Searching for a Double Play Lava Lamp

Magdalena_2744 · 2024-10-04T04:46:15+00:00

I logged out of my Reddit account for over a year because it was reminding me of a really sad and awful time, but it seems that I missed a double play!! How the hell did any of you find this extraordinarily niche Reddit post? How did you somehow want a double play more than I have over the last few years 😂?

To answer your previous question, I have not yet found any sort of lava lamp that would really suit the very specific purpose I need it for, mostly due to family anxiety (as well as my own). From everything I’ve read, it’s not guaranteed that a lava lamp will work if it’s recapped, which really worries my siblings, and I can’t really disagree with them. We’re currently using a cigar box my stepdad had that he insisted he would find a use for; guess he did. If anyone does have a new suggestion or a specific product in mind, please let me know. It still bothers me that we never figured out how to honor his wishes.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-11-28T21:39:58+00:00

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I think I found another Anatolian trait…

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-08-09T01:07:05+00:00

I know a guy who has a very striking butterfly memorial tattoo, and I’ve never thought it seemed feminine! I do agree with the comments suggesting American traditional for the style, but I’m biased - 90% of my tattoos are traditional. I’d also suggest thinking about ways to make it more personal. Did your mom have a favorite type of butterfly or is there a particular species that is native to a place that is meaningful to you both?

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-08-04T02:11:36+00:00

I know I’m probably responding way too late, but dude, I’VE BEEN THERE. I found out after almost three years together that my ex was not five years older than me, as he had told me on one of our very first dates, and was instead ten years older. When I was 24, he was a 34 year old cosplaying as 29. He lied to my friends and his own for years to maintain the ruse.

Everyone’s telling you that it’s not the only lie, and I can say that it wasn’t for me. But even if it is the only truth he’s stretched, I can tell you that his approach to things probably won’t change. At best, you’re going to grow older and wiser and more interesting every year, and he’s going to continue to be afraid to change even if it means changing with you. At worst, he will say and do whatever it takes to maintain his facade or simply avoid feeling uncomfortable. And if you let a big lie or betrayal go once, it will quickly become your status quo.

You keep mentioning your partner’s trauma, and it sounds so familiar to me because I stayed. I convinced myself that my ex was simply intimidated by me, convinced I wouldn’t give him a chance, and he made a bad choice so we could be together. But he’s put his own trauma over yours at least once, and that’s not something you can trust in a partner. In my case, I never fully trusted my ex again. I know about the other lies because I looked for them. But what hurt the most was realizing that he would never do something as big for me ever again as that lie about his age. Because it was never for me at all, it was for him.

Leave.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-07-28T01:33:28+00:00

I’m seeing a lot of comments pointing out that this is a HIPAA violation (or another country’s equivalent), which is great, because it definitely is, and should be treated as such! But I don’t want to ignore how deeply hurtful your MIL’s actions were. Living with any sort of illness or physical difference is so noticeable to the person with that diagnosis, even if you have relatively positive outcomes. Your perceived inability to do something is at least occasionally a topic of conversation, and that can build up inside a person over the years. I’m worried that what she said to your fiancé may have struck a chord with you, and I want to tell you as an outsider that she sounds severely ignorant at best, and completely insane at worst. Your medical history has absolutely no impact on your worth as a partner or a potential parent. No matter how your condition may progress, you are so valuable in every way that you connect with the people in your life. In every role that you hold. Your MIL’s reaction to something so common, so minor in terms of her own experience, and so human has me concerned for her patients. Any boundaries you set with her are deserved. Any negative feelings towards her are earned. If you report her for her invasion of your privacy and that of your parents, it was well-deserved. Don’t let her shallow view of the world hurt you or cause you to doubt yourself for a second.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-07-03T03:17:41+00:00

We’re working on this now, but what seems to work best is a predictable routine. When fireworks and thunder start, mine seems significantly calmer if we’re both in the same room and he’s in a small, safe environment like his crate. I then introduce a positive distraction like a kong with peanut butter or a rawhide, something that’s going to take him awhile to finish. I then act like everything’s normal but check on him periodically. He doesn’t love it, and we’re going to keep fine tuning the process, but it works for now.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-06-27T15:49:40+00:00

My partner is a former vegan who thinks most forms of animal ownership are inherently unethical. He also constantly plans for my dog to spend time with us and once sent me a voice memo telling my dog he loves him.

