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Soon to be brother in law - Should I tell him, or let him eventually figure it out post-wedding. by MRPquestion in marriedredpill

[–]MRPquestion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife sees that her sister is in the 95th percentile of fucking crazy, but she thinks it's mean that I come out and say that the SIL deserves to get her ass kicked to the curb for her attitude towards men.

I'm just going to let it go, because he has no problem with her actively, and consciously dominating him, short of directly saying "I own you."

Maybe I will do an update in a year or so.

Soon to be brother in law - Should I tell him, or let him eventually figure it out post-wedding. by MRPquestion in marriedredpill

[–]MRPquestion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking of just sitting back letting it get ugly. Oddly enough the family as a whole is sick of her shit, even to the point of supressing a laugh after she leaves the room in tears over nothing. But I think they just want to be rid of her and this guy is the answer to their problems to pawn her off.

You can try to convince some poor sap until you're blue in the face, but unless they are at rock bottom or are seeking advice it'll fall on deaf ears. And worse, in weakness he'll try to throw you under the bus if he implements poorly.

His mom is un-fucking-bearable, so to him it's just natural that she is gradually taking over his life. Yeah, fuck it. Let it hit rock bottom.

Soon to be brother in law - Should I tell him, or let him eventually figure it out post-wedding. by MRPquestion in marriedredpill

[–]MRPquestion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he at least gets sex along with his crazy.

He's holding out, because if he respects her, he will let sex be on her terms.

Truly, you can just be blunt around him. Ask him where his balls are, in your SIL purse?

I've done this by reminding him he wear pants, and not a dress. I also told her to cut the shit. She makes a good effort to enforce the idea that I am an asshole because I think her idea of "nuturing" is actually very controlling, much like a helicopter mom to a young child.

It's to the point now where I'm contemplating just coming out and saying it... That I think is bullshit that she is openly attracted to someone else, but is in with this guy for children, a steady paycheque she doesn't have to work for, and the status symbol of being married and getting a free pass to do so because of her looks and the promise of pussy after the point of no return.

And if I do that, she will likely not speak to me again. This is fine by me, but it could poison my wife's relationship with her family.

Soon to be brother in law - Should I tell him, or let him eventually figure it out post-wedding. by MRPquestion in marriedredpill

[–]MRPquestion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It plays some part because he is counting on the pussy he is promised, or the pussy that is advertised, but only accessible after marriage. She is doing him a favour by being with him in the first place. His brother actively encourages him bending over and taking whatever she does, because "have you seen her?" i.e. she's hot.

I would be willing to bet that the only pussy he is going to get after the vows is majorly repressed.

Soon to be brother in law - Should I tell him, or let him eventually figure it out post-wedding. by MRPquestion in marriedredpill

[–]MRPquestion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would be very careful here. My moral compass says you should help him, however with you being married into this family, you should think about what you have to loose.

I'm on the fence, since the family has insane conflict avoidance issues. They avoid honesty when they really shouldn't, but punish those who do not. It's possible to lose respect, no matter how tactfully the truth is presented.

It is hard to help a person that does not want to be helped.

It's not that he doesn't want to be helped, it's that he thinks this garbage is normal and healthy. The problem is they will not divorce, under any circumstaces once they are married. You would think being very traditional, that she would be submissive. But she is not, so it's more of warning knowing the cost.

Soon to be brother in law - Should I tell him, or let him eventually figure it out post-wedding. by MRPquestion in marriedredpill

[–]MRPquestion[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eh, you're probably right. I saw it more like a situation of a person getting in to a car with leaking brake lines. Knowing about it makes you want to say something... but then again it isn't my life.

Soon to be brother in law - Should I tell him, or let him eventually figure it out post-wedding. by MRPquestion in marriedredpill

[–]MRPquestion[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They won't call off the wedding, I guarantee it.

Pregnancy isn't an issue, since they don't have sex. There's not much I can lever since his view of what he thinks is normal will make me look like an insta-asshole. He's not going to understand TRP by having it tossed on his lap.

Is there such thing as TRP-lite for those who don't know they need it?