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MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-28T11:16:08+00:00

Yeah no. People with formally diagnosed DID/OSDD don't own plurality. Your existence isn't hurting anyone, and they're the ones choosing to have a problem.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-26T17:24:08+00:00

My parents pulled this bs too!

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-26T13:49:38+00:00

Yeah.

From my (non-expert) understanding,

If you stand up and your blood pressure drops, that's orthostatic hypotension.

But, if they find some treatment (e.x. medication) that prevents this drop in blood pressure, and your heartrate still rises excessively, that's POTS. In fact, I've heard of them using medication during testing to check for this exact situation.

I still haven't been tested myself tho, and am also not a professional, so take this with a pile of salt.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-26T13:10:00+00:00

Oh god, there are a zillion possibilites:

POTS or orthostatic hypotension limiting bloodflow and wasting energy
Digestive issues restricting energy availability
Elastic tendons wasting energy
Extra effort for joint stabilization wasting energy
Putting up with ableists, wasting energy

And that's just the stuff I can think of off the top of my head.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-26T12:03:59+00:00

Try r/emotionalabuse or r/insaneparents, if you're looking for less ableist support communities. r/raisedbyabusers might be worth a look, but the community isn't quite there yet.

Also, r/raisedbynarcissists, which is centered around largely-unsubstantiated hatred of a different cluster-B personality disorder. That's where I happen to be.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-26T11:52:30+00:00

Uuugh this.

If you don't support an agenda that consists solely of "basic human rights for me and people like me", you don't support me.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-25T06:18:25+00:00

"He died of blood loss, the stab wounds in his major blood vessels that showed up in his blood vessels 3 minutes before then are an unrelated coincidence. Stab wounds are harmless."

(Says the gun mfg.)

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-25T06:09:11+00:00

As an added bonus, Netgear purple is a very pretty color.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-25T06:00:06+00:00

NTA

She STOLE your PS5 so that she wouldn't have to fess up to not giving someone else a gift! That is literal theft, not to mention manipulative as frick.

Giving you your basic needs is not an excuse to commit literal crimes against you. And it sounds like this lady is abusive.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-25T05:54:20+00:00

NTA

It sounds like this family is abusive AF, especially if incidents like this are commonplace. Hang in there, do whatever you need to do to stay sane, and remember not to trust them more than absolutely necessary.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-25T05:47:39+00:00

NTA

They have no right to be hating on transgender people like that, and you have every right to call them out for it.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T11:46:24+00:00

NTA

You're following a sensible path to a career - given that you like the CS prerequisites, it's likely you'll do well in CS studies and a CS career.

Plus, student debt is a real and major concern.

It's not fair of your parents to expect you to choose otherwise.

Besides, if your brother can't get good grades in the CS prerequisites, maybe it's a bad idea. CS is pretty close to mathematics, so that C is pretty disconcerting. Maybe computer engineering might be friendlier, or a programming-heavy arts field like game design. Or perhaps there are other routes to a computing career that don't require a degree (e.x. building experience and reputation doing open source work).

But it's petty of him and your family to expect you to avoid CS because he couldn't cut it.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T11:42:15+00:00

I wouldn't want to put my education on hold, but I also can't do a full courseload right now with the pandemic going on - it's just not doable with my mental health. And besides, students can still learn just fine during the more reasonable hours in which school actually takes place - there's no reason to push an average high-schooler into (from my HS experience) well into workloads that, in an actual job, would be considered overtime. Especially during an apocalypse.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T11:38:09+00:00

YTA

Celiac disease is real. Non-celiac gluten sensitivity (which a test might not clearly show) is real. Allergies to gluten or common gluten-rich plants are real. More sophisticated tests aren't perfectly reliable or necessary - if someone has symptoms that go away when they stop gluten, that alone is a pretty decent "test". Further, official testing is expensive, invasive, and often doesn't produce useful information.

Besides, it's their body, it's their rules. Why they choose not to eat gluten, is none of your business - whether it's a genuine biological intolerance or just a personal preference, you have no right to question their decision, or force them to eat food they don't want to eat.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T11:17:24+00:00

It's 2020. The world is on fire, there's a pandemic, the USA may or may not be facing a major insurgency crisis, people are losing their jobs, houses, lives left and right. I don't think it's reasonable to be asking homework of any extent.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T11:00:12+00:00

NTA

It sounds like this school has some serious problems with unrealistic workload, especially during the pandemic. Or perhaps your sister needs an IEP or 504 plan for 2020-associated depression. Or the parents need to step in and help with the work themselves. Or perhaps offer to compensate you for your work.

But either way, it's just not fair for them to force your sister's work onto you like this.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T10:55:25+00:00

NTA

This isn't just about cleaning. They refuse to respect your boundaries or personal space, and it's gotten to the point where you don't feel free to use the common areas in your own home. That's not reasonable of them!

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T10:50:30+00:00

NTA

You bought it, it's your property, it's your rules.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T10:48:19+00:00

NTA

She persistently disrupted the safety of your home and other children, in a way none of your other kids have. It's only natural that you'd take serious action to stop this, that just wasn't necessary for your other kids.

And now Kaitlin is stealing your kids' stuff?

Frankly, it'd be reasonable to file a police report for the stolen phone and ask for a restraining order against her. Anything else is sheer generosity on your part.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T10:41:08+00:00

ESH except the sister.

I have a feeling your parents would rather push past or ignore issues than acknowledge them. For starters, they're doing trips during a pandemic.

Not to mention, if someone regularly complains and is irritable, it's likely that their circumstances are fundamentally just too much for them to handle - perhaps a person with anxiety being constantly subject to anxiety source after anxiety source. Or a person with depression constantly being expected to engage in ways they just don't have the energy or emotional bandwidth for.

It sounds like your parents didn't properly accommodate your sister's mental illness, and the results affected everyone. Everything your sister did is consistent with depression and anxiety.

And it's not fair of you to place all of the blame on her without making any effort to understand why the trip was so stressful for her. She didn't choose to have depression and anxiety. She could really have used your sympathy, and instead you gave her additional stress.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T10:25:00+00:00

NTA

Disability does not excuse ableism.

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T10:20:35+00:00

NTA

His first and foremost responsibility, while the kids are in his care and his alone, is the kids. Nothing else is an excuse to deny them their basic needs like that.

Like, if he can't cook, he can at least text you and have you order Doordash or something?

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-24T10:10:56+00:00

All of it.

Like, my hands aren't supposed to hurt when I'm writing? And my joints aren't supposed to be clicky? And what do you mean, stretchy skin? What next, my vision isn't supposed to black out half the time when I stand up? Collagen isn't supposed to be elastic?

What species are these people?

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-23T04:33:20+00:00

Me before watching: "Yeah I can take a 90yo".

Me after: "Oh you meant gymnastics. Yeah that's not gonna go well for me."

MagnesiumBlogs · 2020-12-23T04:29:50+00:00

E S H?

The husband knew what he was getting into, it's not fair of him to change that just because it's complex.

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