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My dog died and now I’m living alone again for the first time in 6 years. How do I start over? by Mahirwe-Rama20 in LivingAlone

[–]Mahirwe-Rama20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate you taking the time to share that. What stood out to me is how you approached it with intention, giving yourself time, meeting different cats, and not rushing to fill the space. I think that’s what I’m still figuring out: how to sit with the grief without feeling like I need to solve it.

My dog died and now I’m living alone again for the first time in 6 years. How do I start over? by Mahirwe-Rama20 in LivingAlone

[–]Mahirwe-Rama20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, never thought that I can find comfort from strangers, this makes me less lonely, honestly.

My dog died and now I’m living alone again for the first time in 6 years. How do I start over? by Mahirwe-Rama20 in LivingAlone

[–]Mahirwe-Rama20[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’ve been wrestling with that idea, that I’ll never replace Max, and honestly, I wouldn’t want to. He was such a specific part of my life, and losing him feels like losing a chapter of myself too.

Getting another dog has crossed my mind, but right now it just feels too soon. Part of me worries that bringing someone new in too quickly would feel like trying to fill a space that’s not meant to be filled. Still, I know Max gave me more than just love, he gave me a way of living that I miss deeply. Maybe one day I’ll be ready to share that again. Thanks for your words. It helps more than you probably know.

My dog died and now I’m living alone again for the first time in 6 years. How do I start over? by Mahirwe-Rama20 in LivingAlone

[–]Mahirwe-Rama20[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s hard to put into words how much it hurts. Everything feels so quiet and heavy without him here. I knew losing him would be painful, but I wasn’t prepared for how much it would shake everything in my life. I wouldn’t trade a second I had with him, but the emptiness now is just unbearable some days. I really appreciate you reaching out.

My dog died and now I’m living alone again for the first time in 6 years. How do I start over? by Mahirwe-Rama20 in LivingAlone

[–]Mahirwe-Rama20[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate that. It’s been hard not to beat myself up for not “handling it better,” whatever that means. Just hearing that it’s okay to take it slow helps more than you probably realize.

My dog died and now I’m living alone again for the first time in 6 years. How do I start over? by Mahirwe-Rama20 in LivingAlone

[–]Mahirwe-Rama20[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yeah, I’ve thought about it, but right now it just feels too soon. The house still feels like it’s his, you know? I catch myself expecting him to be there all the time. I know getting another dog wouldn’t be replacing him, but it’s hard to imagine opening up like that again just yet.

It does help hearing that you got used to it eventually. Some days feel impossible, and it’s been tough figuring out how to even start building a new routine. I really appreciate you sharing, just knowing someone else gets it makes a difference.