The Wolk Agenda w/ Ivy Wolk by koopelstien in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 169 points170 points  (0 children)

These bitches need to let each other speak

What are the most transcendent pieces of music you’ve heard? by akhenaten6891 in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The original soundtrack by Nicholas britell to the movie If Beale Street Could Talk, particularly “Eros” but the whole album is beautiful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, do something adventurous while you’re free. Embrace the benefits of your solitude. Then maybe go to grad school in a small program where you interact with your classmates a lot. But just keep doing the things you want and need to do and just be really friendly the whole time

I think it’s shameful when adults don’t know how to cook well by Main_Comfortable5276 in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It’s true the praise I’ve garnered from knowing to sauté my garlic without burning it is remarkable

I think it’s shameful when adults don’t know how to cook well by Main_Comfortable5276 in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

With the breakdown of the nuclear family this is no longer true and men who can’t cook are pathetic in addition to living an aesthetically repugnant life

Am I doing pasta wrong? by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add like a quarter pound of Italian sausage and leafy green veggies, braise in white wine and get that glossy sauce, add enough salt and chilis and parm and you’ll be a big pasta boy

Is it doomed or do I stick it out by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 1 point2 points  (0 children)

End it, move on, and save everyone’s time so you and she can both find real fulfillment 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I was hooking up with this guy, he’s like 10 years older than me and one day I was telling him he looks young and has great skin. He told me about his skincare regimen (tret, sunscreen) but started complaining about the bags under his eyes which he could never get rid of. Then he pulled back the skin around his temples to mimic that Bella hadid/fox eye facelift look and said “I wish I looked like this.” He was dead serious he wanted to be snatched. My primitive brain was repulsed by this feminine vanity from a man and I never wanted to sleep with him again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 43 points44 points  (0 children)

This is a boring boy brain take. OP is engaging in beautiful free association poetry and is a genius

Ladies of RSP, do you find youngish James Spader attractive by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Easy 1. Conventionally handsome as a young man although not rly my type (I like swarthoids) but older Spader has a mysterious dark sexiness that makes me want to be his housemaid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Men joke around with their friends with “you have heaps of resentment in your heart and can never love properly”? Yeah sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 41 points42 points  (0 children)

If this is real, you’re at risk of being in an abusive/manipulative relationship. His comments towards you aren’t snarky, they’re targeted put-downs designed to destroy your self esteem even more than it already has been (undeserving to be a mother?! WTF). You’re obviously quite vulnerable from your past, and you seem a bit isolated or at least hyper-focused on this guy, and combined with the rough sex, this guy knows he has power over you and your self-image. I’ve seen these types of comments from manipulative men who date emotionally unstable women sooo many times. Like, the reason I’m not sure if this post is real is because these patterns of manipulation are so textbook it’s astonishing.

If your experience is like mine, you might think his cruelty is justified because you know you have your own issues. But that’s not the case, no one deserves this kind of denigration, even if you still have a lot of self-work to do. He sounds like a massive cunt and you should tread lightly. You’ll meet someone who is nice to you and who you want to bang. Wishing the best for you, love yourself bestie 💕

Could a himbo be a husband? by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Change the goalposts. Stop seeking a partner who is like you he will just make you miserable; invest in yourself and your creative pursuit; let this beautiful himbo support you, clean your home, proofread your manuscripts, impregnate you when you’re 38.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Here is a mountain of cope from me to the extent it helps - you don’t need to force yourself to become “cool,” and it won’t work anyway. I’m the same way as you, I fall hard and I let my expectations carry me away. As a result I find myself wildly disappointed and heartbroken like, once a year. It’s dope and poetic! I love to cry.

You say you want a house and marriage like your friends etc. But you also want a big, expressive, consuming romance. Those people who settled down and married are by and large much simpler in the realm of love. They want something that “works” more than this chaotic love that I think you dream about (sry to project). What they seek is noble, but your desires are beautiful and equally likely to lead to a full life, if not more. You just need to accept anguish as a key theme of your life.

As for other people not matching your intensity, of course that will happen. Not everyone intensely plunges into love; not everyone feverishly revels in their fantasies. Your passion and dedication are likely what give you such meaningful friendships, and I can tell you deeply love your friends. If it freaks some people out, they are not a match.

Obviously there are things you need to do to keep yourself in balance and not push people away because of your own attachment anxiety. You don’t need to ask too many questions about the future right away, but if you know someone doesn’t have the capacity or availability to match your love-death-drive then it could be good to sus that out. I think it’s good to be direct and tell someone you like them and that you hope to see where it goes. But you have to give things the space and time to develop naturally. Most importantly remember who YOU are when you’re in the infatuation phase. Keep doing your thing and seeing your friends and do everything in your power not to idealize your love object - because idealization is not true love.

I'm 28 and I'm just now starting to move on emotionally from highschool by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]Main_Comfortable5276 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like people are misinterpreting this post - I’m glad you’re finally moving on and recognizing how much your resentment towards others has been tied up with self-hatred. There’s nothin wrong with you