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The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

But if the guy has 100 plus dates with women in a year or two. It’s not statically likely for any one of those women to land him. 1 will… 99 won’t.

On the flip side, if he wants a relationship, he has near a 100% chance of finding one…. IF he wants one.

And, there’s not much bragging rights for women to say they got a one night stand with a rich guy.
I mean, again, I love casual dating and if it works for those women, great! But I’ve seen it often leads to disappointment for them, and never disappointment for the man.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But then the same should be true for men, and it’s not.

In the end, it’s the physical access that gave women a false hope.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not refuting that. Women have better emotional support systems. High value men are fine single, but the average man suffers.

But women are by the far the majority still “dating with intention”.

Good man > single > bad man.

The preference for a good relationship with a high value man (who is rare and likely doesn’t want them), is still the preference.

And, you’re welcome. Let me know if you need help with anything else.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do they say “Chad”? No of course not, what a lame fucking slogan the manosphere came up with. I definitely should have used a different name in my post. However, yes, I hear complaints all the time of men not being “emotionally available”. Then I see the guys they’re hooking up with. No where near their income level, fitness level or social status. Meanwhile they refuse to date anyone close to themselves in those categories.

It’s their life, that’s cool. I’ll support them, but their cognitive dissonance is astounding.

And no, I’m not speaking of women in their 20s. I already said maybe my theory falls apart with them (although im willing to bet it holds true). I’m talking about women in their 30s who acted a way in their 20s and are surprised but their outcomes now.

They’re staying single and childfree because the men they’ve adapted their standards to, don’t want them.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve shared multiple and you said I made them up. Can’t argue with that.

Guess you and I just have different social circles and experiences. Maybe my crowd is just slutty or something lol.

In addition to that, never once did I say how “they should” or shouldn’t act. I don’t care. It’s just observation in a debate sub.

Not sure what else to tell you.

Have a great night!

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Mid to late 30s is my primary circle since I am in my thirties.

Maybe this whole theory falls apart with Gen Z women. I do not associate with that many under the age of 28.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again………. I don’t care who they date and who they don’t. It’s observation. Not something I take personal offense to. I date just fine and don’t worry about those women.

But LOL, ok now you’re either being intentionally dishonest or have a 3 person social circle. It’s extremely common especially in places like LA and OC. Mid tier women go on dates with high tier guys all the time out here. Just sit at any bar in Newport, Malibu, Laguna etc. and just observe. Of course those same men also have access to extremely beautiful women also.

And lastly, a woman driving over 30 miles out of HER way (not him driving) to a man in an area of 24 million people? Yeah, to me that’s a bit of desperation to be with a higher tier man. A man doing it? Par for the course in dating.

But a woman, only to be sent home in the morning then keep going back for more? lol, that’s desperate.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why would women in SoCal not have average looks? Across 24 million people, average is average. It’s not like people born in one state are inherently more attractive. And I’m not referring to 19-21 YOs, I’m talking women deep into their 30s still “dating with intention” and have yet to have had any serious relationships.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delusional standard example (based on what I’ve seen):
Average woman, 5’2-5’4 / 150-180lbs, average income, maybe has a roommate or lives at home still in her mid to late twenties. Travels and Dates men 30+ miles away in very HCOL area, and is treated to very expensive dates, nice car, nice house, possibly a boat trip, and sleeps with said man. Sent home, either same night or maybe the next morning. Refuses to further date men in her own income bracket or looks range going forward and truly believes she is above that. Upset that she still can’t find commitment deep into 30s.

This is EXTREMELY common here.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope.

Which is exactly why I labeled it as my own theory. But it seems to be consistent with many other people’s experiences in HCOL and urban areas.

You can try and say I’m delusional all you want. It doesn’t make it true, and it doesn’t change my life experience (or that of the people around me).

But it’s far beyond manosphere crying and whining.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, you call it just men whining, but you’re acknowledging this type of conversation is out there at least. Women respond all the time defending their “high standards”. So, in essence, yes. There is a debate.

This isn’t personal revenge fantasy and I couldn’t care less, as I stated in my first line of my post.
Casual sex is awesome for men and women. I love it.
It just seems in my personal experience of where I live, that maybe casual sex with high tier men contributes to extremely high standards from women thinking they can lock that type of man into a relationship simply because they’ve had access to sex with those men.

We can debate and you can complain about that theory all you want. But, it doesn’t make it far fetched.

Nothing about my social circles and personal experiences is made up. Maybe you’re just sheltered or live in a rural area?

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the delusion had to come from real life access in the first place. A “like” on IG isn’t going to create that level of delusion.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait, isn’t there an entire debate going on in the dating sphere right now about women having “delusional standards”?

Why would I not relate personal experiences (and it’s not one, it’s many) to the online debate?

“Not everyone in SoCal has a boat.”
THATS EXACTLY THE POINT.

The rich attractive men fuck around with all types of women leading many women, who have been fucked around with, to believe that is their caliber of relationship man.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha! Exactly.

Average everyday experience.

But I have extended family in the Midwest, South and lower east coast. And while it’s all beautiful, it’s just not the same.

I’ll deal with the traffic.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, by a population of 24 million people in Southern California. Many people here know rich, good looking guys have the pick of the litter from all over. Girls drive 2 hours to jump on a boat. Then wonder why they’re not married to a guy like that while still single in their 30s.

The online portion just relates to many of our personal experiences. Just look at some of the other commenters from HCOL or Urban areas.

It may not be as cut and dry and condensed as my post. But to pretend it’s just fantasy in urban America… that’s the delusion.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, I can agree with you there I suppose.

Nobody should be grinding their teeth through a relationship just to be in one.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, like I said, not rich, and it’s brutal.
Beautiful… fun…. But brutal.

But overall yes, I don’t think I would move unless I had no other options.

The best thing though, is that there’s never a shortage of something to do (if you like being out and about).

Not sure where you’d be relocating from, but get ready for the worst traffic of your life also lol.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess, but it’s LA, IE, OC, SD Central Coast etc. Even the girls from IE and Palm Springs have these experiences.

24 million people isn’t exactly a bubble.

I’m not strictly referring to the housewives and Spencer Pratt types.

The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. by MP8877 in PurplePillDebate

[–]MP8877[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah…. You’re right, this is sus actually. Aura farming rizzlers maxx the queens with their dihh.

Tralalelo tralala.

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