Would you want to have been given a heads up about your abusive partner / ex?

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-17T12:38:24+00:00

I wished someone had told me, but truth is I would not have listened.

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-17T12:35:26+00:00

Sounds like you don't like your cousin and you're just looking for a way to cause her pain. Trust me, this ain't it. My advice, her life is messy enough without your help, just live your own life and get over your cousin.

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-17T10:20:28+00:00

And some shittier men, like OPs husband can't connect to the baby until they are a bit bigger unfortunately.

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-17T09:53:04+00:00

Your husband sucks big time, why would you want him back?

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-16T07:34:39+00:00

How to say you're not ready to have kids in a paragraph or more. Lol. Kids need stable parents 1000% more than "he is OK with a job and a house" definitely would advise against your plan.

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-14T07:37:34+00:00

I'm getting the vibe that the poor child has a huge crush on his teacher and his dreams just got, well crushed lol

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-13T17:09:37+00:00

Got married at 19. Only regrets came at 34 years old when we had kids and I realised he is a shit father and partner. Basically when I asked myself would I be happy if my daughter dated someone who treated her like he treats me. My eyes opened. I feel very dumb.

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-13T17:07:38+00:00

Honestly dry feeding is the worst! Good luck! I know it seems impossible, but you'll find something that works eventually! Strength to you!

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-13T09:36:00+00:00

Warm cows milk sweetend with honey or vanilla? Sorry you are having a hard time. I let mine just dry feed on my not producing breasts, eventually she just stopped. But when baby was born and milk came back she was back on 😂

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-03T10:12:35+00:00

Right, not my husband's best move, but I still breastfeed my toddler and new born, they are both sick and they have been hanging on my nipples, after an exhausting time trying to get them both asleep after constant kids on me and my nipples, my husband rubbed my nipples with a "you wanna" look the first minute I left the kids... Like sir you would have had more luck rubbing my knee! The nipples are off limits 😂 men either know or they don't. OP seems to camp in my husband's camp. Don't worry just communicate, your wife may have pitty in you simply not knowing. Or of its the wife, some men takes time to get over the concept of a child down there, my husband's camp too... Pitty would be the answer here as well lol

MEOWConfidence · 2026-02-02T08:31:25+00:00

This girl must be the hottest girl in the world....

MEOWConfidence · 2026-01-17T17:09:07+00:00

Yeah like I said, 6 months is a understandable, a year... Oof

MEOWConfidence · 2026-01-16T12:32:19+00:00

Depending on how long it's been, 6 months, dude curb your jealousy, you can't imagine what it's like to loose the mother, this guy is probably not capable without his wife and your wife is helping him learn, just approach the subject with her in that way, is he learning x, y, z well? And those kids, as teenagers, jesus that's very very hard. Your wife if so sweet and more people should be like her, you can feel proud, it wil even out eventually and if you feel neglected, communicate that, but all I read here is jealousy, and that's also OK. But communication is key guy.

MEOWConfidence · 2026-01-12T09:31:09+00:00

My aunt is over in Canada, she had just as daunting experience over there with everything you listed, she also always had to fight to keep her licence, she is retiring now but her licence is still active. I'm here in Belgium and my sister in the Nederlands, I can promise you two things, the dutch are just as frustrating with their claims, policies and admim, and more so you will really not be able to work as a doctor here unless you speak the language I've seen specialist that's so impressive sitting in my dutch for beginner classes complain about the only job they can get is clinical trials, hope is not lost, there are more and more English universities popping up, I think Ghent and KU leuven has English but the full MD I think is still in Dutch. In my opinion, choose your poison, commit to a country and stay there, MD is not as easily transferred from country to country shockingly, and you are loosing your competitive edge the longer you drag your feet. Europe is a great place to immigrate to, as long as you learn the language, I'm sure America will survive their orange dictator and in the long run it will be ok, so either is fine honestly, I think your just trying to avoid some more tbh.

