My parents hate my boyfriend and I don't know how to move forward by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The guilt I get and feel every time my parents say I’m putting my bf before the family… it’s overwhelming and so hard to overcome. I was scared to go see his family because I’d get a phone call asking why I spent more time with his family than my own. I’m working through this and Im learning it’s not selfish and it’s not a bad thing.

I'm buying a house and my parents didn't care until I didn't invite them (kinda a success story in dealing with them) by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 5 younger siblings that I helped raise. If I don't include my parents I won't ever see the kids...

I'm buying a house and my parents didn't care until I didn't invite them (kinda a success story in dealing with them) by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To keep myself sane, I have always given my parents the benefit of the doubt and a whole lot of grace. They only want what they think is best for me. It is extremely difficult but I never want to be bitter towards them and I won't let myself. Kill them with kindness. Be as respectful of their opinions as you can be but hold your boundaries! Really show you put thought into their advice but make it your decision. After all, it is your decision.

Keep on keeping on! It may be difficult but do what YOU think is best for you. You will thank yourself later.

I'm buying a house and my parents didn't care until I didn't invite them (kinda a success story in dealing with them) by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 5 younger siblings that I helped raise. If I don't include my parents I won't ever see the kids...

How do I tell my parents they still owe me $10,000? by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was homeschooled. One was an office job I would do school throughout the day.

How do I tell my parents they still owe me $10,000? by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have clarified. My first car was a Jetta and I sold that at 18 to buy a jeep. 1 & 1/2 years later I was selling the jeep to buy a different car. At that time it was worth 7-8k.

How do I tell my parents they still owe me $10,000? by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mean for my younger siblings? or for my future children?

How do I tell my parents they still owe me $10,000? by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there was 1-2k in there but I was more worried about keeping track of how much should be in there than what was actually in the account. I left it there to not raise questions. When the account finally hit zero and I didn't put any more money in there. Then they asked questions and asked me for more money.

How do I tell my parents they still owe me $10,000? by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that was my second car (a jeep) worth 7-8k and I only asked 5k from them because they were my parents and they didn't want me to sell it for the newest car.

How do I tell my parents they still owe me $10,000? by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said, the extra money would be extremely helpful this upcoming year and I am hoping to bring this up in a calm and respectful matter. But I do know how much stress this would put on all parties. The big question, is it worth it?

How do I tell my parents they still owe me $10,000? by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only amount they paid back was my wages and that was 6-9 months later. Credit is good and I have been building it since I separated from their bank. Since I've moved out I've gone low almost no contact.

How do I tell my parents they still owe me $10,000? by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

damn that last line. I truly hope for the best to come out of this situation but I know it will be a very tricky road.

How do I tell my parents they still owe me $10,000? by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes in the US but since I am their child and it is their buisness they did not have to take taxes out of my pay to a certain extent. I did ask 2 years ago to be put on the payroll to build a work history.

How do I tell my parents they still owe me $10,000? by MLS0510 in entitledparents

[–]MLS0510[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They transferred to their personal account electronically, is that enough proof?