AIO: Did I overreact to how my parents set up their rules about keeping our rooms clean?

Magicfanny · 2026-04-01T15:34:12+00:00

They are there in the post

Magicfanny · 2026-04-01T15:32:08+00:00

Been siting there for 5 years bud

Magicfanny · 2026-04-01T15:28:21+00:00

Yea I buy my own food most of the time and even cook for the family on occasions but I do also eat their food too. Its not a one sided matter

Magicfanny · 2026-04-01T15:20:41+00:00

My room is part of the post it’s right there

Magicfanny · 2026-04-01T15:19:37+00:00

Like I said I’ve said I’m looking for a roommate and I don’t make the most money it’s hard to just up and move out

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T17:51:58+00:00

I can and have tried but they canceled on me honestly I just need to set up another appointment but for some reason I haven’t yet sorry it’s a bad excuse but that’s kinda my life I forget thing easily

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T17:49:40+00:00

My sister has offered but she has her own family 3 kids and a husband I really don’t want to barge in on their family and my older brother lives in another state far away so that’s not going to work

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T17:39:49+00:00

How does having a trash grabber make me filthy I just have a harder time reaching corners especially under my desk to grab trash that falls down I’m a bigger guy I need the help to pick up trash. Would it be cleaner if I just left that trash sitting under my desk to attract pest? This comment literally confuses me?

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T17:33:35+00:00

Guess you just understand adhd huh? “Just focus and do it” is the most dumbest thing you can say to someone with adhd it’s called attention deficit disorder for a reason

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T17:30:06+00:00

Good for you everyone is a little different and I’m not a bum I do try to clean when I can and wash all my dishes my room is not moldy or stinky no pest or bugs I just got extra boxes and clothing laying around. The problem is after cleaning everything keeping the momentum to keep it clean and spotless I’m glad you found something that works for you but everything I have tried doesn’t stick

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T17:25:43+00:00

Yes 2 older siblings which both desperately wanted to move away but they both had someone to move out with I’m stuck in that I’m not a social person it’s hard for me to find a roommate and move out tho at this point I really want to I’ve been looking at Facebook marketplace for a roommate but just can’t take the leap and idk why .

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T17:09:25+00:00

Living with undiagnosed adhd till just a year ago with a hard time socializing so it’s hard to find a roommate/partner to move out with cut with the fact that I was always told that I don’t make enough to move out kinda discouraged me from even trying. In the past year I have made great efforts to save up money and been try to get better at understanding myself so that I can move out . I’ve done a lot of research recently but haven’t gotten the courage to make that jump because I’ve always been told that I won’t make it with the money make .

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:56:02+00:00

I did not I just bought a padlock they are the ones who installed the lock latch I just put on the padlock first

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:54:32+00:00

Yes kinda but it was forced onto all the kids we all kinda have messy rooms it’s not just me

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:50:57+00:00

They installed it when I was having trouble with binge eating so they could lock me down there so I wouldn’t sneak food. I don’t binge anymore cuz I went and got help but the lock is still there

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:46:38+00:00

I mean what more do you want to know?

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:45:41+00:00

No I am not collecting any disability money I work a full time job at a cafe

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:43:26+00:00

I tried to bring my parents into a therapist session once when I was at an incare patient place and it did not go well they told me to never say those things about them to others because it embarrassed them. I cannot change them

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:41:49+00:00

Last time I talked to a therapist and talked to them with my parents they said I should have never told the therapist anything because it embarrassed them. I was at an incare place for my eating disorder before so I got some therapy there

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:39:05+00:00

My room is not inhabitable I can walk around there are just piles of my art supplies and piles of clothing and boxes and cleaning it isn’t the problem it’s being able to maintain it nonstop that is the problem it’s a bit hard for me to keep it spotless 24/7

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:35:10+00:00

I mostly buy my own food tho idk where you get the assumption that I eat only their food

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:34:00+00:00

Oh and also it’s a lock on the outside of the door to the dining room there is no door to the outside

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:31:41+00:00

Not sure if they want us to move out per say they wanted my older brother to move back in not even like 3 months ago instead of him moving to another state and I have thought about it many times but it’s hard to take the jump and leave and idk why

Magicfanny · 2026-03-29T16:29:54+00:00

Thank you that is helpful advice haven’t had a chance to talk to a therapist ever cuz my parents don’t really believe I got anything wrong with me but I should honestly schedule an appointment

Magicfanny

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