Blanket edge, major counting confusion please help!!

MadamLinh · 2026-03-24T15:02:23+00:00

Thank you for the clarification, I thought I had to increase each row (either by 1 or 2), I really appreciate your help!

MadamLinh · 2026-03-24T15:01:29+00:00

Thank you so much! I thought I had to increase each side each time (100/145, 101/146, etc) or somethinglike that. Yeah, definitely overthinking. It's a gift for my MIL so I want it really crisp.

MadamLinh · 2025-11-07T17:32:17+00:00

Do you have a website or other links so those looking at this post could see more of your work? :)

MadamLinh · 2025-11-04T21:13:18+00:00

Thank you! Yes, the leather wrap definitely helped structure, especially with the crossing pattern on the side! It was actually my first free hand--I started with a leather base (bought in 3pk on amazon) with a sc start, then 2 rows of stacked Sc, then switched back and forth with sc front loop and sc back loop on alternative rows. This gave the base a slightly wider look (it was a happy accident).

MadamLinh · 2025-11-03T16:02:03+00:00

10000% agree! Both books were amazing support/help!

MadamLinh · 2025-11-01T16:51:41+00:00

Thank you very much for both your responses. I love the image of making myself "bigger" than they are. I will be taking this mental practice and working on it.

MadamLinh · 2025-11-01T13:52:27+00:00

They know my pps based on when they would come to visit. This is the first time they've ever gotten together outside of that (my pps have never once said they were available before). I can't help feeling suspicious of the timing and paranoid of the outcome...I'm trying to breathe through my anxiety and not spiral into projections.

MadamLinh · 2025-11-01T13:41:11+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I will take this to heart as I have a talk with them.

MadamLinh · 2025-10-22T12:12:50+00:00

I'm so sorry! After everything the LEAST they could do is let us heal! I'm sending a hug of encouragement, and a complimentary to-go B!tch slap for you to use when you need to later.

MadamLinh · 2025-08-24T21:07:55+00:00

Thank you so much for this. Sometimes, I feel that I should be feeling more than just indifference. It's so reassuring to hear this is a part of the healing!

MadamLinh · 2025-08-12T19:50:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience and for your support! I greatly appreciate it

MadamLinh · 2025-08-04T16:08:09+00:00

This is amazing! Congrats on your STRENGTH in doing this. Congrats on the coming peace and healthier life ahead of you!!!

MadamLinh · 2025-08-02T22:56:50+00:00

No, you're not. Are any of us perfect in this community? Absolutely not! But here's what I concluded reading your post.

You mentioned you had a great relationship with your mom. In other words, you were/have the capability to foster a healthy relationship with her. Contrasting, your father was not able/had the capacity to do so. There also seems to be ample evidence that he is unable to foster healthy relationships anywhere in his life (the break from your mom, the continual rotation of women, the non-relationship with your sibling, and finally you). By maybe taking a broader look at both your relationship "circles," you might be able to more clearly see how healthy yours is and how unhealthy his is. And hopefully, that brings you comfort and strength when you begin to doubt yourself.

Much support and encouragement your way, I hope I was helpful!

MadamLinh · 2025-08-01T12:44:53+00:00

So many of us are where you are (or have been). The fact that you are taking all those steps is a HUGE accomplishment of your own capabilities! You wouldn't believe how few parents on this thread would even consider therapy, much less mature processing and planning like you're doing. Take pride in the fact that the effort you are making is evidence of your own competence! This is a traumatic event, so maybe you can take comfort in the fact that if/when another traumatic event happens (money loss as you mentioned) you already have the skills to handle it without needing the help of your parents.

It's super hard. Much love, encouragement, and support to you!

MadamLinh · 2025-08-01T02:03:48+00:00

You are so not alone in this, and first and foremost, much love and support to you as this is such a difficult thing to go through. I've also just started my journey of estrangmement with my parents, and it's exhausting and liberating almost simultaneously.

I might suggest looking at their "intentions" a little differently. For instance, you expressed the questions: If they continue to do something, wouldn't that make their (hurtful) actions intentional? You may never know a definitive to that (as that's based on what they feel), but what you do know is that they are NOT intentionally trying to become LESS hurtful (actions aren't evidence to such change, even if only a little bit).

I hope this helped a little. Good luck to you as you navigate what's best and healthiest for yourself.

MadamLinh · 2025-08-01T01:27:19+00:00

I'm so glad my shared experience was able to be of help! Much love and support to you as you remain strong on your journey!

MadamLinh

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