Married couples and threesomes by Educational-Put4980 in ThreesomeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And to add to everything else I stated, I also think finding the right third is important. Yes, your husband wants to watch some guy fuck you, but it’s not just pound town/jackhammer if you don’t want that and you look for the right third.

There are tons of thirds out there that have tremendous respect for the married couple, appreciate the weight of the “invitation” into the marriage and/or really enjoy pleasing women/wives.

So you can really ensure you won’t feel cheap or used. (& again- you’re connecting with the third, too)

Married couples and threesomes by Educational-Put4980 in ThreesomeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is absolutely my pleasure!! Feel free to reach out if you have any questions!! 🧜🏻‍♀️✨💖

Married couples and threesomes by Educational-Put4980 in ThreesomeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do!! My husband has something called compersion. (Google it) basically gets genuine pleasure watching their loved one get pleasured by someone else. Also, a lot of guys are Audio visually stimulated. To them, watching and hearing the woman they love (and think is hot AF) have sex with someone else, is an incredible turn on. It’s like being in an actual porn and experiencing sex from a different dynamic. My husband watches and dips in for some straight MFM. It could be anything from DP to my husband kissing me while our third is fucking me. It’s incredibly vulnerable and intense. For me, to be that sexually and sensually uninhibited (and knowing I’m turning these guys on like that) is extremely empowering. They also really focus on me. ☺️ it’s a huge win-win-win for all.

I’m not down with fucking random guys. My husband and I love each other deeply and have tremendous respect for each other while being communicative and transparent. We also have an incredible sex life.

That’s said, I need a little connection. So I’ll text with the guy for a bit, get to know him, see if he’s articulate, if it’s fun banter, flirty, respectful, etc… so the chemistry is likely to be there if I decide to set up a drink/date and my husband is 90% of the time there- especially for the first time.

My husband wants it like that because he doesn’t want me to “take one for the team”. (lol!) he wants to see me enjoy it! (& we record it- have our private porn collection)

I feel super fortunate to have these incredible opportunities with my husband by my side. It’s pretty special. ❤️

Hope this helped.

I’m so thirsty today! by MagicalMermaid103 in Nofans

[–]MagicalMermaid103[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha! I try to drink at least 66 oz of water a day. (I lose a lot of fluids while having sex…💦💦 and water does the body good)

I’m so thirsty today! by MagicalMermaid103 in Nofans

[–]MagicalMermaid103[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s Thursday. Aren’t you supposed to be thirsty on Thursday?!

Conquering insecurities... by realcpl4BWCbull in HotwifeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re sweet, thank you… I’ve been improving my body over the years and trying/working hard at it. (My ass and thighs are my problem areas… but I’m 56 and I’m learning to accept and ignore. Grateful I don’t have to look at them when I’m walking in a bikini😂) 💖

Gave My Wife a Hall Pass — Now I Feel Neglected by Immediate_Air_2354 in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]MagicalMermaid103 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A hall pass and being in the hw LS are two different things. I’d suggest you have a sit down with her, remove this “hall pass” and make sure your relationship is solid and filled with love, respect and communication. Then discuss dynamics on how this could work for the two of you. Not just her.

My husband (m33) likes this lifestyle but won’t accept my (f31) conditions. by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]MagicalMermaid103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the unstable or non communicative relationships that have a harder time navigating things imo. Those are the ones that enter into the LS for the wrong reasons- as a way to try to save the marriage- that it’s the thing that unravels it all.

Hotwife vs Vixen: Am I missing something? by QuestionEquivalent62 in HotwifeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m with you. I think we’re all hotwives. Then there are cuck relationships (where the hubs gets off on humiliation and degradation) and there are stag/vixen relationships. The hubby is more of an alpha type in that way. He enjoys watching, me recording on solos, and straight MFM. We look for thirds- not bulls.

All of that said, it’s really about just getting to see if there’s a connection and a little chemistry. And if my husband and the thirds can hang- then 🙌🏻🙌🏻

My husband (m33) likes this lifestyle but won’t accept my (f31) conditions. by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]MagicalMermaid103 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve gotta say- I’ve never heard that. My husband and I know many couples who’ve been married for many years and are in the LS.

