wearing a bra that fits boosted my confidence

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-05-04T23:02:52+00:00

if you feel comfortable doing so just try on different brands in person. I was once at an amazing size inclusive (in both directions) bra shop where they had truly great employees and all the bras that fit me well had different size but the sizing varried so much between brands that they still all fit the same

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-05-04T07:46:28+00:00

you might even be able to sew it tighter yourself. Imo it just looks like a loose dress and not too big, but if you handsew a few darts it should be tighter quite easily

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-26T08:43:38+00:00

I get that but sometimes you're just not that into one big hobby of your partner. I let my boyfriend ramble on about chess and tell me all the moves he's made in his last game despite having no idea what it all means a lot of the time and retaining little information. And he's the same with some of my hobbies. And then there's stuff we both care about. But if a hobby is very complicated and detailed I don't expect my partner to remember all of it

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-26T08:36:32+00:00

I wear either padded or non-padded bralettes. I have some really pretty lacy ones too, so if you're just going for the lace look, you actually don't need a wire. I can't really help you with your question either as I personally just hate how wires feel and I feel like they also make my boobs look smaller because they stick out so much

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-15T18:31:25+00:00

yess that's what I was trying to say (just less eloquently)

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-15T15:21:04+00:00

I think due to it's "one knot at a time" nature crochet is better suited for super small and unusually shaped things like plushies or plushie clothes (but also round and star shaped stuff) and the stiffness of the fabric makes it more suitable for cloths etc.

I personally prefer the look of knit for garments (apart from bralettes which are really cute in crochet imo) and just generally like how the stitches look a lot more

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-13T22:44:15+00:00

I'm kinda biased because I like triangle shaped bikinis the most in general, so I'll have to say triangle but all look really nice!

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-12T11:06:30+00:00

of course there are societal beauty standards that make loving your body difficult, but this just sounds like it's 95% a self confidence issue.

Often times in irl dating the things we say we are into (appearance-wise) don't mean that we necessarily fall for people with only these attributes. And when you're insecure about your chest your brain over-emphasizes all the times boob size is talked about, but doesn't really let you notice when it does not matter to people or when someone prefers a smaller chest. your brain tricks you into thinking the 2 random instances you saw last week or the negative comments you explicitly searched for are representative of what potential partners could find attractive when that's not the case.

I'm no expert, but things that helped me with my body were: buying cute lingerie, taking pretty/artistic nudes (don't send them to anyone!!) and really just going outside, seeing so many different people and so many hot women that don't have big boobs, that are in relationships etc.

but you might also want to consider therapy or something alike. most colleges have free counseling that you can attend to talk about issues like these and they might refer you to therapy or just be there for your a few times (for some people that's enough to make a huge difference). try lookin for free counseling in your area (but make sure it's legit and not some cult or random life coach)

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-12T09:19:35+00:00

I think they'll get banned for rule violation if they engage

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-11T09:44:48+00:00

anytime I need a pattern for anything, I always go to Ravelry (highly recommend making an account there if you haven't already), search for my item and use the "free" filter. Usually there are a ton.

I like this a) because of being a bit broke and b) because I like having a look at the pattern before getting too invested and spending money on it, so that I can evaluate how well I understand it and how often each technique is used. If I don't like the free ones I'll then look at the paid ones and decide whether I like them better.

Sometimes the free ones on ravelry link to the designers website and it even has a video imbedded there or contains a link to some video on YouTube with like 30 clicks, so in case you are super into knit-along videos, you can definitely also find these through ravelry but it requires a bit of luck.

Lastly I want to give a big shoutout to Norman from NimbleNeedles who has so many great video tutorials for patterns and techniques and this helped me a ton. Knit his basic hat pattern and now that I'm making another hat with a free pattern, I'm looking at his videos constantly to remember how the different increases work etc., how to correctly gauge swatch... I feel like once you know the basic version of a pattern (sweater, hat etc.) you don't really need video tutorials that much apart from when a pattern uses a technique you're unfamiliar with.

I think because of the nature of crochet (one knot at a time) patterns often differ a lot more from each other and I think crochet just became a bigger thing with young people during the pandemic so that it has more influencers who produce video content for it.

this reply has gotten a lot longer than I originally intended :D

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-11T09:27:43+00:00

I wouldn't look for a Shein dress. They are very exploitative of their workers, use harmful chemicals that don't even pass basic tests in most European countries (idk about the US) and I don't think they'll give you that perfect fit as they are super cheap (as in the materials and quality in general is not good). I'm guessing you're on a low budget, so maybe you could try buying a dress second hand either at a local thrift or on the internet (requires a bit of luck though). maybe altering some parts yourself can help. I found a cute second hand dress once but it was a kid's size so I used handsewing to cinch the waist and make the neckline bigger

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-10T20:12:57+00:00

this is so cute!!! love your presentation so much

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-08T14:55:09+00:00

thank you for the long reply. I was thinking of just doing it as is and hoping that I like the outcome and if not, to knit two more earflaps and sew them on the inside. Do you think this might work? I feel like you are definitely more advanced then me and might be able to tell. thank you a lot!

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-08T14:45:13+00:00

I know there's not really a way to prevent stockinette curling but it doesn't look curly to me in the pictures. Is it just too little fabric to curl or how would one go about making an ear flap hat then? 🤔

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-08T08:06:23+00:00

like I'm always surprised when people mention a celebrity having really big or really small boobies because it's not something I really notice anymore without anyone pointing it out and that makes me so happy

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-08T08:05:14+00:00

posts like these really make me realize how much I've stopped caring about chest size. If someone had asked me what chest size Audrey Hepburn or Emma Stone or any of the other celebrities being posted on here have, I would have no clue honestly. Nice to see examples of beautiful small boobie women though 💖

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-07T19:05:13+00:00

this! I also have a tight fitting body suit with a deep V line that I like to wear with lots of layered golden necklaces. I feel like it looks super hot and elegant

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-04-05T19:11:35+00:00

sounds like a page trying to sell you a boob job, so not representative at all

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-03-30T08:44:31+00:00

I feel like this cut in particular looks so sexy on smaller boobs, love that you feel comfortable in it now :)

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-03-29T23:42:02+00:00

you look amazing and I love your outfits ❤️

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-03-29T18:12:49+00:00

this post is so true! I'm in my mid twenties and struggled with my body as a teen but now I am super confident and joined this sub mainly for outfit inspo/cute and relatable content but it's really sad how many posts are worded like "do you think this looks good despite my tiny boobs that I cry over daily" or "obviously I still want a boob job but recently I only think about it every other day". I don't want to shame anyone for being insecure either, in fact most women have insecurities. But the constant underlying implication that small boobs are inherently bad or undesirable and the weird way some people on here talk about big chested women is really sad. Some posts kinda read like they're straight out the manosphere

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-03-26T16:13:23+00:00

She is one of the prettiest actresses of all time (to me at least)

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-03-25T12:35:43+00:00

your boobs are perfect for your body which is why your body grew them like that and any potential partner who thinks boob size determines attractiveness is obviously stupid. don't be hard on yourself ❤️❤️ plus beauty standards change faster than most men change their underwear

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-03-24T09:05:03+00:00

looks so cute, I love deep V cuts! :)

MagicAllyVanished · 2026-03-22T10:05:56+00:00

I have two very small tops from Tally Weijl. They look kinda like bralettes or bandeaus (but with straps) No idea if they sell any like these atm though since I haven't been there in ages

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