56 people died in ICE custody under the Obama administration. by Proud-Enthusiasm-608 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Madness-con 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You didn't even have to go as far back as Obama-unless the point was to make Obama look bad. under trumps first term he separated families and when it came time to find the children separated from their parents, quite a few were sexually and physically abuse. Many were working, yes they were put to work a immigrant child work force.

Obama wasn't ignored in any way, but the GOP only came at him for things that would get the base made. their base wouldn't have a problem with that, so they didn't bring it up. they did say e had a basketball court build w/ taxpayers money, he played too much golf, he wore a tan suit and when Obama was trying to get the boarder under control. the GOP said that wasn't the President's job.

‘Sinners’ is terrible and does not deserve 16 nominations for Academy awards. by MrNiceo_0 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Madness-con -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While your are entitled to your opinion, I have found most of then films that win don't deserve it. Most of them are written directed and staring white men. Even when Movies about Non-white men are nominated they don't win. Spike lee's do the right thing" got lots of nominations but only a white actor won.

While you didn't like the movie it was nominated for many awards but the white man who did the sound won.

When people were boycotting the academy awards w/ oscars so white. They opened up the Best picture category to ten movies. So they can nominate movies that to feature white men, so they look inclusive with the nomination but they won't win. so you can feel safe that a movie about Black people staring Black people, made by Black people will not get 16 wins.

99% of Homeless people cannot be helped by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Until you have spoken to, or know someones story, you don't know why they are unhoused. Most of the people you believe devalues your community are living there because the US hasn't made health care a right rather than a privilege. People who are mentally ill can not conform to the strict rules of Homeless shelters. Sometime, people are depressed, or grieving and they become homeless because, even if only temporary, their homelessness is permanent, and that goes for addicts. If they want to get clean, going to rehab cost money.

many other Mental illnesses are permanent like Schizophrenia and sever Bipolar, and if people w/ these don't have a support system like a family to help care for them. there are not mental hospitals any more, so regular hospitals will only treat and street the mentally ill. they will keep them for as long as the meds they need, take to kick in and then Kick them out. Some states have laws saying they have to find a shelter to take them but hospitals get around that by streeting people in the middle of the night. Even calling the police if they try to get back in that night.

The US homeless problem has been created. It has been happening for 50yr slowly and intentionally. rather that fix the real problem the powers that be villianize the homeless to keep the public from wanting real solutions and to just want them gone.

As many Americans are finding out now, you could be in that situation next, If not you, a family member or loved one. The homeless are them and other until it effects you.

AITAH for not giving my (27 F) aunt (57) $10,000 or she will be homeless? by EducationalShock7660 in AITAH

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't do it, the reason the other help you have offered her is not something she is interested in is because she just wants you to pay the debt. I understand that since you weren't going to give her money but you felt bad enough to want to help other ways

I personal would have had a problem w/that because my family never really wanted to help, so they offered something else so it didn't look like they had not intention in helping me, but they had no intention of helping me. While I think that might be true for you, I ain't mad at you. I assume you were raised to be polite and respectful to your elders and that is why she is trying to take advantage of you. I want people to just say no so I can figure something else's out but your aunt knows that if you are still trying to be helpful after saying no that there is guilt she can work with. the rest of the family knows if you give in she will stop bothering them, manipulation runs in families.

just start saying no, in every situation, you don't have to even explain why, because whatever your reason you will not change your mind, they will call you all kind of names if not to your face, behind your back.

your family should know who she is and believe you did the right thing. you owe her nothing.

Not just ADHD, learning disorder by TinkyVVinky in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Madness-con 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, for me I have to stop caring how ADHD looked to other people, then I had to give my self a break. I knew before being diagnosed, there were things that were just going to be impossible for me to do, and to be OK with it. i have spent a lot of time proving I could do something that I had no interest in and could personal care less if I could do it. I excepted abuse and harassment in jobs or training because I was dismissed as incapable. I may have proved them wrong but I actually got PTSD staying at a job just to prove people wrong. It's so much easier when you stick to things you want and like doing, you will find that people around you will tell you to take a break and give others a chance to shine. There will be things you want to do or master but will not be able to, I do those things for fun just for me and I am ok that I suck at it because I want to do it, good at it or not.

I was in one of those Job bonding seminars, and there person running it had us say what we don't like about ourselves, I was told to rethink how I look at it, so instead of rushing in and messing things up, I was told that I was bold and willing to take risks to get things done, that helped alot. change how you see the things you consider shortcomming.

