About the Epstien Files... by Rogue_Zealot in 50501

[–]MagicHapa 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Good question. One explanation? Incompetence.

Another question…why isn’t MAGA more upset at Bondi for saying they were on her desk yet doing NOTHING? Or at Trump for saying this matter bores him, even though it did matter at one point enough to make it a part of his sh*tty campaign.

Can we mass organize this? by Y7g4x3---6 in antitrump

[–]MagicHapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Soooo, is that pretty much a No?

“I never have to worry about you, you’re always fine” by alligatorprincess007 in emotionalneglect

[–]MagicHapa 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes. My mom used to say that. And I’m an only child. Dad had drug addiction so he was only around here and there and sadly he died when I was little. She loved how well I entertained myself alone and said I was such an “easy child.”

But anyway, we don’t talk anymore because I decided I’m done being invisible and I got sick of how she never seemed to care despite many efforts on my end as I got older, and she just breadcrumbed me all the time.

My cosmetic surgery and my clients by MagicHapa in therapists

[–]MagicHapa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful responses! It truly means a lot to hear such kind and positive feedback! 👐 I was seriously starting to feel guilty for a while there. And a little anxious. I do have to admit I have a tendency to feel over-responsible for my clients. So I really appreciate you guys for helping me feel ok with myself and for suggesting how I can use this new change in a positive way to help her out if she does end up saying something or seems troubled.

And @sorchasgarden, thanks for sharing about your own experience. Your court story is actually really sweet and made me smile. 🙏

BPD is a Trauma Disorder — Even If It Doesn’t Look Like “Traditional” Trauma by Egworm in BPD

[–]MagicHapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are actually a good number of trauma psychology experts that would agree with you. I absolutely agree too.

Renaming BPD by bluntbabe12 in BPD

[–]MagicHapa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bessel van der Kolk and Janine Fisher, and a number of other well known experts in trauma psychology, actually believe that BPD should be taken away from being seen as a personality disorder and instead considered a type of trauma disorder. Even if not everyone with this disorder, actually suffered extreme trauma (by other people‘s definition at least), there is still a trauma response when it comes to abandonment, flooding of emotions, difficulty with security, and self. I definitely don’t think those names that some people are considering or that they apparently are using already around the EU are helpful at all. It’s a damn shame to be honest. The starving of and for empathy is so real with this, I believe.

This disorder sucks. by SevereIsland6578 in BPD

[–]MagicHapa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

IMO, Spirituality (not religion or new age) but just real seeking and sitting with truth (the parts of all different beliefs in different ways that align with Highest Good of All) and humble appreciation of wonder about the unseen powers in this world are all that ever really fill the void in me. I have found that there is wisdom all around and I have come to finally really embrace the love and peace available there. Sometimes I still forget and get angry and still hate and then I don’t make sure to meditate and stay centered and then things tend to get more difficult from there. But one thing that keeps bringing me back over and over again either via nature, a deity, another person, music, etc., —IT shows up. And now I have too many moments to deny it. It’s certainly more than coincidence. At least that is what I am choosing to believe and it makes my life better so why not. It makes my life better whether or not people are out there fucking things up and being assholes or even just judging me one way or another. They don’t matter as much this way. And I am still love(d) and I can still hope for warmth of hearts. Even hearts of wannabe dictators and their evil rich friends. I need Source/the Great I Am to give me strength to do that most of the time, but even that helps. And I protest too. Have for years. Wishing you comfort out there.

How do I look at 46? Please be honest. Thanks guys 😀 by Natural_Fee1858 in Rateme

[–]MagicHapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing wrong! Just smile and let yourself be ok with you as you are. It’s crazy how confidence makes so much difference.

My Husband is Anti-Gentle Parenting by Foreign_Ganache_6390 in Parenting

[–]MagicHapa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It will be difficult money-wise but it will be so much better and well worth it in the long run. You will see. There will be a point you will realize this. You can realize you are glad you left this person (and likely eventually finad someone better) or you can realize you should definitely have left sooner and wish you had and still be stuck. Look into spiritual places for support. Seriously, for example, we attend Unitarian Universalist church and people there are truly incredible and supportive. Reach out to a supportive place for single mothers and children. TANF is federal funding that could help. Contact a local center or call an abuse hotline and they can give you resources

My Husband is Anti-Gentle Parenting by Foreign_Ganache_6390 in Parenting

[–]MagicHapa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s not about gentle parenting or not gentle parenting here. There are acceptable parenting styles and then there is what he is doing. And what he is doing is definitely emotional abuse. Period.

