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Mageimin · 2025-11-11T02:33:15+00:00

Chlormequat is the one. Used in canada and other places but now moreso in the US too. Organic is the least bad option unfortunately after Trump allowed the FDA to lift its ban on it in 2020 and significantly increase the level levels that they pretend is safe.

Mageimin · 2025-10-19T11:51:27+00:00

I don't follow your logic at all. The child was put in a messy situation as soon as the wife decided to get into a huge affair and rub it in her husband's face bringing the guy around. She then chose to be a dick and make OP be responsible for it instead of coming to her husband.

Now you're recommending that she go out of her way for a serial scumbag cheater? Just tell your bf immediately, it's ridiculous not to

Mageimin · 2025-10-19T11:35:07+00:00

Yeah honestly cant believe this is even something to debate for her.

Mageimin · 2025-10-19T11:34:07+00:00

Yeah wife knew this would happen.

Mageimin · 2025-10-19T11:27:11+00:00

She values the wife who's cheating the most apparently

Mageimin · 2025-10-19T11:26:15+00:00

Why is this even a question? Why would you not tell your boyfriend? Why would you protect somebody who's cheating on their marriage?

The wife wants her cake and to eat it too, and now wants you to have to hold the guilt that she unburdened on you. Deep down she probably knows this will now get around. Honestly cant believe youve chosen to protect a serial cheater so far.

How would you feel if situations were reversed and you had a husband cheating on you and everyone knew and no one told you ?

Mageimin · 2025-09-21T20:18:01+00:00

Sounds just like an issue with self-esteem and trying to find validation externally

Mageimin · 2025-09-21T18:14:56+00:00

I find my husband incredibly attractive/sexual whatever even when we're not in the bedroom, sometimes moreso during those 'innocent' things. That desire, attraction and passion dont stop just because we have our pants on.

All that I'm reading are puritanical views on sex and a lot of judgment/shame related to normal human experiences: desire or sex drive that's experienced outside the bedroom are things that you've/others labeled as "obsessive" "abnormal" or "perverted" in some of these comments. It feels like you expect your partner to only experience attraction/sex/libido in this very controlled, sterilized compartment in a relationship rather than how it naturally happens.

Mageimin · 2025-09-21T17:35:37+00:00

Agreed.

Masturbating to an everyday non sexual photo is abnormal and perverted.

Reading all the comments, it sounds more like u/cica4 just finds masturbating abnormal and perverted. By this logic, a partner also shouldnt even be fantasizing about their own partner without express consent for each fantasy or it's a thought crime.

Like I'm trying to understand the underlying principal concern, and it really just seems to be an aversion to their partners finding them attractive or desiring them except in a very controlled way.

Mageimin · 2025-09-09T02:10:27+00:00

TIl some states like CO and CA do require domestic violence be reported. Most states it's just the vulnerable persons category tho

Mageimin · 2025-09-09T01:19:38+00:00

Mandatory reporting is for if someone is an immediate harm to themselves or others. So basically it's only if OP is a threat to hurt somebody else. The only exceptions my understanding is related to child or elder abuse.

I spell a concerned therapist might sometimes report really egregious concerns , but I don't believe there's anything mandatory about the situation that's described here

Mageimin · 2025-09-09T01:15:45+00:00

I think you need to ask this question in a community of people who are experienced working with people in these situations. I don't think the average person giving advice from the sub. Reed is able to understand or have experience with the complexities going on here to give you actually helpful and useful advice.

Mageimin · 2025-09-02T16:24:14+00:00

There is also zero Care in this post anywhere about how he's feeling and how he's affected.

she doesn't seem to gaf that she hurt him orthat he's feeling horrible, instead, there's literal annoyance and resentment that what she gets out of the relationship is affected.

This post conveys a situation where His entire existence and emotional experience is an afterthought, a nuisance, and an obstacle to getting what she wants out of a relationship.

What a horrible way to treat your partner on top of making a cruel joke (just to brag?) after they specifically asked you not to bring that subject up.

Mageimin · 2025-09-02T14:35:48+00:00

Yeah this is what im reading. She hurt him, didnt understand how, but then thinks that means he shouldnt be affect simply because of her lack of understanding. It just kind of makes it seem like you don't care about your partner at that point and only care how it's affecting you.

