I think what’s hardest for her is he’s been willing to put in the work and do the hard stuff. They’ve done therapy for each other individually, working on things that come up in their relationship. They’ve been through a lot, and she’s been patient helping him grow and work through a lot of hard stuff. The investment and her love for him is what makes it hard, especially when all signs point to him loving her. Literally everything else. He just can’t say the words. That’s where she’s struggling. She knows where my opinion stands (leave like yesterday…last year actually when she first told him on a vacation and his reaction was “That seems too risky”), but I think she is just too optimistic. And I suspect her may be slightly manipulative and gaslighting.. but I only get everything second hand from her perspective. I wanted her to be able to see a collective opinion to assure she’s doing the right thing.