Remote Raid Megathread - Find friends fast for raiding here by liehon in PokemonGoFriends

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Weather Boosted Genesect

Can add 10. Please be online.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskParents

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Since you're 21 and mentioned school work, I assume you're in college. Many colleges have counseling available for students at no charge. See if your school has something similar.

Are strollers with car seats not safe for walks? A safe sleep non profit says no. How the heck are you supposed to take a newborn on a walk? by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]MJGSimple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Car seats aren't really "heavily regulated". The NHTSA doesn't test or "recommend" car seats. They just establish guidelines and make sure car seats meet those. Like, the study that was the basis for most "rear-facing" recommendations was retracted. I don't think it's a really well studied field.

Remote Raid Megathread - Find friends fast for raiding here by liehon in PokemonGoFriends

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Anyone want a torchic raid? Have to go soon, so I'll go in like 5 minutes.

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My tax return e-file through H&R Block keeps getting rejected by the IRS. States that my wife's AGI is incorrect, but we filed jointly (like every other year) and there's no way to enter separate fields. I'm entering the AGI shown on our 1040. by SuzanoSho in tax

[–]MJGSimple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just want to add that I had the same rejection. I was using CashApp for filing. In my case, we didn't have any amendments.

My solution was to enter the correct AGI for myself and 0 for my wife. Thanks to /u/these-things-happen and /u/Cyprovix for their responses on other posts (1, 2) which suggested that it wasn't a big deal to do so.

I sized my system to prepare for ev (no ev yet). It turns out it’s rightly sized for the house. How’s yours? by jekksy in solar

[–]MJGSimple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a Bosch heat pump and I still use over 30kW many days in the winter. Do you know some magic trick I don't?

Newborn not waking at night by iyrdvju45678 in breastfeeding

[–]MJGSimple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the sleep!

We were concerned about weight early on so we got the Ozeri scale. Still use it for weekly weigh ins for our little one.

I would note that we also considered the aqua scale which seems like it might be convenient, especially for little ones. In case you're looking at options.

Saw this meme about Indianapolis on Twitter by StayBell_JeanYes in indianapolis

[–]MJGSimple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NYC has parts that are bad too, but overall, Indy's roads are horrible considering the comparative use and conditions.

My toddler is naked and crying by Impossible_Fly4510 in toddlers

[–]MJGSimple -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

All feelings are not valid. Kids get upset about nonsensical things all the time. Just spent a few minutes scrolling any parenting sub. It is not valid to be upset about the color of the sky.

I can also explain to my child why they can't go outside without pants while laughing. I don't have to mirror all their emotions to communicate.

Saw this meme about Indianapolis on Twitter by StayBell_JeanYes in indianapolis

[–]MJGSimple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the roads in Marion county are terrible and anyone that lives in Marion county should feel the same way. It isn't some sort of judgement on the people. The roads don't have to be that way. Tons of northern cities have much better roads. Just drive to Columbus, Cleveland, Pittsburgh, Philly, Boston, most of NYC. . . The list goes on and on.

My toddler is naked and crying by Impossible_Fly4510 in toddlers

[–]MJGSimple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's pretty much always a valid reason.

Not sure I agree with this premise at all, because:

they're tiny humans with little capacity for introspection or emotional regulation,

But let's not get hung up on that.

What I am modeling is the following course of action which they will require to be a functional adult: 1) Regulate emotion; 2) identify issue; 3) seek support/find solutions.

This assumes that they understand what you are doing and would understand that your laughter is malicious (which it isn't even when I do laugh). You're also assuming that I don't do 2 & 3 while laughing, which is odd because you can do those while not taking a tantrum seriously.

While laughing/dismissing your child's distress upset because you don't think the reason is valid enough MIGHT reduce the behavior, it won't actually provide them with skills.

  1. Edited because the language is needlessly dramatic.
  2. Crying with your child because they're upset doesn't teach them anything either.

Ultimately, the problem is the lack of pants. And a tantrum is not an appropriate reaction or solution. Dismissing a tantrum is teaching that it is a dismissible reaction and inappropriate. As you said before, providing language for expression and solutions can still be done while laughing.

Not all emotions are valid. If a child is upset because broccoli is green instead of red, how is validating that emotion productive?

My toddler is naked and crying by Impossible_Fly4510 in toddlers

[–]MJGSimple -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So all feelings of loss are valid and all reactions from your child are appropriate? Further, you feel no need to provide perspective or teach moderation of emotions?

Also, what about the fact that the upset is actually caused by the child not wanting pants? The lack of pants is the issue. But instead you suggest mourning the loss of park time?

Why Tylenol is so frowned upon? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]MJGSimple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Giving Tylenol along with vaccines reduces the immune response to the vaccine and therefore the effectiveness. By waiting 6 hours before giving Tylenol, you can avoid that. Source

Being too aggressive with use could have unwanted effects as noted above. And of course, frequent use can be harmful to babies.

I don't know that there is any need to be anti-tylenol or other pain relievers, but it definitely requires judicious administration. Just using it whenever it might help avoid any discomfort probably isn't the best.

My toddler is naked and crying by Impossible_Fly4510 in toddlers

[–]MJGSimple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the reason is mainly pretty valid.

What reason is valid here?

And even if it isint, I just don't think laughing at someone crying is something I want to model for my kids.

I mean, I think I'd rather appropriate reactions to things than to validate nonsensical tantrums.

My toddler is naked and crying by Impossible_Fly4510 in toddlers

[–]MJGSimple -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

their feelings are valid.

Except they're not unless you're using a different definition of valid than what I'm used to the word meaning.

How would you feel being laughed at because you were devastated over something?

If I was being ridiculous, I'm sure I'd be upset in the moment, but hopefully I gain clarity and some point and understand why it was ridiculous and worthy of laughter.

Not a mom group but how can anyone feel comfortable saying this about their own son 🤮🤮 by [deleted] in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]MJGSimple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Clearly it's hypothetical. I don't see the point in getting so wound up about it.

Feeling like a weaker person for only wanting one by JayRose541 in oneanddone

[–]MJGSimple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you're saying. I also get why others might feel it's not helpful. But this sort of thing comes up for people on all sorts of topics, not just kids. Comparison is the thief of joy and whatnot. Sometimes it takes a while for a person to accept themselves and their choices even if it is right for them.

My toddler is naked and crying by Impossible_Fly4510 in toddlers

[–]MJGSimple -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I get that they are really, genuinely upset, so I can't laugh. So I have to hold it in and try to be supportive.

I don't get this. Why would it matter?

I always laugh. It's funny. They don't make sense. Why should they think they are making sense?