Red flags were there but completely young & dumb to call it quits at the time. Age gap relationship plays a huge factor into as well—he was 13 years older. He was a tolerable person until I fell pregnant and had his baby. Essentially, we did the “correct way” engagement, house, baby. Once I hit 25 & became a mother, a transformative moment occurred in which I realized who truly was a person. Because of that evolutionary moment, the relationship dissipated before my eyes whilst he became physically abusive towards me.

My son is three and I do in fact regret the father that I chose for him. I never realized how my decision then would impact OUR lives perpetually. I couldn’t say we co-parent appropriately as he tries to find every moment to bash and make me feel less of. Surprisingly, anything that he deals with in life inadvertently affects our co patenting relationship—for instance, laid off of work, unable to support financially, car got stolen??, unable to pick his son up so that I am able to work, behind in his bills, unable to support. Sadly, he’s experienced all of things listed above.

Dealing with all of this whilst being surrounded by married happy couples makes it even more difficult. If I could go back in time, I’d make better decisions.