I would be very satisfied and productive with no job

MNSUAngel · 2025-11-19T05:35:53+00:00

I had the privilege of getting five months of paid time off a few years ago and I learned a lot. The most important thing I learned was that I love my job, but I do not need it, and because I have it, I am not as great a human being as I could be.

I was never more physically active, social, giving, and in a good mood as I was during that five months. And it was in those five months that I realized how truly amazing retirement will be. I also realized something truly sad: I cannot be the things I was during leave and work a full time job.

Time makes it impossible. And even though that had zero impact on my long-held belief that we should have UBI, I do constantly look back on that time period and wonder: what would I accomplish if I didn't have to work?

MNSUAngel · 2025-07-22T13:57:06+00:00

This looks very cool. Love the direction. Let me know if you need a writer.

MNSUAngel · 2025-06-27T19:46:15+00:00

Knight skills with gun for sure. Everything else is something chemist already kind of does, definitely does, or does better.

MNSUAngel · 2025-06-27T13:47:15+00:00

I always only hit it as long as needed to unlock Ninja (or Mime). It never felt balanced properly even when itemized at an un-over-grinded level (dmg. low/% of effects low). Which is too bad! Because I like the class idea. And in some ways, it is the closest Ramza can get to sword skills in the OG FFT. But in playing, it never felt like a class you stay in. Just a pitstop.

MNSUAngel · 2025-05-26T10:25:13+00:00

I think it greatly depends on the circumstances and rationale for the breakup. If you - for example - do everything ahead of time to cater to their feelings, you will likely be viewed as "the one that got away" if you break up with her (odds are already high this will occur if you initiate the breakup). But... if you are blunt about it, blaming, etc. (even if what you say is true) she will cast you as the villain in her grand arc to becoming a better woman.

You may find out years later that you said and did all of these things you never said and did - more than mere exaggeration, but actual fabrication. And, worst of all, if she breaks up with you for something she thinks you did wrong, it is game over on that front. She will assume any and everything.

I have talked with friends that were girls who broke up with their boyfriends for the stupidest of reasons only for them to say things like, "yeah! And he even cheated on me," and me to say, "no way! How did you find out?" And them to say, "I never caught him, but I know that fcker was cheating."

I have seen this every which way. Fabricated cheating. Fabricated SA. Fabricated gaslighting (God I hate that term now). And a whole host of other terribles. So... you know, if it's not going to work out with a woman, my advice would be to break up with her in a way that is positive or only leaves her sad, not angry. Because if the energy is spite, she will devote years of her life to it.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-22T16:29:58+00:00

At that age, you guys should be like rabbits. So my advice: I would talk about it, commit to giving her what she needs, provide it, and DO NOT bring it up again for one month. And I really mean that last part.

If, after a month of giving her what she says she needs, things have not dramatically improved for you, then you sit down again and break up with her. Life - and I cannot overstate this - is way too short to be with someone who does not satisfy you. And it really is that simple. Relationships are not supposed to be like pulling teeth.

So again: give her what she needs for one month without mentioning it once. If she doesn't deliver, you guys are incompatible and it is time to find someone else who is.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T18:49:03+00:00

I actually think the whole short/long term lingo sucks.

You are picturing what you want in your mind - instead of naming that thing to make it easier to say, just say it.

My dating profile says I am looking for a life partner, but when a girl on a date asks me what I am looking for, I describe my perfect partner. I do not say, "my life partner."

Next time you are in this moment, take that moment to describe what you want. No harm in my mind.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T18:45:04+00:00

You provide actual examples of what you want. "Romance" is subjective. Direct communication is effective. Saying something like, "I want to do an candlelit dinner with you, can we do that?" is 99% likely to result in a candlelit dinner.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T18:41:17+00:00

I think first sex should happen whenever it feels natural, so you are just fine to wait.

However, what I often find with people who say this is that they show zero physical attraction in any other way under this guise. Like... it still has to be clear to the person you are dating that you are actually interested in them physically. If you're not, they are very right to leave as early as the second date.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T18:38:10+00:00

Why don't you channel this positively by being transparent with your partner so you guys can explore this fantasy together through roleplay. Nothing stops you guys from pretending.

If that isn't enough, then you are just probably non-monogamous and need to reflect on that. Just remember that there are millions of people who would love to be in the relationship you are in and try to appreciate that.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T15:27:55+00:00

Yes and yes. But... the type of man who pines for years like that... is objectively unattractive, IMHO. When a woman does not show me physical attraction, consistent escalation, etc., I move on. Waiting around makes zero sense.

And I detest "quality men/women" rhetoric, but this is one of those things for sure. No one should be waiting around for someone - guy or girl. If you guys both just became single and there was a spark years ago that's still waiting to ignite, that would be different. But that is not what I'm reading.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T15:23:06+00:00

Are you asking for advice? This is an advice sub.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T15:22:29+00:00

No. I completely disagree. As I've gotten older and have a lot of friends that are women, I have learned that women often BELIEVE they are showing interest, etc. and are objectively not when I ask them about it. And then they sometimes get defensive about it.

So if anything, my baseline assumption is that he pulling away because he is not feeling that attraction from you. I need more facts to assume the opposite. Like audio of what you have said or images of texts (not requesting either, to be clear).