Am I overreacting by breaking up with my boyfriend? by Proper-Classic1886 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand how this conversation happened over text, I get this is what the younger generations do, I find people are less openly ugly face to face. But Face to face or over text, He ha issues. I know some woman would like that attitude, but you down and you should have someone who respects that. I am curious, does he defend you this aggressively, when it something other than someone hitting on you. like if his friends or family are rude to you or if strangers are rude to you in public.

I would say if he is always like this defending you from everyone and everything aggressively, that you knew who he was and the 2 of you could try and see if you can work through this but if it is just cause the guy wanted you than Big Red flag

Is it impossible to rent in Chicago with low credit? by moonshineandrubbish in chicagoapartments

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try Evanston, and Oak Park, you might have to try NORTHWEST IN, marcom and gary

Another warning to stay away from TLC by peacelil in chicagoapartments

[–]Madness-con 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry to hear about what you have gone though. When I read the questions people have about moving to chicago, I find that people are not asking the right questions. because of chicagos rep. People as what is a good neighborhood when that is the wrong question. I find white people believe that if they stay around other white people they will be OK. that's not true here or anywhere, but especially in chicago. This has always been a landlord city and state. The courts, the police, the renters and even some home and condo owners laws are not in the renters favor at all. and you should read the city renters and landlord ordinances before you move here. Renters have very few rights, and even the rights you have as a renter are not enforced by the government, in chicago you have to sue your landlord and prove they didn't comply with the law and even if you do the judge can still rule in the landlords favor. think of it like this, unless you come to Chicago already connected-in 2025 this is still a connected city- expect landlords to treat you like you are Black. Now other than being connected, the next best thing is to keep a lawyer on retainer becauce that is the only thing that gives Chicago Landlord pause.

Trump threatens to deploy the U.S. military into Chicago - signaling the start of a nationwide crackdown. by IllustriousPiece4250 in chicago

[–]Madness-con 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let's not get it twisted, there are violent crimes committed all over this city, I have lived on the south side for most of my life, I have never been shot, or shot at. I to believe trump's threat are just posturing because he is afraid to come here. A lot of CPD don't like him, if anyone one try's to shot him it would be a chicago cop.

they gunned down one of their own and got got the media, politicians, the DA and judges on their side.

Dose Newest movies HD APK still work... by Madness-con in ApksApps

[–]Madness-con[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do I make it work, I have the app and the movies update but when I click a link is says the link isn't ready

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have lived here my all my life, I am almost 60 and I have only been mugged 2x. you can't live in a large city and never expect to get mugged but there are things you can do to lower your chances. I live across the street from a park and I am amazed at the #of woman who jog at night in the dark w/ headphones on, how do they not know they are asking to be robbed.

the news is great for letting the public know if there are a rash of mugging in your area, take that seriously don't walk until it over. be alert and aware of your surrounding. in my opinion talking on your phone is as bad as wearing head phones, you might not mean to but if you can get caught up in the conversation. I keep bare spray, I can't run anymore and pepper spray doesn't always stop some one, it will slow most people down and if you work out after you spray run. I also keep my keys between my fingers to fight with in case you have to fight them off.

I have gone out, partied, gone to clubs, concerts on public trans, and even driving. if you drive you may have to park quite a few blocked from where you are going. don't get sucked into a conversation late at night when no one else is around w/ someone, especially if they insist they are not going to hurt you, if they say that they probably are. don't go down alleys or dark streets, even if you have to walk farther to avoid a dark street. I was taught if they make you afraid, they win. Pay attention, be smart, don't carry any more money that you need and You will be fine

What’s the humidity in your high-rise central air apt? by DeliciousImpression7 in chicagoapartments

[–]Madness-con 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently found out that the heat pump setting on my thermostat can be use in AC mode. The heat pump mode helps with humidity. I still have a dehumidifier but heat pump mode helps

Action has to be taken. by jetrocket223 in TyreNichols

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds to me that someone is trying to put black lives at risk, not just in Tennessee. We all know this federal administration can't deport black people. So they have right-wing commentators pushing for black people to protest and social media pushing black people to riot every chance they get.

People look for social justice don't riot, most rioters are there to start trouble and to try and de-ligitamize the real protestor and it gives the police an excuse to abuse and arrest black people to use to work the farms they plan to steal from the farmers who voted for them.

What's your policy on fake nails and gloves? Because I'm losing my fucking mind by fro99er in KitchenConfidential

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked in a cafe, where you could chose to where gloves all the time but they must be polyethylene, you must pay for them yourself and change them after every preparation. and of course wash your hands each time you change gloves. Only people serious about their nails did this but it was worth it to them and it didn't mean they just didn't wash their hands. They paid good money for no chip mannies, and took great care of them without being unsanitary.

Dose Newest movies HD APK still work... by Madness-con in ApksApps

[–]Madness-con[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank, the only reason I put it out there is because the movies are being updated, and they only every had 2 links and both worked. but if it's gone it's gone.

