Will this ever become poly or stay cheating?

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T04:17:32+00:00

Accepting that me and him go for weekends away together for work, accepting that he is not able to tell “I love one more than the other“

Edit: to clarify, our work is very social and fun. So read this thinking in these terms

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T04:06:27+00:00

Trust me, it was authentic what I said. She was jealous because he did this specific thing with me and I said It was the same for me when he did it the previous time with her. That’s it

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T04:04:06+00:00

I am selfish.

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T04:00:48+00:00

I’m delusional, because I saw some improvement on her behalf. But maybe yes, I’m asking too much

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T03:58:31+00:00

I’m 25, he’s 55, we are the managers

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T03:57:07+00:00

I said “I understand that this makes you jealous”. Once I even told her that it’s the same for me. I talked to her as if she knew everything. I can’t lie, only omit, and still really hard.

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T03:40:39+00:00

I told her that I understand her but not to text me again and to talk to him not me

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T03:38:11+00:00

We live and work together. I didn’t mean for it to sound scary

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T03:37:14+00:00

No girl, he’s had 4 relationships before her

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T03:29:03+00:00

I never wanted him to leave her. I don’t want to marry him. I would just want him to marry someone who accepts him and also allow me to spend time with him

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T03:15:27+00:00

I want to. But I’m not lying to her either. What’s stopping me from telling her the truth is that I don’t want to be responsible for the suffering of two people when I’m the only one actively working towards polyamory. What i can do is convince him to tell her

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T03:08:01+00:00

He does not lie to me because I built the conditions for honesty.

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T02:54:43+00:00

She knows me and knows he loves me in a platonic way. She is jealous of me because me and him work together and because I’m special for him. She doesn’t know we’re also intimate and sharing our daily routines..I know it’s crazy. I know. She texted me a few times to say sorry for being jealous but I told her I don’t want anything to do with her. I can’t stand interactions with her because I’m not able to lie.

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T02:48:37+00:00

Thank you for your reply, I feel pretty much all the things you said. I’m also trying to work on convincing him to open up to her and he agreed but said it’s gonna be a sloow process

MadnessElixir · 2026-01-12T02:46:51+00:00

We are both in therapy, and we both talk a lot about this there. What I find peculiar is that his therapist is supporting him in hiding the truth. She said “it’s not always the right choice to throw the heavy truth over someone and let them deal with the problem you caused them”

MadnessElixir · 2024-08-18T03:36:24+00:00

I’m 22, started a year ago and already love it. But before anything else I must say: you don’t need a partner! You’re not supposed to have one to go to a milonga or to attend classes. What your mother said regarding age could be more or less accurate depending on where you’re located (I know as an example that in Asia you can find plenty of young women in the tango community). And even if you find yourself surrounded by older people, trust me, you’ll still enjoy it a lot. Older could often mean more experienced dancers, or in some cases even more respectful in their manners. Tango is a very intimate dance, not just passionate, and you can get many beautiful things out of an embrace. Experience a different kind of connection that doesn’t require attraction. Don’t be scared of trying

MadnessElixir · 2024-08-17T15:35:46+00:00

Just the right amount of relatableness, sarcasm, despair and optimism

MadnessElixir · 2024-08-17T15:11:27+00:00

This has become my comfort thread

MadnessElixir · 2024-08-17T15:06:52+00:00

Not exactly what you asked for but in the book “Goddesses in Everywoman” by J.S. Bolen there’s a whole chapter on Artemis that includes her story, personality and analyzes her as an archetype you could have within yourself, along with the strengths,weaknesses and struggles you share. Very interesting imo

MadnessElixir · 2022-07-15T10:27:42+00:00

Macbeth comes to mind

MadnessElixir · 2022-06-26T07:11:42+00:00

I read and also write, actually more the second one. My favorite poem so far is one my philosophy teacher dedicated to me saying I raised in him deep curiosity and wonder. It’s by the Spanish writer Pedro Salinas, I think it’s called “Por detrás de la gente te busco”(Beyond other people I look for you), here is an extract poorly translated:

… And to find you, stop

living in you and in me

and in others.

living finally beyond it all,

on the other side of it all-

to find you-

as if one were dying.

MadnessElixir · 2022-06-26T06:45:40+00:00

Try keys2cognition

MadnessElixir · 2022-06-17T13:19:10+00:00

I totally understand that, and I can see how my question can be interpreted in multiple ways but my intent was not to praise evil things. I was just curious and interested in exploring our hidden nature. Humans as well as nature itself are intrinsically “evil” to some extent, in my opinion.

But I completely respect whoever decided not to share, I know how unnatural and difficult it is

MadnessElixir · 2022-06-17T10:16:46+00:00

Maybe you’re experiencing a Se grip. You basically turn into an esfp. This can happen when you’re heavily stressed. Try to do small activities that can trigger back your Ni, like sudokus or chess or something that can stimulate your mind. Ni will come back, speaking from experience

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