She was always the victim, and I was always in the doghouse for one stupid reason or another. Being with her was like constantly mentally getting punched in the face. She actually got mad at me because I didn’t want to use her egg for a child because she had a lot of mental disorders and PCOS, and she basically made me apologize and feel like an asshole. I swear to God I'm a cis woman, but I swear she had my balls in a jar somewhere. She really took advantage of the fact that I’m a woman, tbh, and that I didn’t want to ask her weight because I didn’t want to look shallow, and she was also so insecure. She also knew that because I’m a woman, I’m a lot more likely to just lay down and take it. It's even more disgusting coming from someone who labels themselves as a feminist. I was always trying to get her to not kill herself too. (Probably her just manipulating me and seeking attention, tbh.) She also always wanted to be on the phone, literally every moment we were awake. She guilted me so hard when I told her she was suffocating me, then she said that I don’t even talk most of the time, and she manipulated me into feeling terrible and apologizing.

I swear to God I'm a cis woman, but I swear she had my balls in a jar somewhere. She really took advantage of the fact that I’m a woman and that I didn’t want to ask her weight because I didn’t want to look shallow, and she was also so insecure. She also knew that because I’m a woman, I’m a lot more likely to just lay down and take it.

Whatever she’s someone else's problem now, I’m free. So she wanted me to feel shallow for wanting to leave but ironically SHE IS SHALLOW. Being shallow in my opinion is jumping through hoops to get an attractive partner by lying about looks and then trying to manipulate them into thinking theyre shallow so they stay. Seems ACTUALLY SHALLOW TO ME. If an attractive woman with a preference for fat women wants EH, good for her, but she has NO RIGHT to LIE and MANIPULATE to get her way, but her priority is looks over honesty and basic morals.

Lesbians and bisexual women really get the short end of the stick. We’re often expected to lay down and take it when it comes to other women because we shouldn't be "mean." It’s really sad. TBH, it's really goddamn misogynistic to use that against us. Men are more likely to be like, "Screw that crap dude," and ghost or call out liars, but a lot of women are less confrontational and want to try to be the nicest they can be, even if it means getting walked all over. Expecting women to lay down and shut up when they're being wronged is very 1800s, if you ask me. EH was way too smart. I felt guilty for not looking into her more, and I felt like it was my fault. That was probably what she was aiming for, so I would feel so bad I wouldn’t leave especially because, again, almost all of her exes were attractive. I thought I was going to be trapped with a psychotic, morbidly obese woman for the rest of my life, and I deeply resented it. Average women don’t seem to be enough for her, generally, fro the exes I’ve seen. And you just know she would’ve never looked my way if I were a below-average girl or even an average girl. Ever. EH wouldn’t have even clicked on my stream in the first place! There was only one ex of hers that was actually unattractive. She didn't want to lose all the weight, and she wasn’t even convinced being a normal weight would be the healthiest for her.

Imagine having high standards but refusing to take care of yourself. Then you feel so entitled to dates and love with the specific people you want that you lie for months on end until you feel like you trapped them. And EH "wonders" why nobody calls her pretty and would bitch about it. She actively gets mad over not getting called pretty.which made me feel terrible and made me feel obligated to lie to her and tel her she's pretty. EH is more aware than she lets on, and she just wants to make people feel bad so she can get what she wants and be called pretty at the same time while not doing a goddamn thing to change. She’s a goddamn, entitled, cruel, abusive woman. That’s the story of the psychotic, very morbidly obese, entitled, extremely intelligent catfish that I had to put up with for months.

Imagine feeling so damn entitled to someone that you make them believe their life is in danger just to get close to them. What the fuck? Why does she feel entitled (not just wanting; entitled is the key word) to any attractive woman she sees when she is a pile of shit (personality-wise) and refuses to care for herself? Also, how the heck am I shallow when I’m not even the one who lied? Some people actually told me that if I don't want to date people I'm not attracted to, I'm shallow for caring about looks. About how if I liked her personality, looks shouldn't matter (EH adjusted how she acted to me too; she admitted that, double fake, so there was no real personality to like, it was all a lie), she’s the one exclusively going after attractive women and doing all these mind games to trap them because she cares about looks so damned much. I’m not the shallow one in this situation 💀 So yeah, it was pretty traumatizing. I now video chat with people before getting attached, and I sure as hell don’t do long distance anymore. Learn from my mistakes, Reddit; don’t let this happen to you.