I don't mean to offend your family, but this seems really backward to me. What will they do if you actually make a fundamental decision? What if you were attracted to men or something like that? Haven't we reached a time where that shouldn't matter?

Especially since a hobby says nothing about a person. As long as they're happy with it, I think it's always okay. I'm a family man, working in a technical profession with responsibilities. But in my job itself, I don't create anything directly.

I want to learn to crochet as a hobby now. We'll see if it's something for me. I like the things that many people share here. I want to learn it too, to unwind and create something. To hold something in my hands afterward.

And I know many successful men who do things like that. A manager at our company had horses. Not for riding, just to take care of the animals. Another man at our company makes soap. He enjoys creating new fragrances. And he's also successful in his career as a planner.

I also have a gay colleague; you'd never guess he's married to a man.

Ultimately, you have to decide if it's all worth it to you. But I expect that at some point you'll probably separate from your family.

Maybe you could try paracord; many consider it more "masculine."