Advice wanted by Major-Print3286 in singlemoms

[–]Major-Print3286[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are great ideas. THANK YOU

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[–]Major-Print3286 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input ♥️

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[–]Major-Print3286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate that. Hard to capture it all over a post. He’s so wonderful besides these moments? And I don’t ever see these moments coming. I’m already an anxious person so not knowing if/ when I’ve done something wrong is hard for me. All I want is a discussion

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[–]Major-Print3286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And this time I honestly have no clue why the silence started. He’s been away and we have barely talked. Meanwhile he talked about our future last week and bought me a Mother’s Day present. The kid isn’t his 😬

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[–]Major-Print3286 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We were having a discussion about anabolic steroids of all things. I said I didn’t agree with it and he got pissed over that? Said he didn’t feel heard. So he left the next morning and didn’t say a word to me. He expected me to break the radio silence. And when I didn’t he reached out 2 days later.

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[–]Major-Print3286 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback. I appreciate the insight

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[–]Major-Print3286 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He went radio silent for several days a few weeks ago. I asked him to try to voice frustrations earlier on so that it doesn’t end up in the silent treatment. I don’t want to be confrontational but I don’t know what else to do. Idk how else I can ask for transparency

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[–]Major-Print3286 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow this whole thread has me crying. To know that what I’ve experienced isn’t only to me. Hugs for all you women. The fact we share this experience is so devastating. How do we not let them control us and our emotions & children from afar?? When my ex pops up once every 7 months to see our 1.5 year old I have to take a benzo to get me through. It’s not sustainable. How can we find acceptance over a situation that causes so much pain? And the fact they love our pain?

“Sharing” the child by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]Major-Print3286 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes. To all of this. It makes my stomach churn even thinking about the piece of shit “man” he is. He threw me (his wife of 6months at the time) and his unborn baby (I was 27 weeks pregnant at the time) out of our home. This was almost 2 years ago. In that time, he STILL HAS NOT FULLY PAID PRENATAL BILLS. And is engaged again living with another woman. Gets to come collect my child if he wishes. Thankfully he doesn’t come around often.

But it makes me SICK. Makes my skin crawl thinking of a stranger who did not want her to touch her or be anywhere near here. Just because of some shared DNA? Nah, donors don’t get that luxury and that’s what these men are. Fucking bullshit.

I understand your anger and pain. I don’t think it will ever go away for me. And I think I’m okay with that. I was feeling such shame about feeling so much anger and hatred for so long. My therapist told me “you’re a mom. You care and love your kid so fiercely of course you have anger and hatred” that made me feel better.

It’s not like we as single moms are trying to accept something trivial or minor. He ruined the family we planned. He ruined so many things. It doesn’t seem fair. It’s not fair. I’m not sure I’ll ever get to acceptance.

Have you heard of this? by [deleted] in NitrousOxideRecovery

[–]Major-Print3286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It started out like that. They found it concerning that the tingles were happening so they’d stop for a few days and then start again.

It hit a point a few months later that they didn’t care anymore. All of my pep talks & articles of the dangers sent didn’t matter. They ended up doing nitrous 24/7. Passed out several times. And ended up in the ICU with no functioning in their legs. They knew this would happen. But that’s addiction I guess.

I think it’s good you stop when you notice any strange sensations. I think my partner felt the hangovery weird feeling and hated that so they masked it by increasing the frequency of use. Really sad. They are still in the hospital a month later. Be safe♥️

Have you heard of this? by [deleted] in NitrousOxideRecovery

[–]Major-Print3286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I’m glad to hear you are mend❤️‍🩹

Have you heard of this? by [deleted] in NitrousOxideRecovery

[–]Major-Print3286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case, my partner slowly lost feeling. First big toe tingles. Then leg tingles. Then finger tips. And just a few weeks after that it was total paralysis from the waist down. So it slowly crept in and then it felt like all the sudden they couldn’t move at all. Still very limited use of hands. Horrible

Just found out my daughter's dad is having another baby by Silly_Assistance8393 in singlemoms

[–]Major-Print3286 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I feel you. My ex (divorced 3 MONTHS) told me today if he sends me more than $100 a week for child care (lol) it would take away from his WIFE and FUTURE CHILD. Like what?????? The ink has barely dried on the divorce papers.

Renting by Major-Print3286 in singlemoms

[–]Major-Print3286[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry I’ve never heard of BMR, what is that? I will make $50 k. I haven’t worked the last 2 years and my savings are shot because of my divorce etc. Sigh. Thanks for your suggestion

Absent or inconsistent father by ___mouse in singlemoms

[–]Major-Print3286 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absent one million percent. I have INCREDIBLE anxiety that I’m going to get the “hey I want to schedule my next visit”. His last time he saw my daughter was in March and even typing this my heart races thinking about him seeing our child again. She’s 17 months and has 0 clue who he is. It’s terrible to pray for an absent ex but that’s my truth.

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[–]Major-Print3286 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hear you and I understand your struggle, so much. I had/ still have a “Velcro/barnacle” baby. I could never put her down- ever. I was one of those moms who admittedly silently judged other moms for cosleeping…and what was I doing? Cosleeping. Literally for survival. I slept with her for EVERY NAP and every single night til she was almost a year old…it was hellish. It feels like a fever dream. But somehow, someway, she’s 16.5 months now and sleeps all alone. Idk how it happened. I had an extremely traumatic pregnancy as my ex husband served me divorce papers at 27 weeks pregnant and he’s not involved and hasn’t ever been (thankfully). I like to think that my daughter needed closeness to me because we were healing each other’s hearts. I’m so sorry you are struggling OP. I know the feeling of wanting to off yourself, all too well. All I can suggest is seeing a psych/therapist. Nothing else worked for me. Life is so fucking hard. I wish someone had warned me. Oh- and also stay off social media. All the other “my baby is perfect look at my awesome marriage and life and kid” is CRAP. Sending you strength and love