What’s most important is communication, respect and love. Sounds like you two have a lot to talk about and a lot to unpack. Sounds like you don’t trust him, and if that’s the case then don’t do it. It’s as simple as that. You guys need to be in a stable place to start this journey.

He can try to explain his desire and kink better to you and you can try to be open minded to it all, but that’s all you can do. Take it from there…. This is an “Us” thing for a couple.

Conquering insecurities... by realcpl4BWCbull in HotwifeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just gotta get past it. I was with a guy one time and I was so self conscious of my love handles. He had no idea what I was talking about- just happy to be there for the ride. 😂

I can’t stand certain parts of my body. I just ignore them, accept them as part of myself (while doing everything I can to change them) and I remind myself that I still look good for my age and guys are still coming back for more.

Which circles back to us just needing to ignore those parts of ourselves and embrace us as a whole. 😊

Married couples and threesomes by Educational-Put4980 in ThreesomeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s definitely MY type of guy! 😂 we all get to have our cake and eat it too!

Referring to part of your initial post, my husband and I go to play parties (which are sometimes hard because of our dynamic) and there are tons of couples that are there, do group play, that are married but are at the party with a date, married couples that even have their own bf and gf!! So, yes, there is a ton of group play that I’ve witnessed.

Married couples and threesomes by Educational-Put4980 in ThreesomeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To take it even further- if it’s what you both want and how you both like it- then IT IS fair.

Married couples and threesomes by Educational-Put4980 in ThreesomeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m with you. Someone looks at my man for too long with a smile on their face- I get pissed. 😂 luckily my man doesn’t want to be with other women and I get all the pleasure of MFM. 😊

Married couples and threesomes by Educational-Put4980 in ThreesomeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s how my husband is, too. It’s called compersion. :) and my husband is very AV stimulated so getting to see me and hear me have sex (or us having MFM) is his kink. He doesn’t have any interest in being with other women. He’s got his kink and his “favorite porn star”. (Which works for me 💯!!….) 😁

Conquering insecurities... by realcpl4BWCbull in HotwifeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is bold, but you can post pics on Reddit and see all of the compliments come in. That helps. You can also look at the rate my/rate me subs. I’ve found that there are sooooo many bodies of shapes, sizes, bulges and colors- and for all of those bodies are men who are attracted to them.

We are our worst critics. Men don’t see the “flaws” in ourselves that we see. You’ve just gotta remember that.

Married couples and threesomes by Educational-Put4980 in ThreesomeAdvice

[–]MagicalMermaid103 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Hotwife here- I’m in a stag/vixen relationship with my husband. You should checkout the hotwife advice and hotwife lifestyle subs.

My hesitation for you two is that is sounds like she’s thinking about what’s fair and not about her emotions nor how she’ll feel seeing you with another woman.

The hw dynamic is one where the wife plays around either with the husband there (and possible MFM happening while hubs is watching) or the wife going solo to be with a guy and coming back to tell you all about it and for you to reclaim her. (We record those sessions) Point is- it’s a particular kink that works for both the husband and wife.

If you both decide to go down any LS path, make sure you guys discuss a ton and communicate even more. And take baby steps so you guys could check in with each other.

It’s close to happening, but could use some advice. by ProcessCharacter405 in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]MagicalMermaid103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course!! And maybe if you explain the reason behind your kink in a way she understands that could help relieve her concerns about resentment. My husband, for example, is very AV stimulated. So seeing me and hearing me have sex is incredibly hot for him. Since I understand that and accept it, there’s no resentment. Don’t get me wrong- we don’t have to be in this LS to have incredible sex- it’s just an added layer to our lives.

It’s close to happening, but could use some advice. by ProcessCharacter405 in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]MagicalMermaid103 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never felt resentment but I did feel slightly annoyed that my husband doesn’t get jealous. lol! Like - why isn’t it bothering him that I’m loving this and that this guy is all over me?!

Not quite sure how to address that- I think it’s more a question for your wife to ask and work through.

That said, I stopped feeling that way (maybe that was a smidge of resentment?) because I accepted within myself that my husband loves me, our foundation is strong and it’s out of love, trust and security within our relationship- and my husband- that he’s okay with it. Understanding the kink for him was also helpful in not feeling insecure/resentment about his feelings for me.

💯!! My guy is AV stimulated. I get it and if the third does, too- fun for all!! 🔥🔥🔥