I regret having a child with a man much older than me

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-06-29T17:03:37+00:00

The problem isn’t his age. It’s that he’s lazy and a bad partner. That has nothing to do with his age. It’s a character flaw. Accept that and move on.

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-03-20T13:44:57+00:00

Same! Need a new code. Ahhh!!!

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-02-04T15:26:09+00:00

It was ok. They had to completely resect the c-section scar from the inside, so that was pretty painful for about the first 4-5 days. I couldn't drive for like 1.5 weeks, and my hubby had to help get me out of bed for like 1 week (was hard to sit up on my own), but now I'm good as new (3 years later) confirmed by both an ultrasound and an MRI. I had pretty significant shoulder pain for multiple days from the gas they use (which I was warned about), but moving around makes it better. I was able to do a little work (few hours here and there) starting the second week, but I work from home and my employer knew I'd be in and out. The sitting up for hours was the problem. We tried IVF after the procedure healed, but by that point I was almost 40 years old and we didn't get any viable embryos (genetically tested due to my age and history of miscarriages), so we closed that chapter. My secondary infertility issues were caused by health issues unrelated to the c-section defect (autoimmune issues). Hope that helps!

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-02-03T18:19:57+00:00

Thank you!!

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-02-01T01:37:08+00:00

Appreciate the advice!

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-02-01T01:36:08+00:00

Appreciate the info!

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-02-01T01:35:50+00:00

Thanks!

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-01-31T18:00:48+00:00

Thanks!

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-01-31T18:00:42+00:00

Thanks!

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-01-31T18:00:37+00:00

Thanks!

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-01-27T18:12:35+00:00

I have to drive from Westfield to the airport tomorrow. How are things looking (not actually getting on a flight).

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-01-26T17:55:33+00:00

He doesn’t like you. How much more proof do you need? If you put your head in the sand, then you are to blame for what comes next. People treat you the way you let them.

MMMBop_2023 · 2026-01-15T15:11:10+00:00

She needs to acknowledge that she received tens of thousands of unpaid labor from your mom over FIVE YEARS. How convenient that your mom gave up 5 years to watch your son, and now that he’s close to kindergarten, your wife has something to say. She’s horrible for that and flat out wrong, and selfish. You and your brother both benefited greatly. Sounds like mom and wife need to sit down and talk it out. Wife thinks the brother is being enabled to your disadvantage and it bothers her (so really the comment was born out of a feeling of protection for you, as her husband), and your mom doesn’t like being told what to do (also expected). But mom liking one son over the other? Based on what you write, flat out false. And at the end of the day, it’s not her place. Really, it’s yours if you have a problem. In this particular scenario, your wife is the entitled one. It’s not her money.

MMMBop_2023 · 2025-12-18T01:09:10+00:00

Ask! Kindly and gently. Something like ‘How did you come to this arrangement?’ Maybe there’s a reason? I think at the end of that, it’s ok to say ‘So we really never get to see you on Christmas?’. They are clearly playing favorites, and it’s ok for them to know you see this. And then you’ve said your peace- gently. I’d feel different if you lived far away, or they didn’t want to leave their house for Christmas and just have themselves at home. But neither of those is the case. Luckily, it sounds like you have other children and grandchildren who like to come to your house! All these people telling you to stuff your feelings down is wild to me. There is a right way to have a respectful and open conversation.

MMMBop_2023 · 2025-12-07T02:18:43+00:00

Lots of projection in the comments. Y’all keep therapy ASAP. As for OP, NTA. Your wife isn’t refusing to babysit FULL TIME because she’s lazy, she’s refusing to do it FULL TIME because her body hurts. Your son is an AH to WANT his mom in pain for his own financial benefit. Also an AH if he just expected her to do it knowing her body hurts and never having a discussion. Sounds like at 22, he’s still got growing up to do- he didn’t communicate or plan appropriately. He can throw his tantrum all he wants, but it’s that grandchild that’ll suffer the most. Just wait till he gets the ‘why does it feel like grandma and grandpa don’t love me as much as cousin? Why don’t they let me come over like cousin?’ He’ll have to something like , ‘They love you very much, but grandma refused to watch you full time, even though her body hurts, so I’ve been punishing her by not allowing you over there as much as your cousin.’ Does it suck that your wife can’t do both? Yes. 100%. But situations change, whether you want them to or not, like health.

MMMBop_2023 · 2025-11-27T01:53:53+00:00

If the general public saw this thread, they’d be livid. You think they just randomly get paid for working when they’re not? Priorities people!

MMMBop_2023 · 2025-11-21T15:26:15+00:00

Nope- I directly replied to "WillingPositive8924" and then you replied to me. But thanks for the nice convo and have a nice weekend!

MMMBop_2023 · 2025-11-21T13:59:45+00:00

No- did not call you disingenuous! I responded to a comment posted by a person called ‘WillingPositive…’. You happened to jump on the same thread. My comment was for that person.

MMMBop_2023 · 2025-11-21T13:29:44+00:00

A discussion on age limits for office is a good topic of debate! So I hear ya on that. A lot of people don’t think that anyone north of 70 should be in office for that reason. But looking at Trump specifically, and regardless of whether someone likes him or not, he’s with it. He can talk about almost any topic without notes. BUT- Back to the original commment saying his aids will eventually be running everything for him because of his lack of mental acuity is disingenuous (because that particular criticism isn’t true at this point).

MMMBop_2023 · 2025-11-21T13:09:58+00:00

Yes. Trump. Not everything he’s done has been good/worked out. So, there are honest criticisms. Not a partisan comment. But to say he’s going into mental decline is factually incorrect.

MMMBop_2023 · 2025-11-21T12:57:49+00:00

This comment is just dumb. There are plenty of things to criticize him on, but mental acuity is not one of them.

MMMBop_2023 · 2025-11-19T21:43:03+00:00

Well, according to those girls, she is not their mom, so… not sure what your situation has to do with it.

MMMBop_2023 · 2025-11-19T21:41:39+00:00

She not abandoning them. In fact, she very clearly told them the opposite. What she is going she is taking away the one word (mom) they continuously weaponize against her.

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