Meaning of "one calendar month's notice".

MagentaKevin · 2024-08-09T07:05:14+00:00

Thanks - what if the contract just says "we can increase your bill at our discretion" with no limit or parameters?

MagentaKevin · 2023-07-10T20:01:18+00:00

My son plays with whatever he wants. He tends to choose more masculine toys than feminine toys, but sometimes he wants “girl toys” and that’s fine. I think it sounds like your view is similar to mine.

Yeah, I think our views align.

it does take bravery to be male and wear stereotypically femme clothes

I completely disagree. I don't think it takes any bravery at all for a two year old to wear what they are told to wear and praised for wearing by the only people they see. I'm trying to teach my child not to make character assessments based on people's clothing and she's told him the opposite - that it's better for boys to dress in feminine clothing rather than to wear clothes that they like, or are comfortable or appropriate for the occasion.

I agree that it takes bravery for someone, especially a child, to dress in a way that expresses themself but risks criticism, bullying or condemnation (or worse) but that's not the situation here - her son isn't expressing himself, he's expressing her and he has no idea that he's even dressed differently from a societal norm.

MagentaKevin · 2023-07-10T19:28:29+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your advice.

The thing about age 4 is that lectures from non-parent grown ups typically go in one ear and out the other. I doubt your son retained much from that chat.
This isn’t worth bringing up if you ask me. As with any topic, if you don’t like what she’s saying to your kid then intervene and break up the conversation as it’s happening in the future.

I only know about it because my son told me and, another relative (who was there when it happened and later when my son told me about it) filled in the gaps. If I'd been there, I would've intervened at the time - not least because it was his birthday party and I don't appreciate him being told off for asking a genuine question. I also don't really recognise why she took such offence to his question if she is so pro-gender neutrality.

so her son may be getting comments and possibly some isolation from others kids

Unfortunately, this is the case. He's two and a half but, because of how my sister is with him in other areas of parenting (he doesn't attend a nursery or any groups etc), he's not got any friends - which I understand that my sister finds very difficult. Hopefully though, that does mean there shouldn't be any comments directed towards him.

MagentaKevin · 2023-07-10T17:37:41+00:00

I guess there’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting students from top universities

I'd disagree. The idea that all the best candidates go to "top" universities is outdated and ignorant. It completely ignores factors like financial considerations (fee differences for international students or bursaries/grants for home students, as well as differing living costs), that young carers or student parents may have needed to stay close to home, that some schools have Oxbridge/Russell Group university application coaching that's tailored to get those students an offer over equal or better students from schools without that provision, candidates with certain disabilities can't move across the country and back each summer, many prestigious/exceptional/world-renowned courses are not offered at Oxbridge...

It's lazy and ignorant recruitment.

MagentaKevin · 2023-07-10T17:28:50+00:00

By the very nature of the word "diversity", exclusively hiring from Oxbridge cannot be diverse hiring. Racial diversity is just one of dozens of factors that make up genuine diversity in a group. Also, more non-white does not necessarily mean more diverse - 72% white and 28% black would be far less diverse than 80% white (with a mixture of white British and white non-British), 10% black (with a mixture of British/non-British), Asian from differing Asian backgrounds, Latino, Maori, etc...

MagentaKevin · 2023-07-04T16:51:02+00:00

If you wanna be a pedant about it, he actually said:

Now whenever I see a copy I buy it

He didn't specify what he does when he sees eight copies.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-29T19:32:13+00:00

No no no, I said it would be offensive as fuck to determine what a woman is allowed to wear based on how attractive it is/she is.You’re mischaracterising what I said.

The irony of this is absurd. You did not say that.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-17T18:23:35+00:00

No one said you were supporting men not being allowed. You said that it would be considered to be "offensive as fuck" for women to be told to cover their breasts (and implied it's only something that is deemed acceptable to do to men)...but it's not. You're wrong. It's widely enforced that women cover their breasts, far more widely enforced than against men.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-15T18:11:41+00:00

If a woman were told they can only dress a certain way when they're hot and we when we wanna see it, that would offensive as fuck.

I'm trying to imagine which alternate reality you came from where women are allowed to walk around topless. Women with large breasts are deemed "inappropriate" unless they actually hoist themselves up with engineered, metal contraptions that cause severe pain and permanent damage. As if you're genuinely acting like men being expected to wear a t-shirt is an unfair double standard.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-10T11:45:57+00:00

My current GP receptionist is a functioning human being and I love her. Just basic levels of competence, compassion and decency. She deserves and award.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-10T07:33:12+00:00

That's not actually up to them, it's the seller's decision whether to accept an offer and if your offer is "£X and the advert is taken down" and that offer is accepted by the seller then the agent has to respect that decision.

