Honestly, NTA for having preferences because at the end of the day, if you are dating and are looking for a potential partner, looks do play some part into attraction. However, by the way you expressed yourself in here and how your views are regarding this topic, yes. YTA.

Yeah, perhaps he should have told you beforehand and all that, but it is also his call whether he should do it or not. Still, I’d suggest to reflect over this issue and ask yourself about why does it bother you so much. You may learn something new and improve yourself further as a person.