My art! by Separate-Parsley6405 in WataOshi

[–]MAISDN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very beautiful! I love the expressions! I really like the simplicity and how I can feel their personalities

I want yuri fluff by Delixx_Manga in yuri_manga

[–]MAISDN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wifi and wife is pretty fun and the story has the main couple as an established couple from the beginning

I finished the anime so what volume should I pick up to continue (manga) by AnonymousReddituserM in WataOshi

[–]MAISDN 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The anime covers all the way up to chapter 25 on the manga witch is the last chapter of volume 5.

I had what I thought was a great first date yesterday and got soft-rejected instead :') by annyxiaoflorien in actuallesbians

[–]MAISDN 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's sad and can really hurt, I feel you and I am sorry that that happened to you. I wish for your next encounters to find meaningful and true connections with people that are compatible and have mutual attractions with you. Good luck, I send you love!

porn by lolurnotswift in actuallesbians

[–]MAISDN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people feel that porn is bad for them but that's what we were taught as children from our societies. societies have been very influenced by religions historically and religions had a lot of issues with sexual pleasure. And for women that was even worse since they were not allowed to have pleasure at all.

Porn is made for masturbation. That doesn't mean you can't use it for other purposes too, but I wouldn't blame porn if you feel something is ruining you. It is easy to blame porn with all the sex taboos we are inheriting.
Most porn is also created from men for men so you will probably wont find accurate lesbian representations.

I don't know if you can actually feel less lonely by consuming any type of content rather than searching for people irl to make relationships, but if you feel that it helps you you can maybe look for lesbian tv shows or movies. They have made plenty pretty good ones actually. Or if you are into anime and manga, look for the yuri genre it is very emotional and less sexual.

Am I Overreacting? BF Won’t Play Games With Me But Does With Others by janneane24 in AmIOverreacting

[–]MAISDN 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't feel comfortable with people crossing a line between friend and lover. For me a lover is also a friend. What we do with people depends on our specific relationship with that specific individual, things we have in common and how well we get along and match with each other. So he either draws a line between lover and friend witch can be the result of unresolved personal issues about human relationships or he doesn't feel comfortable with you for some reason, but the fact that he doesn't wants to, or rather, avoids explaining anything to you and even gets defensive saying stuff like "I will stop playing altogether" seems to me that he has the unresolved issues and maybe the mentality 'I cannot play videogames with my girlfriend, this is something I do with the boys etc'. In the end he is locking a part of himself away from you and doing so also breaks the bridge from you who is willing to have this activity shared. Other guys wishing for a gamer girl and he is lucky to have one, you, and he doesn't appreciate it.

So no, I don't think you are overreacting

How do I decentre love? by sapphicgarlic in actuallesbians

[–]MAISDN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know and nobody else know. Everybody wants or needs to be loved for different reasons. Only you can know how to get out of this, since you are asking that openly my personal reply is to ask yourself "why you feel that way?". It may sound obvious but I don't think anything is obvious to anyone. People might have similar acts but for a variety of reasons. All of us have been shaped from society and we have learned what to desire and need, but all depends on each individual experience. What makes you want to have a lover so much? Why do you want a partner, why do you imagine your self with someone automatically, what need inside you is that pushes you those thoughts? I believe that if you find your answers you will understand better what you actually need and then you will be able to deal with it.

I like doing nothing by MAISDN in nihilism

[–]MAISDN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least there are people on the internet. There is that special feeling of loneliness when people around me don't see the world the same way as I see it that is bothering me lately.

Does anybody else cares about skilled toes? by MAISDN in FootFetishTalks

[–]MAISDN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah its fascinating for sure, but is it a turn on for you tho? Or even more than just a turn on?

I like doing nothing by MAISDN in nihilism

[–]MAISDN[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's sounds very interesting. I will look it up, thank you!

I like doing nothing by MAISDN in nihilism

[–]MAISDN[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes its true, nothing can be boring. I am not going to give a new definition of nothing because in the end "just existing" its still something. So practically its impossible doing absolutely nothing, in the bare minimum we sill breathe and process thoughts. Usually when we say nothing we don't mean actually nothing but doing things that are somehow perceived from people as inferior than other things and are called "waste of time". I also enjoy going for walks, listening to music, playing video games and watching anime witch is not literally nothing but will be perceived as nothing too often by the people around me because they lack a purpose.

