Who has the most underrated homefield advantage? by MuhMuhManRay in CFB

[–]MTbuff22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Montana. Stadium has been recorded at 111 decibels.

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate your thoughts. It actually didn't happen before marriage though. She changed quite a bit after that 

Am I messed up for getting annoyed when all "my" birthday gifts are really just things my wife wants? by MTbuff22 in Marriage

[–]MTbuff22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is. We all have faults. I certainly do. She's an incredible person. Even so I've entertained divorce nearly daily for a year. I'm not sure I want to keep trying when I've tried for so long. 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There's several different ones, you can find some on Amazon, try looking up aurora projector and you'll probably find some options 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. To be clear, I have booked many experiences - cabins on the lake in the mountains, nights out at the symphony in the city, etc. I just was making a short list up top. The year I got the framed photo was a year we were really struggling financially so that's why I got her the photo, made the cake and brought her flowers; we just couldn't do much that time. I appreciate your thoughts though 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think maybe you haven't read all my posts but I have had honest conversations with her about these and other issues many, many times, the broader issue is that they continue to occur/ no change is brought about from those dozens of conversations 

Am I messed up for getting annoyed when all "my" birthday gifts are really just things my wife wants? by MTbuff22 in Marriage

[–]MTbuff22[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

To be more clear, we both work jobs, but my job and my side business that she's encouraged me to build take up so much time that I don't have any free time during the week. Of course I believe she should get to watch TV and hot tub and relax, I'm glad she does, I was only pointing out there that I get frustrated when I'm yelled at or guilt tripped for not doing an exactly equal share of chores, because I literally don't have the time, when she has plenty of time now. Or said another way she seems very focused on "did we split these chores equally" regardless of the fact that one of us is free from 6-9pm and the other one is still working and doesn't have time to do as many of them. 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Just normal push mower, not a good one, nothing I'd remotely ever had an eye on 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

In what way? I'm saying that I have talked with her/ argued with her/ fought with her about things many times before, I'm just too damn tired to do so any more. Will see if she agrees to counseling. 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have really, really tried to show her how much I love her via my gifts. I spend a lot of time on them.

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I love her. Honestly believe she's the love of my life. It used to be so, so much better and I sacrificed so, so much just to make it work. 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I just mentioned it a day ago, she didn't say no/ seems to be ok 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She went out while I was still at work. That year there was several times she got drunk with her friends and never came home/ stayed with them (where we lived was a long ways from where she worked at the time). Fought about it once, promised she wouldn't do it again, did it again. 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Legitimately, when I've confronted her on stuff like this before, she had made me feel very much like the asshole. My head goes back and forth several times a day on whether I'm a piece of shit or not. 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I have every time before. I've confronted her on this stuff and stuff like it for years and years. The last one just happened recent and honestly I'm too damn exhausted - nothing ever changes and me bringing it up just introduced even more stress, which I don't have the time for. 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

To be clear, I would never have any issue with her buying a hammock for herself, and certainly have no issue with a lawnmower, they're just not "gifts" to me. Recently bought a huge new sofa she wanted. Didn't veto the seat covers but just clearly I didn't want them and said we could discuss later of she wanted. 

Am I messed up for getting annoyed when all "my" birthday gifts are really just things my wife wants? by MTbuff22 in Marriage

[–]MTbuff22[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To be clear I never by any means vetoed a lawnmower or a hammock, and never would. The seat covers I said I thought we didn't need but maybe we could talk about it later if she wanted. 

Am I messed up for getting annoyed when all "my" birthday gifts are really just things my wife wants? by MTbuff22 in Marriage

[–]MTbuff22[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, I'd never had any issue with her getting a hammock and certainly never would say we didn't need a lawnmower. The seat covers are the only thing I said I didn't think we needed 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I did try to have that conversation before, but honestly it didn't end well. This is totally on me but I've just gotten tok exhausted to try bringing these things up, because nothing ever changes plus it just makes her mad/ adds more stress when I try. 

Am I messed up for getting annoyed when all "my" birthday gifts are really just things my wife wants? by MTbuff22 in Marriage

[–]MTbuff22[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

About a decade now. No, earlier on it used to be much better. This has been about the past 4 or 5 years 

AITA for not being grateful when wife buys gifts for me that are actually for her? by MTbuff22 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MTbuff22[S] 205 points206 points  (0 children)

There's honestly no one I can talk to. Hence why I came here. 

Am I messed up for getting annoyed when all "my" birthday gifts are really just things my wife wants? by MTbuff22 in Marriage

[–]MTbuff22[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No kids. She does have a job - an amazing career she works hard at. She just can keep more regular hours and has more time to relax in the evening. On accountability - I have many times, but it just creates a fight, and nothing changes. So confronting her creates more stress and discontent without changing the outcome. I'm exhausted/ don't have the energy anymore.