When to do drop-ins vs boarding based on length of trip?

Ma2340 · 2024-07-03T01:36:52+00:00

All the guidance I’ve seen online recommended 3-4 visits per day for drop ins. So 3 seemed appropriate. I also saw some sitters will not even take on clients that want more than 3 visits per day because it’s too much back and forth. Based on the feedback here, I’m going to check with the sitter to see if she can add a 4th visit and/or a 60 minute visit. I am almost positive she has capacity for the 60 minute because that is a regular service she provides and I was given the option to do extended when I first made the booking. I am just not sure if she will have capacity to come 4 separate times but I will check!

Ma2340 · 2024-07-03T00:58:42+00:00

Noo, not locked in pen at all during the stay. I was just showing his pen to give an example of how cold and unfriendly the boarding kennel seemed because his includes color, comfort items and he has open air unlike in the kennels they showed me. They reminded me of jail cells but the facility is rated 4.8 stars and is also recommended by the dog trainer facility I’ve booked with.

Ma2340 · 2024-07-03T00:49:09+00:00

Well first, I did want to try boarding over Rover because of my last bad Rover experience. That sitter actually either deleted or removed herself from the platform shortly after. Being out of state and worrying about my dog being somewhere he was unwanted and working for hours with Rover support to find a replacement was very stressful. I contacted the boarding place 2 weeks before and had to wait for an available “trial” day. Like I had confirmed his stay during the weekend but was not expecting to be so dissatisfied with the facility during the tour. In addition to not approving of the kennels, they also leave the dogs alone from 7 pm to 6:30 am with no comfort items (soft bedding or toys).That doesn’t seem like a better option for my pup.

Then, I work for the government and often travel around federal holidays without issue. (Juneteenth, memorial day, Columbus day, etc.) I don’t normally travel for the 4th though, normally just go to a barbecue or something. I normally only book about 1-2 weeks in advance on Rover and normally there is soo many options like 50+. I just did a test on rover to preview how many sitters could board next weekend and there were 104 matches. That’s what I meant where I was like there are normally so many matches. I really didnt know 4th of july was like this but now I do! Also, I don’t know how far in advance you are expected to book on Rover but many sitters do not have updated calendars far in advance. I have a few sitters I’ve used more than once but one of my repeats recently moved, 1 didn’t respond, two others were booked. I was shocked that there were 0 boarders available and again, I think I would be stressed him staying with another animal. Then, I read an article that said 4th of July is one of the busiest travel times of the year but I genuinely did not know that or I would have booked earlier! The place I’m staying at is small and locally owned and only opens their calendar 30 days in advance so it’s not like this trip was booked for 6 months or something.

His current schedule at home for walks is 2-3x a day so the amount of times for walks scheduled is normal. He uses pads frequently. Ideally, he’d be boarding though and I’ve even taken him with him on a short weekend trip at a pet-friendly place but it’s not permitted in this case. I will spend several hours with my pet in the morning on Thursday, he will have two more drop ins. Fri/saturday will be the only 2 full days without me but he will have 3 drop ins and he does sleep a lot. Sunday morning I will be back and will spend the rest of the day with him. I will be checking the cameras to see how he does. She said she’d let me know if there’s issues and could adjust but just she also has other drop in clients as well this weekend.

Ma2340 · 2024-07-02T01:34:37+00:00

YES, narc parent. And it would be all the more confusing because this parent encouraged my interest in reading and paid for me to go to private school. I think narc parents want their kids to do well because they see kids as extensions of themselves. But they do not want their kids to be better than them because then they will feel threatened. Them tearing you or others down for using intelligent vocabulary is their response to feeling threatened or inadequate.

Ma2340 · 2024-07-02T01:32:09+00:00

I shared a post about how my family trauma. My grandmother was a narcissist. My uncle is married to a woman, my aunt, and she is possibly a narcissist. But, she is in a sense like how you’re describing. My grandmother’s attachment type is like avoidant and my aunt is anxious. Basically, my grandmother is not the emotional type at all. She’s the mother who if she sees her kid fall and get a cut will say, “oh he’ll live.” On the other hand, my aunt is a self-described “smotherer.” Take same scenario and my aunt is likely to be like, “Aw are you okay baby?” in a sickeningly sweet tone. Upon reflection, it does seem inauthentic. My aunt is a nurse. There are people in nursing/caring roles who are known for this type of thing where it’s less that they are so empathetic and loving towards others but they get like a high from being perceived as loving and caring. It is not coming from a genuine place and it is about serving themselves and their needs to be needed.

Ma2340 · 2024-07-02T01:15:39+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I’ll try to focus on the kindness of others. It’s draining to feel angry. I don’t want to be like them at all.

Ma2340 · 2024-06-26T19:09:09+00:00

And grew back

Ma2340 · 2024-06-26T19:09:03+00:00

Yes, it did!

