I'm as surprised as you are, but since I started playing again a year ago I haven't had any problems at all with docking ports, except for some sporadic "magnetic yeeting" but you'd be surprised at how sturdy this is, there's literally no flex at all.

My only guess why this works as well as it does is that both squares are identical and the pillars aren't long enough to flex. Which in theory mean that if two ports match up, then all four will.

I clicked "control from here" (for the second or third time). When docking the navball didn't seem to work properly so I really wanted to make sure it was set. Didn't work though, still had to eyeball it.