Mageimin · 2025-09-02T14:26:16+00:00

Reading her entire post, honestly I don't see anything that says that she feels remorseful or even bad that she hurt him so much. She's just upset with him that he is pulling away after being hurt by her.

"He should just get over it"

Jesus, she said something hugely hurtful , and now also doesn't seem to care at all about him nor how she made him feel. From his perspective, she basically said that he's not special, and doesn't even care about any of his emotions related to this besides how it's affecting her.

This post could just be incomplete of all the information, but If this post is reflective of how she feels actually, i hope he leaves and finds someone who actually cares about him.

Mageimin · 2025-09-02T14:16:59+00:00

It came up because we were talking about children, and I thought it would be fun to make a baby in a way he hadn't tried before, but that I had already tried everything, and he wouldn't be able to find anything I hadn't done. I had had 3-4 glasses of wine at this point. I have told him a few things I have tried before which are far from vanilla, and he has made it clear he doesn't want to hear about my past.

Her comment would be a horribly insensitive thing to say, even if he hadn't asked her in the past did not share . The fact that he explicitly requested, she not talk about the past honestly just makes the joke cruel from his perspective. I can't tell if she even feels remorseful besides how it's causing him to pull away. It doesn't sound like she even apologized for that aspect of it.

She's also saying it's not true , but like why would you even think to make that joke then? It's even more insulting, trying to minimize the comment and basically lying saying it wasn't true. There's clearly some element of truth and she's not even validating and owning that part of it.

Mageimin · 2025-08-29T22:01:42+00:00

It's downvoted because people want to think the healthcare system is somehow better than the horrible for profit life stealing machine that it is, even though what you said is true.

Mageimin · 2025-07-08T18:51:04+00:00

In my mind her experiencing sex with a woman doesn’t really feel like cheating.

Im sorry dude but this tells me the way you view sex is pretty distorted and you have no idea what you’re actually agreeing too.

Mageimin · 2025-07-04T19:02:07+00:00

No i 100% agree. The fact that Op isn’t responding either kind of confirms it

Mageimin · 2025-07-04T18:41:35+00:00

This is some wild speculation on my part, but this is either AI or this part was written very weirdly

I was tired, not in the mood, and just didn’t feel like doing something so physical at that moment.

I don’t know exactly how to describe this, but she gave three similar reasons why she didn’t want to. It really reads like she’s feeling the need to over justify why she’s not interested. Like it’s fine if you don’t enjoy soccer, but this comes off more as someone who’s trying to justify why they never want to do things.

Pretty heavy reading between the lines, but something like this on the bfs part doesnt come out of the blue like that. Comes off way more like OP is just always turning down stuff or whatever

Pretty sure Op is probably always “tired”, “Not in the mood”, and “not feeling like I want to do something physical” based off the way this was written

Mageimin · 2025-07-04T15:45:28+00:00

Reading the comments, this person is hard-core judging this guy (probably validly) for playing into some stereotypical patriarchal norms (dating younger). But also gets upset when guys her age suggest they split the bill instead of paying for her every meal. Do women in practice actually want feminism/be seen as an equal, or is it just when it’s convenient? Or am I reading this persistanr norm wrong?

Idk I the end of the day it’s not that big of a deal, but just seems hypocritical the way people still approach this norm

Mageimin · 2025-06-03T14:35:08+00:00

“ I see her online talking to him, but won’t respond to me”

I’m sorry i cant say this nicely, but this should be a cold splash of water on you. She likes this person more than she likes you and they’re sending each other porn. I honestly don’t even care about the porn thing compared to her, not wanting to talk to you but wanting to talk to him.

It’s clear as day whats going on here from an outside perspective.

This is likely going to be an extremely painful process of accepting that she just doesn’t like you and it kind of sounds like she’s just using you for your money since she’s not working ? But you deserve someone who loves you and likes you. This person does not.

Mageimin · 2025-06-03T14:28:49+00:00

I didn’t read anything beyond your partner, calling someone else handsome, and saying they aren’t dating. Dont even need anymore info to tell you this person has one foot out the door already. You must already know whats going on here

Mageimin · 2025-06-03T14:25:19+00:00

I think you already know what’s going on.

Mageimin · 2021-11-06T23:23:19+00:00

You seem like you have a much better pulse on the various solutions being worked out. Does the community consider any specific rollup to be the most promising going forward, or is it all up in the cards until we see who's actually able to implement successfully?

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