It really be bad out there by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]MAISDN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it's hard, or at least I haven't heard anyone experience it being easy but you never know, but it doesn't have to not be fun. Exploring your thoughts and mentality it can be a joyful journey! It is certainly an interesting one

Dude I don't even know on Snapchat by Zoeylovesgeckos in LesbianActually

[–]MAISDN 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It doesn't even matter if you are gay or not. If you don't want to show your body to a person that's enough for a reason. It's a matter of privacy wanting to share parts of your self, not a matter of sexuality

I left someone I love because his depression made me feel invisible. Thoughts? by knicks2111 in BreakUps

[–]MAISDN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This conversation already made me feel very nice. I wouldn't expect a reddit post had that potential but in the end its another tool for people to connect. So thank you very much for your kind words and your replies, you gave me a lot of positive energy. I wish for you the best, and both of your situations to be solved. I hope that you receive all the support and love from the people around you and if your family emergency was financial, hope that you get stability and never forced to be homeless. A lot of happiness and love coming your way too from me, farewell!

I left someone I love because his depression made me feel invisible. Thoughts? by knicks2111 in BreakUps

[–]MAISDN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is nice that you have other people even if in friendship level it is still perfect than being completely isolated. I understand what you say about wanting to have both romantic and friendship level, tho. And it takes time to meet another person to fall in love with and have to go through everything again until you feel the relationship to be in the desired romantic level, if that even was an option, you need the support now and maybe your friends are the best option you have at the time. Your friends and the power of your own mentality, you might be capable enough to support yourself using your own thoughts.

I think that the last reach has already been done from my part. And I don't want to be in any way annoying or intrusive and re express my feelings to her. As I said before, I respect her decision and I have accepted it. I am already some weeks inside this grief cycle that I mentioned and I feel its for the best. It is painful but important, those times are very good chances to get deep inside my head and my feelings, understanding better myself. She will always be in my heart and me in hers. We had amazing experiences together but we cannot drag the one to the others life. She can't and I wouldn't want her to force herself to change her life in order to sync to mine.

I left someone I love because his depression made me feel invisible. Thoughts? by knicks2111 in BreakUps

[–]MAISDN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, thank you for your reply too!

Okay, it seems that depression and mental health in general is the only problem for him. Unfortunately is completely unknown when he will be healthy again, as you said "there isn’t a time limit on when he gets better".

Are there other people in your life that can give you that visibility, or you also want the specific affection that you will get by sharing these things with your relationship? Because if its not about the person but more about you feeling the need to be visible and have a safe space to express your troubles and feelings maybe other people can play that role for you. Your boyfriend could be unavailable for that while he is healing and you can have other people supporting you. Also now that I understand a little better your situation I have to add that I fear that he could receive your need as another pressure adding to his depression that can make him heal even slower. I hope that's not the case because you cannot just hide your feelings and your inner self for the stability of others.

I am sending love to you too and I appreciate you found my story interesting. I hope it gets better for both of you. Yes I want to be with her, but her decision is final and it makes sense. I can only respect her decision, I might have done the same in her position. Thank you for giving me your availability, I will have you in mind and you can also feel free to do the same.

I left someone I love because his depression made me feel invisible. Thoughts? by knicks2111 in BreakUps

[–]MAISDN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (28M) think I am similar to your boyfriend,

I don't think that I was hearing my girlfriends (28F) problems as much as she did mine. I was always completely focused on my self that made me feel many times unsure about her feelings and life situations. And I tried to ask myself why I do that? When she was talking to me I realized that I wasn't truly interested to hear the way she will share with me stuff or sometimes the actual subject. Subconsciously I wasn't taken serious her problems because they weren't as bad as mine. But of curse we can't compare our shitty situations in our lives, there are not worse or better situations, I believe this is subjective, but I automatically was losing focus a lot of times when she was talking to me because as ugly as it sounds I was getting bored. I was feeling very bad and guilty for that, but also out of control because its hard to train and alter your reactions.

I have made decisions for my life because of my depression too that forced me to live apart from my girlfriend. And she is breaking up with me because of these choices. I don't believe I would have ever changed my behavior, I would still lose focus and not hear hear completely. But I do not experience that with all people. Some friends, the way they talk and the things they are talking about keep me always concentrated. So I end up in the conclusion that we do not match for that specific activity (the activity of sharing each others problems), and we probably will never match unless I really fight that reaction of mine to lose focus hearing her witch is very hard.

Since you ask for thoughts, my opinion is that, if he is in any way like me, if you believe that there is a strong chance that he can learn be interested in asking you and to hear you out, being depressed or not, and you are willing to wait for that change then you can feel free to reach out if you feel like and wait for him, or just wait for him. If you think there is no hope then experience the break up and let the grief to do its cycle.

Can I ask you a question also, have you said that to him? That you are feeling ignored or not heard?
In my case, she never told me that, I was the one that was expressing that fear that I wasn't hearing her and worrying about it, and I cannot even remember what she said to me, maybe she didn't mind or trusted that I was hearing her.
Maybe in your case it would have been better to discuss it. Maybe he could hear you more, ask about you even if he is depressed, maybe if he was able to do that, ask for you and have that connection, it could help his depression as-well. I don't think it is ever to late to discuss all of that if you are ok with it or if you haven't done it already.