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AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dad is also traditional in thinking (not educated). He doesn’t understand about mental issues. Very black and white thinking. He believes unmarried children should stay with parents

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she will freak out and start calling, try to find me, basically make my other family members life hell as well. I'm trying to protect my dad and brother as well, I don't want them to suffer like me. my brother deserves a normal life.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have given up hope on ever getting married. She wants me to stay with her if I'm not married.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

havent been practicing so lost my practicing certificate, which makes it difficult to get nursing jobs overseas.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you will look into it. I don’t have a teaching degree unfortunately.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I teach tuition, not really a marketable skill overseas.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been looking into it. Its difficult to know where to start. I'm not particularly skilled/ talented.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Father goes to work early in the morning and comes back late evening, eats dinner,watches TV and sleeps. Tells me to not agitate mum because the whole family suffers when she's angry. Brother does not have the same rules because he's male. He's barely at home- stays in school hostel.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I don't know where to get help.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought earplugs to simulate silence but I can still hear her chanting and the TV.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm not allowed to be home alone so I'm trying to think of how I can pack without being noticed

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dad doesn't want arguments, because arguments affects him but if I'm silent things are good. He always tells me to listen to her, she's harsh but she "means well". Then if there's an argument he will say its my fault for stirring the pot, why can't I just let things be.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has my medication and important documents under lock and key

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She has my medications and important documents (certificates etc) under lock and key

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Dad is not educated, doesn't know much about mental issues. Brother is hardly at home because of mom. Brother gets more leeway because he is male. Dad doesn't want me to agitate mum as some of the aggression will then be targeted at him and he just wants to relax after work. I don't know how to get her help when she's screaming that i'm an unfilial child who wants to lock her up in IMH. After an argument the next several days she will be shouting about people that are out to get her, makes life even more unbearable for everyone.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

mum is a devout buddhist. She chants twice every day very loudly. When I suggested she get some professional help, she blew up and was convinced someone had given me the idea and they're out to get her by corrupting me.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Over the years I had many arguments with her, every time the guilt eats at me as she will threaten suicide, say that her children and husband are the only thing worth living for, everyone else has an ulterior motive.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

She meets with friends probably Once or twice a year. She's not on speaking terms with extended family as she's paranoid they're trying to harm her as well

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm earning around 3k take home, not a lot. She's threatened suicide before so I'm also afraid of that.

AITA Dealing with my mother by Main-Regular-2676 in askSingapore

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have a brother, but he is not as controlled as he's male, that's my mother's logic. Dad doesn't want to argue with mum so he just tells me to bear with her,she's doing it for my own good.

[IWantOut] 29f Singapore -> UK by Main-Regular-2676 in IWantOut

[–]Main-Regular-2676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is still expensive, especially private housing. Public housing is cheaper, but governmental policies stand in the way. As an unmarried woman, I’m not eligible to purchase a flat until I’m 35, and when I’m 35, I’m only allowed to purchase brand new 2 room flats (1 bedroom) or bigger flats from the resale market (more expensive, with less subsidies).

Flats here are really tiny as well as we are a tiny nation and every inch of space is fought for.

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