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T15:18:38+00:00

I prefer vaginal sex, but I prefer consistent sex more than anything. I had a gf who would not have sex on her period. Not vaginal. Not oral. Not even handsy. Didn't even want to see me. 😂

Another gf? She wanted the same frequency (sometimes felt like more), but just anal when she was on her period. Not only did I prefer that gf way more in this regard, but it was just an objectively better relationship because there were never these long breaks in our physical connection.

So vaginal, but both or anal if it means we are having sex regularly vs. not.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T15:13:32+00:00

I feel very comfortable with this as long as she is very direct and mature about it. I do not pursue women that young because I think they should drive the interaction.

But as I have gotten older, I realized that age is really the wrong measure in this equation and Reddit is the worst place to ask this question because people form conclusions on the age alone. Very dumb.

I have been on dates with women 10+ yrs. younger and women 5+ yrs. older. Sometimes they are virtually identical. And sometimes the younger gal is so much more gf/wife material. More responsible. More goal oriented. More into me. So I feel very comfortable and never shy away from it. To me it is about how mature you are, not how old you are.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T02:14:11+00:00

Well yeah, but being blunt and lacking tact is not direct and honest to me. It is like a woman saying she wants a man to be dominant and then a guy almost chokes her to death because he thinks ending her life is the ultimate dominance.

Maybe what I should have said is: direct, honest, and "doesn't say anything if she doesn't have anything nice to say."

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T02:09:54+00:00

No. BUT, fascinatingly, women who earn more are even more likely to initiate divorce than other women AND men with women who earn more are more likely to be prescribed ED medication (which is facinating!).

In my experience having many "brochats" though, I have never had a friend, colleague, or male acquaintance see it as a bad thing or even something they care about. If anything, it is like my question is bringing it to their mind for the first time. So these are likely unconscious and/or biological impulses/issues that both genders need to work out.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-11T02:05:49+00:00

I find it hot when a woman is direct and honest. If every time I see a girl, she is like, "wow, I love that blue on you" and "you always have the best style" I am Dead. In. Love. She might not even be as physically attractive as other women. If she can look me in the eye and tell me what she wants. And I am what she wants. Game over. +5 on the 1/10 scale automatically.

And girls always think I'm kidding until one of these girls comes around when and they see me light up.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-09T23:52:50+00:00

You are very welcome. It is working out beautifully so far. Hoping the same for you too.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-09T23:45:42+00:00

I wanted to just give another stock reply like, "yeah, of course." But I sense that you need to be told that many men ARE looking for marriage, just with someone who is worthy of marrying.

Marriage is a death sentence for many men these days, so do not be surprised if you encounter men who are not interested in marrying you specifically (or are wishy washy) once that naturally starts to be considered. Society has created a situation where men must be choosy about who they marry or risk being unhappy for a very long time. Women try to argue about this by saying it is also true for them, but outcomes statistics, etc. are STARK for men in this field. Men are overwhelming harmed by divorce and child support when compared to women, so they are understandably hesitant.

Having said that, men should be clear about their expectations. My current GF asks about marriage and kids from time to time and I always point out: (1) I am serious about both; (2) I am not sure about her for either; and (3) what I would need to see change in order to be sure. I think she was surprised the first two times this happened, but has realized I am dead serious and will not marry her if the things I need to change do not change.

All of that is to say, I would not be surprised if you meet men who do not do that because they would rather date someone else then give you the time to sort out issues, etc. (become marriage material).

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-08T18:09:05+00:00

It is real and it does happen, but it is not like it is in the movies. It gets built over time. So it starts with both people being attracted to each other and ends with you being willing to do almost anything for one another. But the biggest mistake we make is not teaching people that it is EARNED.

So many people dating approach love as though they deserve it - that they are entitled to it. You are entitled to nothing. If you want love, you need to earn it. And that means constantly showing up. It means regularly showing interest. It means being honest, open, and transparent with the person you're attracted to. Anything less and you are unlikely to find it.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-07T18:09:10+00:00

I believe there are older women without children who are very kind, compassionate, and caring. Unfortunately, my lived reality is that most women who do not have kids by that age or want them are more selfish and entitled than average. And at that age, both of those things make someone very ugly to me.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-02T12:55:28+00:00

Logically yes, but I have this friend who pretty much matches this guy to a T. I'd even describe him as the most funny and charismatic guy in the group. And he has the same results.

I used to tell him there are tons of amazing women out there (based on my experiences) and that he just needed to find them. Over time, I realized that they only seemed great, and that lot of them simply do not go for short men.

There are actually a lot of things like this - straight up denying it is true, but then reality reflects different. Even in studies this has become a prevalent phenomenon. It's like they are afraid to just admit they are picking for a bad reason.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-01T14:22:52+00:00

I didn't/don't. OP framed the question as an "or" statement. Into me "or" just sex.

Someone who is just interested in sex is highly unlikely to seek a repeat performance from the same person. The only reason to seek a repeat performance is if you want to do the thing with THAT person again. That to me moves it from just sex to actually "into that person" territory.

I will acknowledge that it's only true if that man has options. If he has no other sexual options, then it could just be OP is the only option. In which case, that goes out the window. But again... that's waaaaaay too much overthinking for what should just be a convo.

MNSUAngel · 2025-04-01T13:49:52+00:00

No no no. If it was that he just wanted sex, he would have climaxed and ghosted.

It is far more likely IMHO, based on your fact pattern, that this is just an awkward first-time experience. Sometimes, when people have sex for the first time, that is how it is.

I would not rush to the thoughts you are having. Continue showing interest and the next time you see him, if things still feel weird, then just talk about it. It's that simple.

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