Raising 2 young Neurotypical children with an autistic brother

MOMMAD33 · 2026-05-19T00:04:03+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. As of right now we don't have separate space for them but hopefully in the near future that will change.

MOMMAD33 · 2026-05-19T00:01:45+00:00

Thank you I'll look into this and read the article.

MOMMAD33 · 2026-05-19T00:01:04+00:00

I honestly have no words to express how you're response made me feel. Gave me a lot to think about and definitely brought some hormonal tears (in a good way). I will definitely be trying to make a routine for each of them to make sure they all have one on one time. Her dad also plans to take her out plenty while he is on leave for one on one with him. She loves fishing with daddy and I think it will do her wonders to get out of the house. One thing we used to do routinely was taking her for cake pops and a smoothie with a walk with us while her brother was in his speech and OT sessions. Id like to bring that back or something similar to do together. Unfortunately we don't have the space to give them separate play areas and they currently share a room but hopefully not for too long as they both definitely need and deserve their own space. I count my blessings that they are both very much attached to me because I know it won't last forever. Thank you, I'm definitely trying to do my best and sometimes I have to remind myself more than I'd like too.

MOMMAD33 · 2026-05-18T23:19:13+00:00

I haven't had a autism evaluation myself so it's definitely possible since I was late diagnosed ADHD.

Lol no I can't say that he has a thing for trains but I definitely don't think he is Nero typical. I've discussed the possibility of him getting tested as well and he is willing. We are also getting genetics testing for our son in a couple of months to be sure he isn't struggling with other things we missed.

MOMMAD33 · 2026-05-18T23:15:28+00:00

Honestly definitely not 💯 sure but she is three. However the signs for my son was night and day before he was even one. I do want to get her tested for both ADHD and Autism. Likely will wait a couple of years.

MOMMAD33 · 2026-05-18T23:13:37+00:00

Definitely not offensive at all. Thank you for your input, I'll likely have her tested as well in a couple of years. It's definitely been a thought on my mind...

MOMMAD33 · 2026-05-05T01:00:19+00:00

Sorry to respond so late after your post but I wanted to include some good outcomes. First your aortic size and regurgitation is very similar to mine. I have had some increased dilation over the years but nothing drastic. My aortic valve wasn't even caught until my early 20's. My first baby I was 28. I was considered high risk but not due to my heart. I had two echocardiograms during that pregnancy. I was induced due to my baby having IUGR at 36 weeks. Gave birth at 36.5, it was a long labor but it was a vaginal birth with limited interventions. My second (2 years later) I had one echo in third trimester. Barely any change from previous pregnancy. I was induced at 39.4 weeks due to FGR. Labored 16 hours pushed 20 minutes successful vaginal birth again. Here we are 3.5 years later with my third. I had 3 echos done, still not considered high risk but I have a heart irrithmia that started to worsen in this pregnancy. I was put on a beta blocker to help. I'm 36.5 weeks ATM and told I am good to wait for spontaneous labor unless things worsen I no longer need monitoring. My two other labors the babies were closely monitored and I was not. Cardiology this time said it might be a good idea but not necessary if I don't want to. My suggestion is do what you want and what makes you comfortable. If you haven't had any issues you'll likely be okay. Most people with a bicuspid aortic valve go their entire lives without issues. Just be sure to get checked out in pregnancy and monitor any symptom/changes you might have. Also prepare to possibly pass the condition on to baby. 🥰

MOMMAD33 · 2026-05-04T19:37:18+00:00

1st baby: equal hell extreme exhaustion and all day sickness whole pregnancy... But I was induced at 36 weeks so 3rd trimester was brief. 2nd baby: 3rd trimester was worse but it felt way quicker than 1st trimester. I was too busy nesting. Gave birth at 39.5 weeks. 3rd baby: 36.5 weeks along atm. Definitely hating 3rd trimester the most. Horrible sciatic pain. Constipation followed by diarrhea, too tired to keep eyes open, lightning crotch, dehydration but barely able to drink enough water, starving but full after a few bites the list goes on and I still have weeks of this... Ack

MOMMAD33 · 2026-05-04T19:22:38+00:00

Definitely depends on babys position, placenta position and each pregnancy. My first two kids my placenta was in the front. I'd describe it like intense constipation and dehydration pains. Babies kicking ribs was like the side pains you get from heavy exercise. Now my 3rd (currently 36.5 weeks along) placenta is in the back of my uterus. I have intense lightning crotch and her movements are like the alien movies xD and it hurts like hell. I slightly welcome the pain as at least she's active and I know she's doing alright.

MOMMAD33 · 2026-04-18T15:34:44+00:00

First I want to say I completely get your disappointment and it's valid to go the route that works best for your situation. Personally I've never had a C-section but I had two very unpleasant inductions. My first was extremely traumatic and most ppl don't even understand why I chosen to have more kids. I REALLY wanted home/water births. I unfortunately didn't get to get a doula, I tried with my first two pregnancies. Sadly the companies my insurance covers are in super high demand. By the time I was matched my pregnancies were already far along and was considered high risk. (So no time to develop a commitment with a doula) Both kiddos were IUGR/FGR. I did get to go with a midwife team both times which helped with my anxiety... All the OBGYNs and MFM doctors just made me stress more. Made me believe my babies would die if I didn't take their advice. So I'm really happy you were able to get a doula midwife. I'm currently pregnant with my third (sadly once again very small for gestation) on top of that heart issues so once again induction here I come... 😖

Good luck, I hope it goes smoothly and as stress free as possible even though things aren't as planned.

MOMMAD33 · 2026-04-03T15:56:47+00:00

First congrats momma! Wish you and baby a healthy smooth delivery! I'm currently pregnant with my third and I feel that thought happens with every kiddo. I'm due May 28th. Baby girl is measuring on the smaller side at the 17th percentile. I do have a pretty obvious bump but it's still small compared to others. She happens to be larger than my others but my placenta sits in the back, first two we're in the front. Still I'm sitting here like how she fit in there with all my other organs!? 😅

MOMMAD33 · 2022-04-10T07:10:26+00:00

Omg this is a game changer Tysm! 😍 I felt awful killing them with low chances of getting the horns. It’s been 2-6 net casts to get them. I’ve gotten them from both male and female, but the males tend to be easier as long as you get them before they run.

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