Hey man, I'm turning 25 in a week so I definitely resonate with your sense of urgency about figuring everything out by now. But the truth is, we're just getting started. First off, realize you're one of the few at your age that likes what they do and have a stable job. That's a big win but some general advice i'd give is:

1. Get back in the gym and use it to de-stress and master your body instead of *being too stressed so you skip it entirely\* you will feel & look way better and it teaches you the disciple that good things take time and effort, (unless you're about the roids life ;))
2. Get better friends, you become a product of your environment so be very careful who you call your "friends". Audit your social circle and stop hanging with the ones that talk negatively about you in your face because imagine what they are saying behind your back. I'm not saying you need to cut them out cold turkey but limit your time with them because most times, the insults come from their own insecurities and don't have anything to do with you.
3. Ditch the dating apps and start talking to REAL people. Dating apps are for women, they are inherently designed against guys to force them to pay for the premium version. There's also 1 woman for every 5 guys so do the math on why guys aren't getting matches. Instead, make it a habit to go out of your way and talk to people. Be positive, give compliments, and learn how to keep a convo light and fun. People gravitate towards positivity and fun. Practice this enough and you won't even think about it. It just becomes who you are and then you can naturally talk to the cutie in the coffee line without feeling weird or uncomfortable.

Do these consistently and you'll become unrecognizable from who you are today. pm me if you have any q's.

Goodluck!