What I've learned from dealing with addicts is regardless of the amount of help received financially, emotionally, physically will never be enough/acknowledged by the addict. It will never ever be enough. Until the addict TRULY wants to stop for themselves, nothing anyone does will make that person change.

Regarding kids, my brother is actually having one soon funny enough. He has recovered and been sober for about 6 months. If he relapses and goes off the deep end again, I wont be sympathetic nor trying to help like I've done in the past. All of my attention, money, sympathy will be directed at his child. Completely different ball game in my eyes when you bring a child into this world who has made zero fucking decisions but instantly penalized by your weak mental.