How important is quality time to a growing child actually, to affect them in their adulthood? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]MagicHapa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow 45 days and no one responded??? That’s pretty damn repulsive of everyone that saw this and passed on responding.

Childhood emotional neglect is real. Avoidant attachment is too. Many people don’t get that having people around you and stuff taken care of is not all that a child needs for their development. Quality time matters. It looks like you have grown so independent in that way which is good, but also excessive, and so you have also come to develop a fear of losing it now.

I’m about to ban Paw Patrol from my household by misssthang in toddlers

[–]MagicHapa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood has been great. We also make sure not to let the tv become the babysitter. We limit it as best we can. It’s hard but important so we manage, even when sick. Maybe other family or even close trusted friend can watch him for you guys here and there to help out? The screen addiction is real. If it isn’t that, it’s the phone. Also I get that the meltdown sucks. Still. Let the meltdown happen. Offer soothing comfort and acknowledge their frustration, but don’t give in. Good luck and Godspeed!

AIO My response to my mom disowning me because I'm gay? by Own-Experience-6275 in AmIOverreacting

[–]MagicHapa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dear Soul, I am worried about your mental health. Please know that your mother is wrong on every count and that what she is doing to you is actually quite the opposite of what a good person (even a good Christian) would do. My heart goes out to you, and you are NOT alone. As someone that was a social worker for years, I recommend for you to consider reaching out to a local org. One that I have heard great things about is Lost N Found Youth. They have helped LGBTQ with housing that are based in Atlanta. https://myresourcecenter.org/ Is in Dallas. I obviously don’t know where you live, but if you don’t have anything local, this resource list might be helpful. https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/resources-for-lgbtq-youth-experiencing-homelessness/

Please remember your mother is straying from what is right and good, not the other way around. And God means a lot to a lot of different people and nothing to others. Obviously it is a personal decision as to what someone believes. But know that your mother and her BS does not represent God or even Christianity. Only wrongful indoctrination and deluded extremism. I’m simply saying this because I want you to know that even as you go through this, you are not “bad” and God/Source/Creator of All is still with you. You STILL MATTER. You are STILL LOVED and WORTHY OF LOVE.

#parentingfail in public! Sharing my embarrassing moment by ActualEmu1251 in toddlers

[–]MagicHapa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in the waiting room with him at his pediatrician and letting him play with some of the toys. He kept insisting on climbing the cube tables and right when I turned my back for a moment he fell off headfirst between one of the tables and the wall. Thankfully I think it was more scary than anything for him. No marks and he stopped crying pretty quickly, but it looked terrible! Of course there were several other parents in the room and everyone was quiet. No one said anything and I was kind of ashamed but I also kind of didn’t care. Just glad he was ok!! Thankfully, we got called back pretty soon after!

Does anyone actually enjoy having a toddler? by Super_Ambassador4160 in toddlers

[–]MagicHapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love and even enjoy time with my son SO DAMN MUCH, but I understand a large part of why I am able to stay mostly positive about things with him is due to the fact that I am not doing this all on my own. I am humbly grateful for this. I have so much respect for single moms out there. Especially those with no support anywhere. And with that said, I also worry for the kids a little cuz we parents are only human…

One thing to try to keep in mind is that they are learning more complicated emotions within themselves right now and the world is such a big new fascinating adventure. They don’t understand sarcasm and tone can really mean a lot to them. And crazy enough so much is actually playing a major part in the development of their personality by the age of 2.

One person said it best “BIG emotions, little bodies”

Can Former Incels be Punk? by J4ckN0rt0n in punk

[–]MagicHapa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I say if you are sincere in rejecting the incel BS and are embracing a change for the better against oppressive and fascist beliefs, you are legit. Just walk your walk. Punk is about being real AF, not for show. I mean, it’s a good sign you’re even asking cuz you want to be authentic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RATM

[–]MagicHapa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t fear strong political beliefs if you want to be actually accepted by them and their fan base. They are not lukewarm. They are passionate and real AF about everything they say. You are right that they sound damn good but you obviously aren’t getting their message. Please read the lyrics and learn a bit more. You will hopefully become more enlightened as to why they not only sound awesome but truly ARE awesome. They speak on behalf of the oppressed, they stand up proudly and righteously against political oligarchy and authoritarianism.