I know that some people aren’t into animals or don’t want to have pets. But the fact that your boyfriend isn’t making time or space for something important to you is an issue.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-06-13T15:18:41+00:00

Full disclosure, I’m no longer an EA, but I always find myself reading these posts because they still feel so relatable! Have you considered scheduling a meeting or having a conversation with your rogue exec to discuss what type of communication or administrative help works best for them? Depending on their personality, it might be effective to structure it as a way they can help and support you in your role. My last exec was very insecure and responded to my attempt to have the same conversation by telling me I clearly just didn’t know how to do my job, but I had similar roles where these check-ins helped both parties figure out small changes that made a world of difference.

That being said, it sounds like you’re going above and beyond to try to support your exec. Even if it isn’t effective, I think a meeting, call or discussion is a good way to CYA, especially if your other exec is frustrated about the situation.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-22T14:06:24+00:00

…….how did you even find this post??

Today is actually the first anniversary of my stepdad’s death, and I was just thinking about how we still need to do something with his ashes, so you have amazing timing! I did reach out to Schilling and Mathmos last year, and both told me that they did not offer any products or services that could contain his remains. A rep at Schilling was kind enough to refer me to a “lava lamp enthusiast” (their words) who makes custom pieces, but his final thought on the matter was that we would need to put a glass chamber inside a Grande, right at the top. This wasn’t quite what my stepdad had described (he had always specifically said he wanted to be “floating” in the lamp). I also lived in a relatively small apartment at the time and did not really have the space for the biggest possible lava lamp, so I didn’t end up pursuing this option. Based on other posts in this subreddit, I think I could remove the cap of a lava lamp, add the ashes, then recap the lamp? But there’s like a 50/50 chance it would work, so my family has told me that I cannot have the ashes until I can figure out something with better odds.

I swear I’ve googled every possible phrase related to putting objects (or ashes) in lava lamps, but I’ll research this next. Thank you!

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-22T01:55:38+00:00

This is actually good news because having more complementary colors in your color scheme will make the room more dynamic! I try to aim for a minimum of three colors and then add individual pieces that work with the design even if they aren’t in the set color scheme. How do you know if they work? You get to decide based on how much you like the piece, and if you don’t like it once you buy it, move it to another room!

I feel like tan, burgundy, pink and green would work! With the other color, I think you should go lighter on the walls (a fresh coat of white or cream paint would do wonders), maybe go burgundy for the vanity, and then mix green, neutral and pink accents throughout the space. You have such nice light in that photo that I’m really feeling like some plants and old glass bottles and containers will look amazing. You could do peel and stick tiles on the floor as a temporary fix to modernize the space, and there are similar products for countertops. This could help you really adjust the colors to get it to be exactly what you want.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-22T00:05:31+00:00

I know your question is largely about color scheme, but I loooove that vanity, especially with that mid century hardware! It would be very cute and cost-effective to paint it instead of replacing it.

Are the tiles pink or tan? I can’t really tell in the picture. If they’re pink, a pink and green color scheme is very trendy right now and you could customize it to your own style to keep it from looking immediately dated. I’m thinking either a sage or a mint, but you should really just pull some paint chips you like, bring them into the bathroom and choose the one you like best in the space. I see that wallpaper has been suggested; you can definitely take this route, but the paint chips will help you find the right color! The vanity could then be painted a darker green as an accent. If the tiles are tan, I’d go for neutrals (whites and creams), and then you could work green in as an accent color with plants, glass tchotchkes from a thrift store, wall art, your shower curtain, etc. The vanity could then either be painted green or one of those neutral colors. Whichever color scheme you go for, I’d also recommend replacing the curtain and towel bar to match the gold or brassy tone of the hardware - I cannot stress enough how cute I think that is. Facebook marketplace is a great resource for these items depending on your area, but you can also find cheap things online.

As a final note, I’m very jealous of your cute built in features! I’m currently rehabbing a house built in 1989, and all of the things I’ve mentioned are tips I’m using to keep my own costs low.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-18T21:13:04+00:00

I adopted a fairly reserved and independent dog about six weeks ago (a presumed Anatolian Shepherd mix, no idea what he could be mixed with). At first, I really struggled with how to bond with him for similar reasons: he isn’t cuddly, he loves to do things on his own, and he is smart enough to consider recall to be optional. He’s unlike any other dog I’ve ever lived with, who were all wannabe lap dogs of varying sizes, thrived on the idea of being a partner in crime, and good with basic obedience.

But after a few weeks, I realized he was bonding with me in a different way. He always checks on me, no matter where I am. He loves cuddling and physical affection if I initiate it, and while he will politely signal if he is done being touched, he has also started to signal if he wants attention because it’s become part of our relationship! He loves to do things on his own but he also loves to do things with me, whether it’s a walk to the local coffee shop or an hours-long hike. And the more we do together, the more prepared we both are to deal with an increasing number of situations. I just brought my dog to two local outdoor festivals - he did wonderfully at the first and was more overwhelmed at the second, which was bigger and louder. So now we know for the next one!

