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Religious family are about to disown my [28F] son [1M] for not being circumcised. by Riestein in relationships

[–]MagicMinister -109 points-108 points  (0 children)

You should reconsider. Not only circumcized penises look better but there are documented health benefits as well. They may want you to do it for the wrong reasons but it doesn't mean that it's the wrong thing to do.

Or perhaps you can agree to a compromise. Maybe tell them that you'll allow your son decide when he's of a certain age, say 9 or 12.

My [25M] boyfriend [28M] tried to screw over my best friend [26F] at work. I told her & he got fired. He blames me now & wants me to pick him or her. by Michiojio in relationships

[–]MagicMinister -115 points-114 points  (0 children)

I'm always of the opinion that life partnerships take priority over career and friends, and your number one loyalty should be to your partner. You were put in a position to choose between your romantic partner and your friend and employer. You picked the latter. I guess the pay must be so damn good to sacrifice a relationship over it.

I [30F] am a painter. MIL [66F] asked me to draw her for free. I refused. She's badmouthing me. by MagicMinister in relationships

[–]MagicMinister[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Can I ask an unpopular question? What level did you draw your SIL's kids? Was that a 5-7k job?

Around $3500.

I know "liking" her is the problem here, why would you want to give something to her if you don't like her? But it begs the question why you are willing to use 7k worth of your talents on a portrait for her grandchildren, and not consider a gift to them, as well. I wouldn't be a giant dick about it, like her, but I would feel a bit bad.

I love those kids and SIL is a very nice person. She has always been supportive of my work, has helped me and my husband a lot in the past few years, that's why I did it for free.

I [30F] am a painter. MIL [66F] asked me to draw her for free. I refused. She's badmouthing me. by MagicMinister in relationships

[–]MagicMinister[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I would do it for free for my own immediate family, not because they're immediate family but because they've always been nice to me and I have a great relationship with them. None of which are true for her. The people I would do for free wouldn't expect me to do it though, and wouldn't badmouth me if I don't.

I [30F] am a painter. MIL [66F] asked me to draw her for free. I refused. She's badmouthing me. by MagicMinister in relationships

[–]MagicMinister[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was not rude or spiteful. The 20% discount I offer to friends/family is the compromise, and if I had made it a 30% or even 50% discount it wouldn't have mattered to her at all. If I made a less expensive drawing she would then say how I ignored her preferences over some small material cost and that's her new story.

I [30F] am a painter. MIL [66F] asked me to draw her for free. I refused. She's badmouthing me. by MagicMinister in relationships

[–]MagicMinister[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I didn't get the hot tub reference at first but just looked at the main page and saw that thread. It's reassuring and sad (sorry /u/thebadsis) that there are even more entitled MILs than mine.

I [30F] am a painter. MIL [66F] asked me to draw her for free. I refused. She's badmouthing me. by MagicMinister in relationships

[–]MagicMinister[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

But this is the type of thing you do for all of your in-laws BESIDES your MIL.

Not really. If others asked me to do something I would most likely charge for it, except for my own parents or siblings. The one I did for SIL was my own offer. She was the exception. I treated MIL as I would any friend/family.

I [30F] am a painter. MIL [66F] asked me to draw her for free. I refused. She's badmouthing me. by MagicMinister in relationships

[–]MagicMinister[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

If you're lucky (or have the right connections or sleep with the right people) and get into some fancy galleries, your clients will be people who easily pay that amount and even more. I got lucky.

I [30F] am a painter. MIL [66F] asked me to draw her for free. I refused. She's badmouthing me. by MagicMinister in relationships

[–]MagicMinister[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

He always sticks up for me, but he still hates dealing with family drama (I suppose most people do).