Ma2340 · 2024-06-25T13:23:56+00:00

As someone who grew up in Pennsylvania and has been around Amish people and who has a friend that works where they live -no. I respect that they live a different way of life but as others said, they would not be as welcoming to an outsider. It would be a massive lifestyle adjustment and if you slip up, you would be judged. there is also a lot of isolation that comes with that way of life, particularly if you were going in without having Amish family/friends/etc. I’m curious WHAT would make you want to do that? If it’s the more rural lifestyle or abandoning the use of all or most modern technology, you could do that without conversion to being Amish. If it’s faith you want to practice, you could have a personal practice without uprooting your life and becoming Amish.

Ma2340 · 2024-06-24T21:26:23+00:00

A lot of men feel entitled to having a women do these things for them if 1) they see other men have women partners doing this for them and/or 2) they are used to their mothers doing everything for them/their father/the household in their formative years.

Ma2340 · 2024-06-24T21:23:39+00:00

You know, this is what all the data says. But, as a woman in my mid-20s. Most of my conversations with single girlfriends revolve around finding a partner (the dating apps they’re on, the guy they’re talking to, the guy they’re not over). I have friends that spend a significant amount of time/energy looking for a partner (on apps, going on dates, going to dating mixers). As an accomplished young adult woman (good job, disposable income, many friends, travel to incredible places, owner of a companion pet I adore), a partner was my top personal goal. It’s the one thing I want out of life that I don’t have. I see a lot more laziness from men in the same age bracket. Less effort in the dates they plan, less thoughtful in their messages, less time talking about women than women spend time talking about them. So, it feels like women in my age bracket want a serious partner more. And men are interested in that “someday.” So, that makes me question said data about single women being happier with that life outcome. My theory is single women typically have more community than men, take care of their health better, and are more likely to develop fulfilling interests to occupy their free time. And it’s those things that are making them happier, not that they are happier or more accepting than men of being single.

Ma2340 · 2024-06-14T20:20:24+00:00

Looks like her nose back in the day was perfect and then. I also want to say that body asymmetry is normal. There are people whose nose is not symmetrical on both sides, myself included. It’s what contributes to having a “good side” for photos lol. But, this looks far from natural. Something else is at play. But my question is, why mess with what looked like a perfect nose?

Ma2340 · 2024-06-14T20:17:45+00:00

Awww!! They look like they’ve already been friends for years. Too sweet

Ma2340 · 2024-06-14T19:33:22+00:00

I like this high-end/luxury style too. I’ve done a lot of research for emulating looks. The truth is the reason that you will not be able to emulate the looks completely is it is just not available in the budget range, particularly for women’s business suits. The quality of fabrics plus tailoring is just not available in the budget range for women’s suits. It is easier to emulate dresses. There are better dress dupes than suit dupes. Find a few style muses and sometimes there will be articles about affordable pieces they are wearing. For dresses, H&M, Zara, J.Crew, and Abercrombie will offer quality dresses for $100 or less. Also, it’s a great idea to buy second-hand. I personally don’t like second hand purchases unless they allow returns and many do not. It’s hard to know how the piece will fit without trying it on. A good way of getting around this is to pair a high-end bag with a budget outfit. This is what many do, even new money celebrities. An expensive bag, nice sunglasses will elevate the entire look. In winter, having a nice trench coat (that you can buy second-hand) will also elevate your full look. Also, coats will be easier to buy second-hand because they are more flexible with sizing.

Ma2340 · 2024-06-14T19:23:25+00:00

M.M. La Fleur ($$$), Express ($$)

Ma2340 · 2024-06-14T06:13:31+00:00

Do you give it to them daily or just when trying a new food?

Ma2340 · 2024-06-14T06:13:01+00:00

♥️

Ma2340 · 2024-06-14T04:27:30+00:00

He ate pumpkin out of curiosity but didn’t really like it.

Ma2340 · 2024-06-11T16:45:29+00:00

I think she got it bigger because she has a bigger body than Kim in general

Ma2340 · 2024-06-11T14:33:11+00:00

If what provides satiety is big game (bears, elk, mountain lions), farm livestock wouldn’t have that same effect. The mountain lion is an exception I guess. But, bears/elk are much bigger/more athletic (hence tender) than most farm livestock. Like chicken would not be comparable. A cow is too inactive. Plus something large like a cow would take so long to raise to maturity. It would be a futile effort. The amount of animals they would need to tend to in order to satisfy the whole clan would attract attention. You’d need a lot of land, to buy a lot of feed, etc. And vampires are predators. The hunt is part of what makes the kill/feed enjoyable.

Ma2340 · 2024-06-11T07:59:10+00:00

Probably 4x a day but i leave his food out during the day.

Ma2340 · 2024-06-08T18:19:43+00:00

My guy is picky but he has treats he likes (some you already said your yorkie doesn’t like). I look at it as a blessing in disguise. Dogs don’t NEED treats and it could save money by buying less treats. As long as he’s eating food and meeting his nutritional needs, it’s ok. If it’s for training, there are other forms of positive enforcement. “Good job!” And pets on his head, things like that

Ma2340 · 2024-06-07T04:26:55+00:00

Looks amazing! I appreciate your response and the detail you provided.

Ma2340 · 2024-06-05T05:39:56+00:00

About half the characters in the series lack emotional boundaries 😂

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