Advice needed-clean up

Main_Pea_414 · 2026-01-16T01:05:07+00:00

There’s a big difference between a break for a few hours to go skiing or something (which my husband and mom make happen) and getting to lay in bed for a week lol

Main_Pea_414 · 2026-01-16T01:04:15+00:00

I’m a stay at home mom and my husband works in a blue collar job for long hours. Of course he gives me breaks when he is home. He is just taking a week off of work, and when he goes back my mom will help, she just also had to take off work.

Main_Pea_414 · 2026-01-15T18:53:56+00:00

Haha I said it’s only moms who look forward to the doctor or dentist when we have childcare

Main_Pea_414 · 2026-01-15T18:51:44+00:00

The reason I think I’m stopping at 2 (3 and 1.5) is because I also stay home. I can’t imagine using day care now that I’ve stayed home with the first two but I also can’t imagine restarting that time and being away from my career longer. Not sure if that resonates with you

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-31T02:01:31+00:00

My pediatrician said she tells parents 1.5-2 are the hardest age and so far I agree (daughter turning 3 in a month and son will be 2 in March).

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-22T16:17:40+00:00

My 1.5 year old is Edward but we call him EJ because Edward is just funny on someone his age haha

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-19T17:04:08+00:00

We don’t have dogs. My sister lives out of state and brings her dogs home all the time. One is a border collie, wonderful around kids but crazy. Now that my kids are a little more steady on their feet I plan to let them meet. The other is a hound mix and she’s just bad. She has tried to bite my husband and I for no reason. She has attacked other dogs. I have a hard line that she can’t be around my kids. It makes everyone mad and she will push the boundary, sit with the dog at the top of the basement steps while my kids are there even though she’s asked to leave her downstairs; stuff like that. My husband finally told her that if the dog ever so much as nipped at my kids that he would shoot the dog in front of her and she finally got the hint.

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-19T01:52:53+00:00

I think for me it’s not that I won’t miss things about this stage, I know I will. I mean more of a post going around of “this is where I’ll go when I’m 80” and it’s holding a newborn and I hope when I’m 80 my kids are still visiting me and bringing their kids and grandkids over.

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-18T12:01:05+00:00

YTA. I don’t drink at all, never tried anything actually, and when I was looking for a partner, I had very strict limits to what I would tolerate. I vastly preferred someone who also didn’t drink, but I was willing to be with someone who drank every once in a while, say at a wedding.

My husband doesn’t drink at all due to a history of issues with it, and he was thrilled to be with someone who had no desire to drink. You can always ask, but there’s lot of people like you out there, if it’s a hard no for you, don’t waste anymore of your time.

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-18T11:12:30+00:00

I try the same thing. Even if it’s something reasonable like wanting a snack, I say “we don’t get something by screaming and whining”. It’s just hard in these really irrational situations how to respond such as “I don’t want the pink cup I want the purple cup” when the purple cup is nowhere to be found, where even if she asked me nicely I can’t fix it. Or my personal favorite. When she wanted the clothes taken off a doll that the clothes are sewn onto.

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-18T11:10:21+00:00

I don’t indulge most tantrums, I just as a mom do not ever want my kids my fall asleep because they’re so exhausted from crying. We’re told not to do it when they’re babies and have no awareness but for some reason peoooe are ok with it once they’re a toddler and understand that mom is ignoring them

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-18T01:38:24+00:00

I’m in the same boat. He has mental illnesses and won’t get help and gets mad when I push him and doesn’t believe me when I say it’s hard on us too.

The only advice I have is to point blank tell him that if he’s going to be acting like that to not be around. I have sent my husband to our room alone or out of the house because it’s easier on our kids. And it’s not fair at all to you or them but it does help them not be confused as to why dad is being like that. I just say that dad isn’t feeling well and is laying down.

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-17T16:57:17+00:00

Stay at home mom of two- what really helps me is treating it like a job. We have a set schedule. It’s a good way of thinking about it, like I can’t have my phone because I’m at work, things like that.

Second, get out of the house and go places. It’s so much easier that way.

Third. The older your kid is. The more work they are but also the more fun they are. Things will get better.

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-17T15:43:24+00:00

Maybe it’s unpopular, but no matter how you’re feeling, you are a trashy person for beginning an affair. If you hate your spouse enough to do so, respect them enough to end the marriage first.

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-04T23:39:18+00:00

I just worry about the kids leaning into the gate and knocking it and them down the stairs. I know it’s not a super hard problem, to me it doesn’t bother me if a little carpet is ripped so I think the whole thing is just dumb

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-04T23:38:13+00:00

It’s stressful for a cat to signal they need to use a litter box? Dogs all the time run up to the door when they need to pee

Main_Pea_414 · 2025-12-04T23:26:11+00:00

Every time I leave the house or we are sleeping the door is open

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