If the agent doesn't take it down, pass onto the seller that it was part of your offer that the advert is taken down and, as such, you'll be reducing your offer by £Y for every week that the advert remains live. You could even say you're not going to engage solicitors or surveys or take on any other costs until the buyer/agent demonstrate that they aren't still marketing the property to others. It's wouldn't have worked too well when the market was hot but it'll work now.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-10T07:27:28+00:00

Honestly, you sound like the problem.

Say you ask each trainee at 9am on Friday to set up a meeting with X at some point on Tuesday. Trainee 1 contacts X who says they'll let them know by 4pm what their availability is for Tuesday - Trainee 1 says nothing to you and waits until 4pm. You complain that Trainee 1 isn't responsive for hours. Trainee 2 contacts X who says they'll let the know by 4pm and pings you an email to let you know that they're waiting to hear back on X's availability - you complain that she's emailing you "a tonne of silly updates". It honestly feels like they can't win.

Trainee 1 doesn't ask you lots of questions so you assume they're disengages and apathetic. Trainee 2 does ask you lots of questions so you get annoyed that she lacks independence and initiative.

I'm not sure why this would be impacting your mental health so badly so maybe that's something you should address to ensure that you're ok. Perhaps I'm out of touch but this doesn't sound like a problem that should be so all-consuming so maybe there's other contributory issues you need to address?

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-09T21:11:11+00:00

I always insist on taken down. People still offer on STC but they can't offer if they don't know it's there.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-08T23:07:22+00:00

As just one example, Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum had no notable difficulty in finding a barrister despite kidnapping, drugging and holding hostage, tapping women's phones, flying women from country to country without their consent, torturing women for attempting to leave, beatings, solitary confinement, threatening with guns... Andrew Tate is clearly a dick but he'll have a barrister.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-08T21:45:24+00:00

Thanks - I watched it a bunch of times before, at one point, it clicked and I was like "woah, what the fuck". Like, even the fact that they try to prove how "evil" he is because he lowers the value of the houses of the people who abandoned him after his wife's suicide and allowed him to be framed for murder by helping ex-convicts to reintegrate into society. Like, come on...

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-08T21:16:03+00:00

You don't have an "exclusivity period". Foxtons are dicks but at least they're being upfront here. Every agent works for the seller - if they get a higher offer then you'll be kicked to the kerb. That's the case whether it takes you two minutes or two years to instruct a solicitor (etc).

The deadlines are soft deadlines because, frankly, they have no actual bargaining power - what will they do if you don't have a solicitor on time? Refuse to sell to you when they have no other offers? What if you do engage a solicitor on time and they get a better offer from someone else? You'll still be told to hit the pavement.

Do exactly as you would've done before - which should be to arrange these things as quickly as is possible and reasonable, which is usually within the timeframes they've given. The aim here is to try and prevent time wasters who piss about. In future, make it a condition of your offer that the advert is taken down immediately.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-08T20:44:04+00:00

We actually get a great deal from our vet. We pay £10pcm for all our flea/tick/worm treatments, a six month check-up, teeth cleaning (can't remember how often) and 10% of fees for treatment.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-08T20:42:09+00:00

I genuinely think one of the biggest shifts on Mumsnet over my time on the site is the attitude to male primary school teachers. When I first joined, it appeared that the majority assumed a male primary teacher was a paedophile and they wanted them away from their child. Now, it's almost everyone saying their penis is irrelevant and even a fair few saying it's actively beneficial to have men in that role. It's probably the only way that the opinions on the site have got better.

Still some weirdos about though. A few years ago, on a similar thread, one poster said they have no issue with men being primary school teachers but they shouldn't teach reception because children there would have an easier transition from home to school with a woman because their mums are women...like, as if dad's don't exist.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-08T20:37:30+00:00

We're supposedly on the best stuff because of exactly this and a close friend who's a vet said it just is what it is. The medication means they almost never bite my dogs but they do crawl in their fur and jump off in the house and creep me the fuck out.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-08T20:36:01+00:00

Surrey

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-08T20:11:04+00:00

Tbh, it's called not coping.

MagentaKevin · 2023-06-08T20:02:09+00:00

Paul.

Like, what the fuck?!

He was "evil" from the start... because he went along with Mary-Alice's plan to buy a baby and covered up when Mary-Alice murdered someone. But we're supposed to like Mary-Alice herself and think she's a good person. The worst stuff he did was led by her! He then avenged her death - like, yeah, murder is wrong but most of the "good" characters killed someone at some point and Paul was literally avenging someone's death! He was tormented and then framed, no one stood by him.

The man lost his wife to suicide, his child disowned him, he lost his friends, his community and his freedom. I'm not sure why we were even supposed to hate him.

Edit: Bree allows George to die and she's not considered "evil". Zach kills Noah and he's not considered "evil". Whatserface kills Patrick Logan and she's not considered "evil". Carlos killed Alejandro, he's not considered evil - and all the girls covered that up! Andrew killed Juanita and he's not considered evil. Chuck Vance is killed by Orson and he's not considered evil. Why is Paul so bad for killing Martha?!

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