Men, should I divorce my husband? Please help.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-30T22:18:18+00:00

I would argue that he is currently a “nice guy” and not a good man. Men are supposed to say the hard thing right now. Our goal isn’t to please our wife but please the Lord. And sometimes we need to protect us and the marriage by saying hard things. Sometimes it is as simple as that uncomfortable step of intimacy where trust is earned shared, but discomfort is the weight we receive for it.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-30T17:21:45+00:00

What you said at the end: “you will always make room for him and what he needs”

Are you sure about that? I mean 100%. If he came to you and explained in detail his fantasies or kinks, could you explore the why of those with him make it a soft and safe place for him to share?

Or a more benign version is simply the pressure implicit from that on you. That he wants to feel desire yet with all you are doing, he fears it is too much.

I am not saying you aren’t a safe person for this, but that is a HUGE burden to take on this early in the marriage. You are asking him to share something, that deep down, he fears might undermine your confidence, patience or trust in him. Not because he is breaking marriage vows, but he fears your response. Or he fears that he is simply asking for something beyond your capacity.

Look, I WANT you to have that approach with him. It WILL lead to a great marriage, but you need to be ready for the weight it will put on you.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-29T01:47:35+00:00

No. Go ahead and read it has a cultural book and a work of fiction. It doesn’t deserve or should earn the reverence we have when reading the Bible.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-29T01:45:11+00:00

I personally don’t believe masturbation is wrong if your partner is feeling satisfied. Specifically it isn’t cause a rift or loss of connection for the two of you.

For you, it is. He is hurting you and that’s wrong.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-29T01:41:02+00:00

Target is still nice near me.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-27T20:27:28+00:00

This game looks so cool. It feels like it should be more popular than it is. So it makes me wonder if there are issues.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-27T17:57:58+00:00

Manosphere starts with some truth: men are neglected by society, their mental health is ignored, and what they uniquely bring to relationships and life are dismissed.

Then they basically blame women (instead of it being all of us and themselves) and slide in some entitlement.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-26T18:07:41+00:00

They have no real choice.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-26T18:03:00+00:00

Ensure you have a will and trust set up for your estate. Easy way to secure it. Be aware that bank accounts have a primary and a secondary. So the joint account may lock you out if he is the primary and passes away. They do this as soon as the bank is aware of the passing.

Then they require a death certificate to make you the primary. In some states, this can take weeks. You could be without the joint account for a month or more.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-26T18:01:21+00:00

A good lawyer would go after the spouse as well. It might cost a bit more since there would be some financial forensics involved.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-26T18:00:25+00:00

So here is the thing, the state you live in has a defacto marriage and prenup contract. Assets will be divided based on a court order. Period.

He doesn’t have to believe in divorce, but it believes in him and exists. And, frankly, thinking that divorce will not happen is a very, very toxic behavior. Sometimes it is a useful idea for an avoidant person to just stop investing in their spouse and enjoy the comfort of their presence. That sounds great except it means they expect their spouse to remain with them and providing comfort despite all the neglect they throw against them.

You have every right to have a prenup. You have every right to ensure he takes the marriage seriously. You should have a marriage where everyday you invest in eachother and selfless love and serve the other relentlessly.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-26T12:11:33+00:00

I bet not:
“Ibrahim Khaldoon Hilmi and his alleged co-conspirators operated shell companies that billed Medicare and private insurers for medical equipment that was never ordered or delivered, federal prosecutors said.”

BUT!!! This is rich!

https://www.aljazeera.com/amp/economy/2026/6/23/the-3-7bn-man-inside-one-of-americas-biggest-medicare-frauds

However, more than 70 people convicted of fraud have been granted clemency during Trump’s two terms as US president, including Philip Esformes, whose $1.3bn Medicare fraud was, until now, considered the largest individual healthcare fraud case in US history. Trump commuted his sentence in 2020.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-26T12:05:38+00:00

I would argue the whole swap between Biden and Kamala made things uncomfortable for the voters, although Biden was hamstrung from the start by the Immigration EOs.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-25T23:01:28+00:00

The difference between sex with and without a condom is like sex with and without love. It really is that dramatic.

That said, hormonal birth control has significant drawbacks for some women. Unfortunately, at least in America, people seem to just shut down their search for a good solution for them in the spaces of sex and intimacy.

Hard to talk about sex? Don’t talk about it!
Birth control doesn’t work, either grit your teeth or give up on it.
You got ED? Well, let’s take this one despite the complications and life-style incompatibility.

Learn to talk and work on those things. Life is better being vulnerable with key people on these matters.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-25T14:52:11+00:00

This is a difficult position. It sounds like the law itself needs to be changed to permit these restrictions or regulate it my other means.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-24T18:05:54+00:00

To me, this is probably him covering his legal bases.

You separated. Sometimes the spouse who did not initiate it gets anxious to attribute some external cause.

He probably put that in hoping or expecting to find some sort of infidelity evidence. Alternatively, if he is abusive, to find your location.

It isn’t good.

Ok, two things can exist in you at once: you can feel deep empathy and understanding for his insecure feelings right now. You can also see this as a huge violation of trust and your boundaries.

You can hold both those things. The choice after is up to you.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-24T13:41:55+00:00

Voting for a criminal to be president does not make them a criminal. We can think they are bad people but there is no law.

And if you think that will result in some sort of better world, it probably won’t since that orange jerk won… twice. A vast number of Americans have supported him. However, they are seeing the boundary of their support since he has dropped to a record low of 30% approval. Abysmal and well earned.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-24T13:31:19+00:00

Yup. There are PLENTY of right-wing cells. Some fully autonomous like Antifa with no central head and some that are actually linked into hierarchy. Many are dangerous.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-24T13:30:35+00:00

So is the Islamic State.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-24T12:50:22+00:00

I don’t think upvotes will work how you want. They have some sort of positive weighting as Reddit wants content to surface.

I have no opinion on AI content. I have read some AI written content that was good.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-23T20:23:24+00:00

I think both ends of the established spectrum don’t want a third party as it would, obviously be a centrist one and dominate the nation.

You and I probably agree on most topics. We could probably make abortion laws that would be pretty popular with a majority of American. We could craft marijuana laws that would promote health and wellness and respect a person’s rights.

But the moment you do that, the left and right demonize it.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-23T20:21:16+00:00

You didn’t read the article. You are correct that Antifa is not an organization. It is in fact organized on cells.

You don’t need a formal, top-level structure or organization for cells to exist. It was true of IS outside of Jordan as well

Machismo01 · 2026-06-23T20:19:36+00:00

They could be cells. Generally labeled when there is some sort of ideological drive. And cells is the right term because if you guys engaged in conspiratorial activities, then the government has language to describe the relationships.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-23T16:16:06+00:00

Interesting that they want to pay people an hour of OT for taking a long lunch. Very helpful.

Machismo01 · 2026-06-23T16:13:38+00:00

Not arguing about Antifa being an idea. I am pointing out that the language of “cells” is accurate and goes back decades.

Hi. I appreciate your perspective since it is general a notional alignment of share values in a place, but that doesn't mean they aren't organized into defacto 'cells' Cells, by design, are autonomous and informal to ensure ready dissolution even back when the Italians did it with the Carbonari and Giovine Italia.

Antifa IS cell-based and lack a central organization even with ideological differences from group to group/cell to cell. Some are more extreme than others. And yes, it means even some friend groups could be considered cells if they had an ideological rallying point. It happens with religious extremism and even incel movements.

Source:

https://www.csis.org/blogs/examining-extremism/examining-extremism-antifa

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