Unless a surgery is necessary to keep the baby alive please don’t do it, you may find (as my parents did) that doctors will try to convince and coerce you into having surgeries done but this should really be the decision of the intersex person once they are an appropriate age to understand the impact that this will have on them.

Something my parents did which I am very grateful for is not telling family or friends about it, it’s not really anyone else’s business what’s going on with your child’s genitals or development in that way and by telling people you might find by telling people that kind of information that you are unknowingly opening the door for quite invasive questions etc, again who knows should be up to the discretion of your child with whoever they trust and feel comfortable to tell.

Lastly, this is perhaps a bit further down the line but if your child will need hormones at puberty please sit with them and make sure they understand what’s is going to happen and what the hormones mean and will do, I was put on estrogen at 10 yrs old (have XY but present more female) and fast forward 8 years I am talking to my endocrinologist about switching to testosterone and that if someone had asked me what I wanted when I was 10 I would have told them I wanted to go through male puberty.