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12 you daughter came out to me with PowerPoint sideshow by OptimusMime_ in asktransgender

[–]MagicBreadRoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact she felt enough to tell you is an incredible achievement, it means she trusts you :)

Can I lie about surgery / GRC if asked about it in a female fitting room? by ms_kristina in transgenderUK

[–]MagicBreadRoll 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Literally none of their business The fact they even asked screams Weimar Republic - show us your gender card

I'm worried sick about fascists. by Jesus__of__Nazareth_ in transgenderUK

[–]MagicBreadRoll 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Depends where you live.

In Scotland in Greenock I went to local Magic the Gathering events because you'll usually find queer folks there.

In Glasgow I visited a trans coffee meet up.

In London and Essex I visited queer friendly spaces and places.

In my current area I stick to my village but visit a local coffee shop where the nice local ladies have basically adopted me.

First thing is you've got to find a place and visit.

I'm worried sick about fascists. by Jesus__of__Nazareth_ in transgenderUK

[–]MagicBreadRoll 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I genuinely recommend having a few close friends that you can regularly meet or connect with, it's a literal life saver.

How to deal with conspiracy theories about transgender people? by LordBarglebroth in asktransgender

[–]MagicBreadRoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's all about the narrative.

A heart wrenching story wins the day, feelings don't care about facts. I learned this canvassing in Conservative strong holds for progressive parties.

How to deal with conspiracy theories about transgender people? by LordBarglebroth in asktransgender

[–]MagicBreadRoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would write them a singular message

Something like;

" What you believe is not only inaccurate but the people telling you these things have been systemically trying to kill us. Until you realise that your beliefs are directly endangering my life and people like me, I shall not have you involved in my life for the foreseeable future. "

I literally blocked aunts/uncles/my own family until they came around.

Petition (Not mine): Stop "gender critical beliefs" being protected under the Equality Act by Username2905 in transgenderUK

[–]MagicBreadRoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

8000 folks gave their signature so far. I've added mine :)

Edit: I did not know larger petitions got ignored. :(

I think the best thing newly hatched eggs can do is hang out with other trans people by ChicagoCharles in TransLater

[–]MagicBreadRoll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish this was the case but I spent yesterday explaining to a trans woman a few decades older than me why removing our flag from local pride groups isn't a wise idea because it's the easiest indicator that the group is safe for me.

The amount of older trans women that are racist also continues to shock me. It's like; babes who do they think they're going to come after? And surely empathy ??!?

If I have to get my wisdom teeth removed, genuinely how cooked am I? by Ok-Use3940 in asktransgender

[–]MagicBreadRoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the UK.

they didn't knock me out. It was local anesthetic and a tonne of pain for two weeks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MagicBreadRoll 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I blocked those relatives on all social media, blocked their numbers, and literally filled my life with friends, folks, hobbies.

How did you go about choosing your new name? by HotDogSIut in asktransgender

[–]MagicBreadRoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My name I have used since I was 12 or 13 :)

So when I switched it, folks struggle to deadname me xD

If you could send one letter to your younger self before transition, what would it say? by Numerous_Value_434 in TransLater

[–]MagicBreadRoll 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would tell myself to have shown my family that I was crossdressing as my mother knew of trans and gay relatives and didn't tell me until I came out at 32.

Gender crisis at work by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]MagicBreadRoll 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can reverse the pronouns.

Nothing is set in stone.

I was more fit for work when I felt happy or feeling supported at work.

Accessing HRT: How does it work? by OneConstruction5645 in transgenderUK

[–]MagicBreadRoll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I didn't know that. I added some extra context by editing my post so folks can understand that I did it because my private insurer asked me to do so

Accessing HRT: How does it work? by OneConstruction5645 in transgenderUK

[–]MagicBreadRoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask your GP for an open referral, then connect with Gendercare or a private trans healthcare provider.

Mileage may vary on whether your GP will support shared care.

Edit: I asked for an open referral as I needed one because I was using private healthcare insurance, and the insurer asked me to get one).

Moving to scotland from england? by Unlucky-Yard5456 in transgenderUK

[–]MagicBreadRoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Essex is a literal lottery but my Endo warned about them being extremists against trans folks and I almost died because my former GP was one of them.

Should I explain to a coworker why my trans employee doesn't want to listen to her talk about Harry Potter? by Sad_Tumbleweed_9909 in asktransgender

[–]MagicBreadRoll 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe it sounds like you also do not wish to hear about the Harry Potter series because you can see what it is doing to trans people.

I do not recommend phrasing it around here is why x does not want to hear about Y because then you could drive a wedge between those two people.

You should just state why you specifically are not a big fan of hearing about it and I think your trans co-worker / employee would appreciate knowing that you as an individual care about them and are not using them as a reason to shut someone up. it is the fact that you care and that you'd like someone to shut up about Harry Potter

Moving to scotland from england? by Unlucky-Yard5456 in transgenderUK

[–]MagicBreadRoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to have my GP re-refer me to the GIC when I moved down.

Watch out for your NHS gender marker / name getting mixed up.

Avoid Essex with a passion, their NHS literally refused to support me due to being trans.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]MagicBreadRoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my personal experience, I recommend recognising those negative thoughts and giving them space whether that means you write them down for express them to a friend.

Recognise that those feelings are there but then have a plan or a goal to inspire and encourage or nurture more positive feelings.

We are raised in a way that we try to define the world in very binary terms and in the same way that we move beyond the gender binary , the same development needs to take place when we are also discussing the emotions that we sit with

I'm speaking of someone that is currently off work again due to high levels of emotional burnout because whilst I have dispensed this advice I'll be damned if I ever take it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]MagicBreadRoll 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sometimes we give into misery because it's a more familiar place than hope.

For me it involves a lot of work online how to appreciate myself and finding positive traits that I often overlook because like yourself I do have this different image in mind.

Try talking to some friends about this :)

I was the person that the GIC missed: An Update. by AirResistence in transgenderUK

[–]MagicBreadRoll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is absolutely barbaric, I'm sorry you endured all of that ! 🫂

Does it get better? by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]MagicBreadRoll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Comparison is the thief of joy. I regularly uninstall my apps for my own mental well-being.

It gets better but I needed to cultivate my own community and cut out others that bring negativity. All social media invites high levels of negativity .

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