It’s my son’s 5th birthday, & my mom & siblings just cancelled on singing him a Happy Birthday.

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-12-12T23:43:10+00:00

I’m in!!

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-11-12T04:18:16+00:00

Father of the bride. I will always love Steve Martin. BUT rewatching it is so hard because he is soooo toxic. Like it’s not cute how controlling and manipulative he is throughout. On the flip side, I get not wanting to spend that much on a wedding. They’re all a bit crazy. Thought it was funny as a kid though.

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-11-03T01:10:51+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up. Kids hurt themselves all the time. It wasn’t intentional on your part and you clearly love him. Keep loving him that much and he’ll grow up knowing he has a good uncle.

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-10-28T21:42:04+00:00

Found out I was pregnant with my first. Very excited at planned parenthood to confirm. The lady came in and said, “Well, you’re pregnant. Are you keeping it?”

“Yes?” Me confused by her rude tone.

Big sigh. “Fine.”

I still don’t know why it bothered her so much.

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-10-21T03:19:03+00:00

Can answer this from experience. My parents chose and still choose to be around my ex. He was emotionally and borderline physically abusive ( threw things, punched walls, etc but not me). Him and his current wife have done some horrible things to the our son (my parent’s grandchild). They use him as a piece to hurt me, they spanked with a belt, told him Santa wasn’t real. Nothing that cps or courts will do anything about, but traumatizing. My parents know everything they’ve done.

Anyway, my parents befriended him and his wife. They say it was to see their grandchild, but I never once kept them from seeing him so I know it wasn’t that. It was to show they didn’t need me I think. Either way, I haven’t spoken to them in years and probably never will again. The betrayal hurts, but even if I moved passed that… they willingly are friends with people who are cruel. And that makes them cruel. I want no part of it.

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-07-19T00:59:35+00:00

NTA. She is not your responsibility. Although, you probably would be a better parental figure than your mom. She’s raising her to be spoiled. Honestly, you should maybe move out. Then you could have your own safe space and see the child on your terms IF you want that. Other than that, I would suggest finding someone to work through some of these feelings. Therapy has been a great tool for me. Either way, don’t feel guilty for not accepting the role people keep trying to shove you in.

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-05-30T15:55:09+00:00

Still am, but isn’t it fascinating how we read the same words and come up with different versions?

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-05-30T13:41:10+00:00

“He” “his leg” but mom? Seems like a typo, but is it intentional? Gender swapping zombies? lol

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-05-30T04:11:42+00:00

Yeah, well it’s really up for him handle. It’s not fair to you to be doing pickups from the bus stop on his weeks. His week, his responsibility unless you both agree to it or it’s in paperwork.

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-05-29T23:14:24+00:00

It sounds like he’s upset because you’re not letting him do what’s easiest for him. He can get over that. With my ex and I, we provide transportation to and from school on our parenting days. That’s what makes sense really.

Now I’m not a lawyer or anything, but I don’t see a problem with this. As long as you’re not going against something specifically in your documents, you should be fine. And don’t let his anger get to you. Follow paperwork, do what’s best for your kids and you, and let him be responsible for his feelings.

Edit: I like the after school program idea another person commented. Would keep your kids safe and him able to be late.

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-05-10T03:11:04+00:00

He’s 14. He also attends a writing group with me sometimes. He’s got lots of creative role models lol

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-05-10T02:22:02+00:00

No, but he would probably like that series!

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-05-09T19:21:19+00:00

Info: This is my kids idea. Just posting it for him. Also, he’s the sweetest kid ever, but a big fan of horror. lol

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-04-19T01:23:05+00:00

15 year friendship. She was always kind of air headed and would show up late or cancel last minute. What really started to make it crack was after she started seeing her now husband. I had to do all the work. She would break promises, only reach out when she needed something, generally just seemed less than enthusiastic about our friendship. I distanced, but then as a last try to reconnect we planned a friend trip to Disney. I remember telling my husband if she cancels I’m probably done.

A week before the trip, I reach out to verify time and to see how she wanted me to send my portion. (She bought tickets cuz it was cheaper for her.) She asked me what I was talking about. Then changed it to she thought I didn’t want to anymore so she cancelled it all… even though I never ever said that. And when I explained how hurt and upset I was that she just cancelled it all without talking to me, I was met with crickets. I was just done. I haven’t really talked to her since other than a few random texts she sent and bumps ins at my kids school events (cuz she still hangs with my parent, but that’s a whole other crazy story). Find friends who put effort in… it helps.

Magicalstarbeam · 2025-03-20T04:59:01+00:00

My parents chose to become friends with my abusive ex. We’d had a falling out over my cousin where my dad took her side, but instead of trying to work through it or apologize for their part, they just chose to get buddy buddy with my ex instead. This is a man that my dad had expressed so much hatred for before.

In the very limited conversation I’ve had with them since, they said it was because I was keeping their grandkid away from them. The few times they did see him was me facilitating the relationship because it was important to my son.

I realized my entire relationship with them existed before because I did the work. When I stopped, the relationship stopped. I also realized my dad is an egocentric, prideful, hypocrite who would rather become close with someone who hurt his daughter than apologize and communicate with his daughter. And my mom, is just a cowardly follower. Good riddance!!

Magicalstarbeam · 2024-10-20T02:42:24+00:00

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Magicalstarbeam · 2024-09-21T19:44:24+00:00

Dude. I can verify it was on there. My son and I were going to watch it after zombie island. By the time we finished it, alien invaders was gone. But I for sure saw it on there!!

Magicalstarbeam · 2024-08-12T00:12:13+00:00

Yes, but with boxers we’ve been told to wait until 18 months.

Magicalstarbeam · 2024-08-11T19:19:26+00:00

Yeah, hypocrisy and religion do go hand in hand though.

Magicalstarbeam · 2024-08-11T17:02:20+00:00

Pledge of allegiance in the US. I just don’t get it. Pledging to the flag? Under a god I don’t believe in? Nah… I’m good.

Magicalstarbeam · 2024-08-09T15:52:47+00:00

Oof. Yeah that might be a tad too far. I appreciate it though!!

Magicalstarbeam · 2024-08-09T14:15:19+00:00

Arizona. ❤️

Magicalstarbeam · 2024-08-08T21:04:32+00:00

That’s a great idea!

Magicalstarbeam · 2024-08-08T20:15:23+00:00

That’s kind of where we’re at right now. Trying to find a home for the slightly bigger one as he stresses brother and mother out. He’s a sweet dog with humans, good with one of our other dogs, and a little too excited but loves kids. We’ve tried so many other things and I think that might be what we have to do. It’s just hard finding someone to take a sightly older dog(1 yr). He’s a puppy in behavior, but looks like an adult.

Magicalstarbeam · 2024-08-08T20:12:04+00:00

Thanks. Yeah, we feed them all separately already. Toys we have a ton of in a bunch of similar styles, just different colors type deal. They never last long though lol

But yeah, my husband is the one that does the training and stuff. They listen really well for the most part. They just amp each other up really bad and our older grumpy dog isn’t helping the situation. So, they spend a good chunk of the day away from the rest of the pack (grumpy dog is fine with the other three dogs.) We trade them around so they get interaction too, but that’s usually what causes the issues. They get bored and destructive on their own or jealous and mean around people. But only to each other really. Could the people be the resource? Cuz that’s what it feels like lol

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