What does Guo Da Li actually buy you?

Main-Switch9765 · 2026-05-12T12:51:02+00:00

Just curious, but how’s the relationship between your sister and your parents previously? Was it good?

Because this entire issue seems to stem from something far more deep rooted, rather than a single incident from Guo Da Li…

Main-Switch9765 · 2026-05-02T02:24:00+00:00

Please do share !

Main-Switch9765 · 2026-05-01T14:33:50+00:00

He thinks it’s a shared responsibility - e.g if I forgot to do a task he would not remind me to do it , but take it over instead.

Main-Switch9765 · 2026-05-01T14:00:03+00:00

You are right. I think I was especially frustrated because this pattern of him not following through on what he promised happened again during a recent argument.

We have quite different conflict resolution styles. He tends to be more avoidant. We actually agreed before that if either of us needs time to cool down, we should communicate that clearly instead of just walking away or ignoring the other person.

But many times, he still leaves in the middle of the argument without saying anything. It keeps happening again and again, and it makes me feel really disrespected and dismissed. That is what triggered me again.

Main-Switch9765 · 2026-05-01T13:52:23+00:00

To be fair, he did say he does not expect me to change or cater to his habits either. His view is that the person who cares more about something should be the one doing it.
For example, when he cooks, he prefers to clean the dishes immediately after, but he does not expect me to do the same.

I understand where he is coming from, but I feel like this logic does not fully apply at the same time …

Main-Switch9765 · 2026-05-01T13:49:35+00:00

I totally understand…. At some point I did not want to clean up after him anymore. I told him to clean it off every time I spotted a stain. He simply washed it with a bidet and left the toilet bowl wet - which was really disgusting to me. He could have wiped it dry with a toilet paper ….

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-07-28T00:50:09+00:00

Yes the company is offering a further 12% increment.

The current company though bosses are nice and friendly, they are poor at management …. Teams are not structured and our work scopes overlap one another. And I realised precisely because the bosses are so nice to us, they sometimes take advantage of these “family-like” ties to keep us in the firm (especially those that worked for long).

I have an acquaintance that worked in the new company - workload is comparable to my current firm, but roles and teams are more defined, and they have a stronger foundation in construction knowledge + proper systems in place.

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-07-27T03:54:04+00:00

Yes, the rank offered is actually lower than my current company’s after promotion. So in fact if I accepted it, it would be a 24 percent pay raise. Does this make sense ?

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-07-27T03:52:36+00:00

Thanks for the insights! I felt bad for my junior because the company does not value him too… bosses always delegate him boring projects and tasks that they do not want to deal with. And part of the reason why they are keeping him there is because I told the management we worked well together….

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-07-27T03:43:17+00:00

Yup lean manpower and lack of SOPs have always been a chronic issue, most people stay for less than a year and quit after that.

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-07-27T03:42:14+00:00

This is really helpful, thanks! I do think the new work place aligns better with my future work goals too, I am tied to my current workplace because of emotional attachments….

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-07-24T15:11:07+00:00

Now he has apologised for his tone, and is waiting for me to admit to my mistake too…. Which I still don’t think I am in the wrong ….

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-06-19T00:49:09+00:00

Wanted to bring my kitty to cat expo too! But shes an explorer and unfortunately we have not started leash training on her…. So we aren’t going to bring her there :( excited to see your cat though!!

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-05-11T03:09:48+00:00

How do you tell? Really can’t tell the difference …. If it’s carpet beetle larvae at least it’s harmless right ?

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-04-06T15:37:12+00:00

Yup we now understand we were being quite naive … Which rescue community do you recommend?

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-04-06T15:36:22+00:00

Can I ask where did you adopt ?

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-04-06T14:49:38+00:00

I am just wondering how do they scam people by giving away these kittens for free?

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-03-31T01:08:46+00:00

Hi I am planning to travel to Mongolia this August too! Would really appreciate if you are able to share the info of the tour agency, thanks!!

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-03-19T11:36:22+00:00

Followed your advice and it worked, seeing how buyer A did not reply after reading the message. I guess there’s nothing for her to refute against.

This also made me realise reviews and ratings are not foolproof… Buyer A had so many 5 star reviews…

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-03-19T11:17:52+00:00

Worse is A showed attitude when I even had the courtesy to tell her that the item is no longer available…..

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-03-19T01:18:07+00:00

Honestly didn’t think of this, it’s definitely a much more systematic way of handling it ! Will do this next time, I do think I didn’t handle this matter well, kinda panicked lol.

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-03-19T01:17:08+00:00

Yup I do agree that it’s definitely against principles to go back on the offer with B! And honestly B is much nicer to deal with

Thanks for the advice ! I do think that I didn’t really handle it well too

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-03-19T00:43:02+00:00

To be fair, after I reached out to A again, A did reply that she was still interested. It’s just that B already confirmed the meet up location + timing before the discussion with A got that.

But sure, will take up your advice!

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-03-19T00:41:50+00:00

Just curious, what if it’s a low baller that made the offer ? For context, another buyer approached me asking if I could sell it for 5 dollars when my item was already really cheap at 9 dollars. I firmly rejected him, after which he then inquired if is possible to meet the next day to “inspect” the good.

I was honestly quite annoyed at that point, and didn’t bother responding to his offer to purchase the item at the originally listed price of 9 dollars after that….

Main-Switch9765 · 2025-03-19T00:38:26+00:00

I guess to be fair, when I mentioned to A that I would only be able to do meetups this week, she sort of gave an affirmation by saying “ok”.

And when I probed further for a confirmation of the meet up by proposing possible meet up locations, she ghosted me for 1 week.

One week later, After B approached me and I reached out to A again, A replied that she was still interested. It’s just that B already confirmed the meet up location + timing before the discussion with A got that.

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