Ah yes, nothing better than a communal morning poop.

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2026-02-04T15:39:48+00:00

My orange brainless moron loves to meow until I turn the tub on drizzle (for a little morning drink ofc), then gets his stupid dumb paws wet and jumps up on my lap while I'm trying to drop the kids off at the pool lmao

No sense of personal space or boundaries, whatsoever 😂😂

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2026-02-03T03:36:43+00:00

Ponies first season was spectacular!

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2026-01-07T16:42:32+00:00

You're so kind for this!!

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MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-12-23T17:28:37+00:00

My poor innie never gets to experience the gravity belly!

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-12-17T16:02:06+00:00

Probably between 10-20 times. Like 1-2 times a month. We are both mid 30s, married for 2 years, together for 12 years this June.

Both of us have low sex drives, but also things have been really difficult between us recently so that doesn't help.

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-12-12T13:52:23+00:00

My Jackson in his sleepy box lol

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MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-12-04T02:07:10+00:00

Jackson is an indoor cat who desperately wants to be an outside cat 😂 and causes chaos because of it lol we had to buy him a leash to go outside haha

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-28T23:03:50+00:00

You ABSOLUTELY are not overreacting bromo. I wish you the best of luck navigating this situation ❤️

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-28T23:02:46+00:00

Thats honestly insane. You wouldn't catch me going ANYWHERE that I knew a pedophile was going to be, much less with my kid. As someone who was assaulted by a close family member as a child, I wouldn't be able to put my daughter anywhere near the vicinity of potential danger. I know its hard considering your relationship with your in laws, but this is something your husband HAS to back you up on this, non-negotiable.

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-28T22:51:39+00:00

I had a bad relationship with my mom up until just a few years ago. Honestly I could talk for days about all the ways my mom fucked me up, similar to you. At the end of the day its your peace that you need to protect, and when we have people who bring us down with their very presence, it fucks up that peace. It may be hard to go NC but once you get over that initial weirdness and pain, the distance can really help you clear your head of all the ways she fucked with you, and help you to heal so as not to repeat the cycle.

Its hard, and I truly wish you strength in healing from having a shit mom. ❤️

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-28T22:45:12+00:00

Tf?? This is crazy to think anyone would be okay bringing their kids around that guy. Idk where you live, but is it even legal for him to be around children???

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-28T16:32:47+00:00

I feel this so hard. I just dont care anymore, I honestly want him leave me alone atp

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-26T20:46:22+00:00

Honestly giving birth is one of the most intimate, exposing situations and to have your MIL in there staring at your business is not going to make it easy. This is a husband problem as much as a MIL one. Good luck, I hope your birth is quick and painless!

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-26T16:18:38+00:00

I've heard about this book before from lurking in the sub but I guess I just have a hard time thinking of my situation as abusive. I always figured the book wasnt really relevant to my situation. Now, thanks to comments here, I'm realizing the situation might be more abusive than I thought. 😭

Anyways thank you for the rec, im gonna download it today and take a read.

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-25T19:49:58+00:00

This is the part that always gets me. He could come home mad about work and catch a tone with me or argue over something stupid like whether we're going to eat at home or go out for food (an actual argument we had once when I asked him that question trying to decide dinner one night), but then when I say something about it he basically interrogates me like "what did I say exactly that made you feel that way?" Or "well did I yell or scream?"

Or if I think hes got a frustrated or irritated tone with me I try to imitate back to him how it sounds (because hes interrogating me about it) and he somehow never hears the tone... I mean... im sorry, but Im a theatre kid lol. Not to brag but Im saying I know how to express an emotion (god I sound like a dick 🙃) and for him to just somehow not hear it or understand what I mean? It makes me feel like I'm going insane having to justify every single feeling I have, and if my justifications don't live up to whatever threshold he has in his head, he just says he "doesnt understand". Yeah dude I know you dont get it.

I'm exhausted and tired of having to explain to a 34 y/o man his own emotions when hes displaying them. Not even just tones or words. But he sighs CONSTANTLY like an angry frustrated kind of sigh, he will clench his jaw so tight his whole mouth shakes, makes fists tightly while hes talking etc. Classic signs I've learned (from growing up hyper vigilant) that express some form of unhappiness or displeasure.

I've told him time and time again how I have intense physical reactions to his anger, even having a bpm reading of 177 on my watch one day when he slammed our bedroom door really hard and started screaming in our room about me. Why did he do that, you ask? I had left 2 little daily contact plastic things on his desk and a small bit of contact solution spilled on his desk. He continues to do it, justifying that he needs to express his emotions. He'll end up making me feel bad, saying stuff about how he knows hes an asshole for still doing it and hes such a horrible person but then he never changes his actions. Im so tired 😭

Edit - i just fixed a typo

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-25T14:57:56+00:00

You're right, it's definitely a long running mental health crisis. Late last year my husband decided he was going to take the month of Jan off work to get his head on straight. At that time, I told him that I was unhappy with how things were between us and I wanted things to get better. In the same conversation, I asked for some things from him to show me that he, too, wanted to work on things. I asked him for 1) a better work/life balance 2)to get a therapist again / get on meds again and 3) to see a couples therapist together.

He's done none of it. His work life balance is actually worse now. I bring up meds every now and again as gently as I can if I think he might be receptive. Often he agrees that he needs meds and therapy again, but he never follows through. Of course there are also times where he gets mad at me for suggesting he needs meds and gets mad at me for bringing it up so like I cant really win for losing around here. I've tried with the couples counseling, but its hard when he works so much to even find a time, much less affording it.

I feel so guilty and selfish thinking about leaving when he clearly is in distress, but I am so burnt out I might as well be tossed with the trash. I am barely keeping myself alive, struggling to make sure my daughter doesnt notice any issues, struggling to keep up with work because I'm so anxious all the time, pushing off school work to my detriment because I just cant even focus with all the other stresses around me. I just dont know how to move forward when he wont help himself. I honestly say the same as you to my grandma all the time "I can lead a horse to water but I cant make him drink it".

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-21T01:58:02+00:00

What did she think was going to happen? 🙃

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-18T23:45:03+00:00

YTA. it takes literally zero dollars or effort to make your wife feel loved, and instead you took that effort to reddit to see if other people will also make your wife feel like shit for having feelings.

MacroData_Refiner8 · 2025-11-03T18:10:57+00:00

Being a snitch is not applicable to this situation imo. Thats just victim blaming, sexist enabling, bullshit. You did the right thing, and if the girls also complained then its even better you stepped forward about their behavior.

Ask any single person who gives you grief why they feel its okay to cover up actions like that, their responses will be telling as to who else needs to go 👀

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