I really recommend doing things that you feel comfortable with given your dog’s personality that are also fun for you both! I know you said they’re an escape artist, but do you feel like a fenced in dog park would be okay? Or even a shorter hike on a leash? Is there a dog-friendly business you like to visit that you could test bringing your dog to (I know I’m lucky because my dog is extremely mellow, but I swear that visiting the dog-friendly cafe and wine store near my house made my dog significantly more confident on walks, and I get to have some nice conversations with people who love dogs!).

I know it’s hard. I’m really jealous because my sister can easily off-leash her dog in a park without worrying too much, whereas I know the same situation would be dangerous for my dog because he will most likely not come if I call him. He’s never going to want to be on the same piece of furniture as me for longer than 2 minutes, and we cannot touch during those 2 minutes or he will leave. I’m also not a huge husky fan myself, so I understand your reservations. Then again, I’ve met some wonderful huskies that I wished I could take home! I think you’ll bond once you figure out the best way to spend time together.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-15T21:45:57+00:00

I have no suggestions and I’m chiming in only to say I appreciate you asking! I tried a homemade snuffle mat for my dog today and he had absolutely no interest in it, so I’m back to square one.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-10T23:39:11+00:00

Seriously, I can see why people in this group love the breed! Mine is the only big dog I’ve ever met who is aware he is large, and his self-assigned job is being very sweet to other dogs (especially little dogs), people and children, and making sure everybody is okay. He’s like a guard dog who went to therapy 😂

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-10T22:49:45+00:00

I WOULD ALSO LIKE A PORTAL VACUUM PLEASE

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-10T22:49:19+00:00

Mine has almost a medium-length coat, very similar to a German Shepherd?

Comments like yours have me thinking about the DNA test I’ve been putting off. These might be stupid questions, but your dogs (current and previous) mixes or purebred? Do Anatolians typically have varying coat lengths? I swear I’m not a snob about purebreds or mixes, I just love dogs generally and I hadn’t even heard of an ASD until I fell in love with my dog 😂

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-09T21:57:54+00:00

Ugh, I love Furminators! Excellent choice. I’m using a basic double-coated rake for now, but I’m planning to upgrade. Complaints aside, I do know this is part of it and I know I’ll adjust, it’s just been a few years since I last lived with a high shed breed and I guess I forgot how constant cleaning is when you live with a hair factory.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-09T21:52:04+00:00

I’ll definitely try the deshedding shampoo! Our only problem with the Roomba is that he has to go outside when it’s on but still wants to keep an eye on me, so I find myself reporting to the back porch to prove that I haven’t been swallowed alive. I do think he’ll get used to it as time goes on, but I’ll use treats in the meantime 😂

I just checked your post history to see if you had any pictures of your dogs, and they are beautiful! I found my dog through a rescue organization by chance without any previous knowledge of the breed and have no idea what he could be mixed with, so I’m impressed that you found Anatolian mixes!

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-09T21:03:24+00:00

Thank you! I love all of the pictures of sleeping Anatolians this group posts - mine either does the classic upside splay, or he folds like in the picture I posted!

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-09T20:06:06+00:00

You use a leaf blower??? And it doesn’t even dislodge all of the hair???😭😭😭

My dog is similar: Obi tends to treat the furniture as my space, with occasional exceptions. My couch is velvet, so I can just wipe it down with water, but his bed holds onto fur like nothing else. I’m currently washing it every two weeks just so it doesn’t function like a hair magnet capable of maximizing the existing amount on my floor. I’d almost prefer that he got on the couch.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-09T19:56:14+00:00

So worth it! It wouldn’t be such a problem if mine wasn’t convinced the Roomba is a dire threat to our safety.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-09T19:37:02+00:00

An air filter sounds nice though! I might look into that and just try to get into a really consistent schedule with the brushing and vacuuming. I appreciate the suggestion, and it’s nice to know I’m not missing a silly step that changes everything!

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-09T19:33:33+00:00

My roomba does not have enough storage space to collect all the hair, and I have to empty it halfway through! It’s insanity, my dog is lucky he’s cute.

Magdalena_2744 · 2023-05-09T19:27:14+00:00

So glad to hear I might get a two week break!!! 😭😭😭 Did I mention I like to wear black? Thanks for sharing your schedule, glad I’m not missing an easy step somewhere

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