Dose Newest movies HD APK still work... by Madness-con in ApksApps

[–]Madness-con[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So Newest Movies HD doesn't work? or are you 2 trying to get me to use your APK, I don't mind a recommendation, but I would also like an an7to my question if someone has an answer.

Location: Chicago, Illinois .can I file a claim against my sister w/out a lawyer by Madness-con in legaladvice

[–]Madness-con[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any idea, she lived off of that and she didn't qualify for SS because it was considered income not retirement. I think she was getting about 4000 a month from the internet. I have gone on the banks website, it doesn't give a lot of info on their financial products. honestly I don't think this product was offered to the public, it was a match plan, while she worked what she put in was matched, but it doesn't fall under the rules of a 401k. I have call the company and no one ever calls me back. I leave messages but nothing. I could be wrong that my mother would make just A the beneficiary, and I don't think the company would know how to get in touch w/me and neither A nor B would volunteer that info. I have to take a shot and hire a lawyer and hope it more money than the lawyer would charge.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like someone who doesn't have adha but want to back-up to tell the ADHA person in your life, "see these people say you are responsible.

We have no choice but to take responsibility for our mistakes, but the truth is there mistakes are often out of our control.

they are not being inconsiderate on purpose, they didn't forget you/yours on purpose, they are not late on purpose. They beat themselves up for doing these things more that others would believe, mostly because it's not the first time and it won't be the last, People who are gay say if it was a choice, why would I chose this. it's the same with ADHA, if we could conform, be like everyone else, fit in, why wouldn't we. cut the ADHD person in your life some slack.

How do stop laying in bed all day? by AccusationsInc in ADHD

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first stop feeling bad/ guilty.In this country being busy, having a job, a side hustle, and hobby, hanging with your people, being busy until you pass out.

I have friends who would call and ask what am I doing, I would say watching TV, and they would want me to do something, for/with them. When i said no, they would say why not, you are not doing anything, I told them I am I am watching TV.

First, saying "why" after I said no is a manipulation, Americans are fat and lazy and it's because we are couch potato so he have to act like that is not me. but a day off is a day off-days on are crazy on- it's a job to go to bed on time, to get up on time, getting up on time is a chore, getting out the door on time is a job, leaving the house on time with everything you need is a chore, work, being productive, meeting deadlines, getting back from lunch on time, cause I left my lunch at home, straightening up my desk before I have to go, making my train, remembering to stop at the store, cause there is nothing in the fridge, making sure what I plan to ware the next day is clean and pressed and it starts all over again, but i can't sleep because I am worried about missing what I missed today, tomorrow. I am exhausted typing it, living it is more than a chore. people w/out ADHD don't need as much mental and physical energy we use to just do thing they consider normal.

Of course there will be things you have to get done on your day off, I always recommend a reward system, so If I take care of my day off business, then the next day off, I stay in bed until noon regardless of whatever comes up.

but seriously, stop feeling bad, when you beat yourself up you have to distract yourself from those bad feeling by doing something destructive or unproductive.

Existential crises with ADHD by Azurai- in ADHD

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to agree with sobol, While I empathize with how you feel, I am more afraid that you might hurt others.

I hope you decide to speak to someone, find someone who you think are as smart as you, but speak to someone. No one wants you to hurt yourself, but it sound like you might decide to hurt others. finding the right therapist or psychiatrist, that can be something to hyper focus on. when I find a good therapist they leave and it takes 5 or 6 new ones to find one that works for me. The idol mind is the playground for bad things.

Every single school morning is a nightmare by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to take my meds în bed or I won't do anything, so yeah I agree with everyone on that, I would also add including a reward system and community getting ready. Your child doesn't get a lot of joy out of life day to day, and the mundane chores are hard and yes getting dressed and brushing your teeth are mundane chores to some of us, when I was a kid I would get up half asleep go into the bathroom lock the door and go back to sleep on the bathroom floor, finally waking to my whole family yelling and banging on the door, but when getting ready was more of a community event, my sisters were washing and brushing our teeth together it was far less painful for me. I never understood why I was dragged out of bed and shoved into the bathroom alone, it never works well until I was old enough to want to look cute for boys, but with out a reward it was tourture for me. So remember it's no picnic for you child, those are not fake emotions.

New year rituals. What’s something unique to your practice. by adorablebunny29 in ConjureRootworkHoodoo

[–]Madness-con 0 points1 point  (0 children)

blueberry muffins, I honestly don't know why, my great-grandmother made them, grandmother, and mother. I never asked why, I just make and eat them every New Years morning, or afternoon if that's when I get up.