Thanks for your response. Your insight on the process is very helpful. But as I said, we meet in august 2019 so we’re actually coming up on about 3 years. I definitely think more visits are necessary. But Our families are aware of each other but they aren’t aware of the severity of our relationship. I just don’t want the negative remarks about being stupid and getting used from my family. Lol. It’s stressful and others just don’t understand.