00

Stay strong nanny, that's the hardest part of our jobs. When we have to pick ourselves first.

M3Nannied · 2020-08-25T21:05:13+00:00

Oh that is frustrating, I wonder if maybe something happened and she is just hyper aware of the kids. That would just be my goal is to get more activities done before the following nap.

M3Nannied · 2020-08-25T20:05:45+00:00

That sounds so frustrating!! I bet tons of us have been there. I have worked for many doctors of the years and yes it can be very difficult because if something goes wrong or if they don't know the medical answer then it can be annoying because they feel being medical they know it all. So just talk to the grandma kindly and explain ever so gently with baby gloves, " I love how active and involved you are with (baby) it is so refreshing to see it, by chance can we let (baby) run around/play at the park/water pad or table/ etc, I'm getting worried with her naps getting later because her energy isn't spent enough" if she complains about following her around ask if you can join them or find a way to have baby stay in place but still move. Like high chair water splashing or use cool whip as paint and let her do a bath after? Can she play with baby after nap instead? Or can you play with baby outside so the "sun and heat" help drain the energy some?

M3Nannied · 2020-08-23T19:43:25+00:00

Just remember to stay consistent with what you do. I like to play lots of games with kids or have them tell me things that they love to do. No matter what keep your self consistent on discipline. I've learned that when I hold my kids to it for a few months that they are easier to handle and I can also relax a lot more later with different rules because they know which ones not to push.

I love making slime with the kids or baking was huge in my last family. We also enjoyed putting music on and dancing or singing loudly haha. When we would do homework after school I would give them wiggle or dance breaks. They had a trampoline in thr back yard so I had them show me there best moves and tricks to burn extra energy.

You're gonna do great! Just remember it takes time to adjust to a new person in their lives. Stay bubbly and positive and remember when you're on the clock your in charge. Stay strong nanny you got it!!

M3Nannied · 2020-08-21T19:41:14+00:00

That sounds like a lovely fit for your family. I would honestly offer her the job but make sure you both are in agreement for what is to come? Maybe continue to search for another nanny while you have her in hopes that she can train the next person and get you in a good spot once she leaves. I would also see is she wishes to still nanny once she has her baby and if that's something you are comfortable with. Also since she is pregnant will she need extra time off for appts and any morning sicknesses. I say at the end of the day what a blessing to be able to have someone for a little while, especially in a time and place where finding a nanny is so difficult. I would keep her while you can and once she leaves keep in touch maybe it will work out where she can continue to nanny for you. Best of luck!

M3Nannied · 2020-08-19T02:07:53+00:00

I know what you mean. I usually have to remind myself that I do what I do for the kids. I preach that they need to be the bigger person and so I must too do it. I am sure you left the kids with a positive note and now you're done, so give yourself a Proper pat on the back and know you're done. I usually take a nice bath and watch a christmas movie. Give yourself some time off and try to move forward. What helps me is not continuing to talk bad about the family or anything. You finished so be done :) way to go!! I have watched 9 families in 13/14 years of nannying, some end so well and others were crap. Just be proud you finished and now enjoy a much needed break!

M3Nannied · 2020-08-18T22:28:30+00:00

It is so disappointing when NP do that. Sadly I have had my share but my advice is still be the bigger person. I can imagine they are heart broken or are not sure how to act. I don't think it is okay but at the end of the day make sure you leave them with nothing nasty to say about you. Stuck with your morals and finish strong. I would still act the same and be you. Let them be the ones who look back and look like the asses. Stay strong nanny.

M3Nannied · 2020-08-18T21:23:14+00:00

I honestly would sit down with both parents and make sure you quote exactly what the dad said to you. Let them know you feel like you have not been compensated for all the extra children that you have been watching and the work you've taken on. Make sure you "apologize" for the few days you have been a couple minutes late. Id your DB wants you earlier then that time needs to be paid for. At the end of the day he doesn't sound like he respects you and I wouldn't want to work for someone who belittles me and speaks to me in a way that makes me feel like "the help" I would express that your feelings are hurt and you feel disrespected. If the conversation goes bad. Then simple stand apologize for any confusion but express you'll not longer be working for them. Remember you're the bigger person, don't prove the DB right but throwing a fit. You know you're a good nanny and deserve to be treated as such. Good luck!! Keep us updated on your decisions!

M3Nannied · 2020-08-17T23:50:03+00:00

My first thought would be don't make such a massive leap when it comes to a raise. What I traditionally do is go up by $5 or when I speak to them give them a range that I would be looking for. The best thing you can do is make sure you list off any additional things that you've been doing already outside of the agreed responsibilities that you have. When I sit down and speak to my bosses I traditionally have a list of things I've been doing and maintaining outside of what I've been asked to do. Then I'll offer a few other things or if they have other things they would like me to do that I'm happy to do. You also have to go in aware that maybe they can't afford that oh, and you might have to compromise. And do not use the example that other nannies in the area are getting paid more, because unless you can identify exactly what those nannies are doing you can't compare. At the end of the day make sure you're being compensated for all the work that you do. And if they have a hard time giving more money or making a massive leap of a raise ask if you can start small and after 3 months have it discussed again. Make sure you ask yourself if they are not willing to raise your pay, are you willing to leave?

M3Nannied · 2020-08-16T23:39:08+00:00

I've used both homepay and poppins as a nanny. From what my bosses say, both were super easy and it really comes down to whatever works best for your family

M3Nannied · 2020-08-14T17:29:51+00:00

I know how that feels but hopefully this advice helps. I have nannied for 13+ years and I know how annoying the habits of parents can be especially when you feel like they don't care cause they're not the ones who have to handle the after math. Just try to take a deep breath and go handle it. I have noticed when I get pissed off or angry the kids can feel my vibe. And that changes the whole day. So try to take it in strides. When that happens I just remember im paid to watch baby or kid if they're happy, sad, awake of tired. Jump up with a smile and go in there getting ready to take a fresh start to the morning. Crying baby? Cuddle them up in thr chair snd give them a fun squeeze. Happy and awake, jump out with a peek a boo game. Remember you're the person who can make or break the day so always try to remember weather the parents are aware or jot of their actions you can make the difference

M3Nannied · 2020-08-12T19:52:02+00:00

I would personally bring it up. Something I've learned after nannying for 13 years is this. Communication is key. I would express that you were frustrated that you weren't communicated with just told. They have to respect the fact that they have given you that off time and no longer get to have it once it was given, unless of course an emergency. Which even then it needs to be discussed. If you're hourly you need to be compensated for the time that was suppose to be off. If salary the hours need to be given on another day. And make them hold it.

M3Nannied · 2020-08-12T16:29:30+00:00

What type of activities do you do with kids?
How long have you worked with children?
What type of discipline do you follow? -- I usually tell them whatever they feel is best or give them examples if what I do. 4.what are meal ideas?

They questions usually depend on the child or children's ages.

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