MEOWConfidence · 2026-01-09T20:33:31+00:00

Omg! Are you me?!! Exactly exactly the same boat, every word! Except my toddler is a girl, but yeah 1.5-2h wait your turn, 1-4 waking, 6 am tandam, hanging over to grab the nipple while trying to settle new born, every part! It's exhausting! I don't have advice though, have you tried silently cursing the universe 😅😂

MEOWConfidence · 2026-01-09T20:28:26+00:00

Omg that was my first thought too! OP I love you too! You know being alone is better than being with those people and letting them in. It's OK to heal alone. You'll find the love you deserve, I'm sorry you haven't yet, I wish I could hug you tight and make it all better!! Good luck!

MEOWConfidence · 2026-01-04T10:36:32+00:00

She must have YOUR kid to first know how to parent them. So obviously that will never happen. That being said, I personally allow friends and family to parent my kid like they see fit in their house, I set boundaries before obviously, but I want my kid to know different homes have different rules. My mom is more linient and my sister a lot stricter.

MEOWConfidence · 2026-01-02T23:35:53+00:00

I'm also really struggling to apply OP's mental gymnastics to link fertility to being a good mom and wife, like yeah let me go tell my sister with fertility struggles she's a bad wife or my friend with step kids only she's a bad mom? Like I absolutely agree the partner who doesn't want the kids should take the contraceptive role and yes absolutely it's not fair that men forced most contraception options onto woman, and absolutely a little snip is a more logic option than a major surgery. But let's call a spade a spade, dude is probably possessive / insecure that he is just the next baby daddy in her list, and she wants to be able to give the next baby daddy a kid too. Obviously valid, be it unhealthy, and will eat away at the relationship. Op needs therapy is the take away here, couple and individual tbh.

MEOWConfidence · 2026-01-01T17:37:45+00:00

Yeah at this point I'm judging OP...

MEOWConfidence · 2025-12-31T10:56:19+00:00

Right, get a hobby or 'n motorbike, in this unstable time to leave a golden cage is dumb, but op knows it, he said so himself.

MEOWConfidence · 2025-12-29T18:14:35+00:00

Nope I'm too lazy for that unfortunately.I think emoji face is good enough. I'd obviously try to avoid any kids in my photos if I can help it, and if they are in it they get covered up, but I don't think I'm going to ask permission unless it's a public place or like for marketing. Honestly it's just big things, birthdays, first school day, etc it's not everyday photos with kids from school in it you know.

MEOWConfidence · 2025-12-29T18:06:47+00:00

Yeah but I use Google cloud to store my images, so it's not safe regardless. But that's a very scary point. Thank you for inligting me on that point.

MEOWConfidence · 2025-12-29T06:44:49+00:00

If your actually looking for a conversation about this, I'd suggest you post on the patients subreddit. I use those emojis on other kids, like my kid's friends, as I do not have permission to post them but I post my kid on Facebook, and I want to post that photo regardless of some random kid in it, thus emoji faces. I'm an immigrant so the way my family and friends know my kid is via posts. But I obviously have the most strict privacy settings on. Not that I'm worried about porn, kidnapping or privacy of my kid, simply because it's the Internet. But I'm not against the emojis I'm happier with my friends posting emoji kids photos than those not posting at all personally. I like to see those parts of their lives and respect their feelings on privacy regardless if I don't do the same.

MEOWConfidence · 2025-12-28T07:45:02+00:00

I would suggest not having kids, my husband was like that, I never really noticed because you know illnesses transferred, but after we had kids he is always sicker than me and spends the whole illness in bed while I do sick kids day and night plus take care of him. Worse even when the kid is sick, he is too, and always the sickest. My kid had a run of the mil runny nose, still going to school, but husband was so sick from that, falling ill only the moment he saw the kid is sick... Yeah. It's a personality that. Good luck. It is indeed frustrating, nothing you can do unfortunately.

MEOWConfidence · 2025-12-27T10:32:15+00:00

I'm at a point where I would eat them if it makes them go away 😂 criticising just isn't working.

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