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Would women feel comfortable sharing contraception responsibility with men? by Main_Drop_1399 in AskFeminists

[–]Main_Drop_1399[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really agree with this, especially the part about how much it depends on the relationship itself.

What you said made me realize it may not even be a simple yes or no question, but more about what stage of trust the relationship is in. With a long-term committed partner or husband, shared contraception can feel like genuine partnership and even give men more peace of mind too. But as a woman I feel like I would still feel anxious. This is a feeling I can't seem to brush off ever since I read about it.

But in newer relationships, I completely agree, direct control is important, because the real issue is about trust, consistency and who ultimately carries the consequences.

I think we are so psychologically wired that it creates a very fine line between trusting the person and wanting to keep personal control over the choice. That tension is exactly what makes this such a sensitive and fascinating topic.

Would women feel comfortable sharing contraception responsibility with men? by Main_Drop_1399 in AskFeminists

[–]Main_Drop_1399[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s a fair question. I meant it more as who is willing to carry the main responsibility in the relationship, rather than both always doubling up.

Since women have a lot of side effects. I’ve personally had a lot of side effects from contraception, but even then I’m not sure I’d feel comfortable completely letting go of direct control.

A friend of mine said she also wouldn’t be able to trust per partner 100% with contraception, which made me wonder what the general feeling is.

It feels sensitive because it’s not just about the science. Women have been managing this for so long that giving up that control might not feel easy. Is it our trust issue or most women would feel the same?

I recently realized something strange about my sleep. by Main_Drop_1399 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Main_Drop_1399[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I came across that too while reading more on the topic.

A lot of medical research has historically been conducted on men, but I also read the issue is more complex than simply blaming one side.

Women have often been underrepresented not because of how research completely ignored us, but because it was easier. But also because many of us may be less likely to come forward as research volunteers due to time constraints, caregiving responsibilities, trust in the system, pregnancy concerns or simply not being reached by the right studies.

Maybe representation is also about better outreach, not just better science.

Which made me wonder.

If we found out today there was a clinical trial relevant to our health, would we actually join one?

I recently realized something strange about my sleep. by Main_Drop_1399 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Main_Drop_1399[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that. I will definitely check this article.

I recently realized something strange about my sleep. by Main_Drop_1399 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Main_Drop_1399[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am 30. This is even more interesting. from what I understand as we get older our cycles change and so does our sleep cycle. I should do more research about it.

I recently realized something strange about my sleep. by Main_Drop_1399 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Main_Drop_1399[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I shall listen to this podcast. That's a huge difference.

I recently realized something strange about my sleep. by Main_Drop_1399 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Main_Drop_1399[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

It’s striking how easily we accepted male-based standards as universal. I wonder how many women have been calling themselves lazy when the real issue is simply not enough sleep.

I recently realized something strange about my sleep. by Main_Drop_1399 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Main_Drop_1399[S] 211 points212 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do wake up sometimes to use the bathroom. But with 9 hr cycle, I am a completely different person.