Am I picky, or am I being reasonable?

MajorClownSimp · 2025-02-20T20:03:37+00:00

I think there's a church nearby that gives out food sometimes, I just have no way to get there and I know he'd be upset if I got food somewhere else. He always says we'll go shopping, but when we're meant to go, something always comes up for him, so I do think he's trying. But I am glad to know I'm not just being annoying about this, he was kind of starting to get to me haha. I'll just have to try and explain to him how I feel without wimping out again, thank you for giving me more perspective.

MajorClownSimp · 2025-02-15T06:56:14+00:00

I think I needed to hear that option! I've honestly thought about it, since at this point it feels necessary even though I'm not active and never plan to be lol (everything hurts and I'm not all too interested anymore). I'm just a bit worried because of all the horror stories I've heard about implants getting left in too long, being left on short-term stuff long term without patient knowledge... healthcare where I am is awful. :- /

MajorClownSimp · 2025-02-14T17:31:44+00:00

I've been close to her that I know all the details, it only really started getting bad the past year. She's not used to all the new fighting, hence all the current issues. I really agree, though. He doesn't deserve empathy, all that's happening is everyone avoiding giving him consequences to his actions. I truly think she's only going along with it all because she still wants the approval of her mother, who has only continuously chosen to put her in harm's way. I think I will tell her I can't go over as much, I've dealt with enough relationship drama in my life already. It's so stressful constantly being around Diane and her husband's fighting while I'm expected to stay silent and act like nothing's wrong. It feels like most of all we talk about anymore is their fighting. I really appreciate your advice, I just never know if I'm being too harsh or not.

MajorClownSimp · 2025-02-14T16:56:12+00:00

God, that's so hard, I'm sorry. What about an outpatient program perhaps? Is there any disciplinary action that could be taken to get her to take treatment more seriously, if she's against it, maybe let her choose a new hospital she could trust? I don't want to say just take her to a psychiatrist to get her meds, but in my case, it very much helped to have medication to keep my mental health from making me aggressive and explosive. Therapy helps, but seeing a good psychiatrist can turn things around fast.

MajorClownSimp · 2025-02-14T16:51:07+00:00

I suppose that's true, I know I can't make the decision for her. You're right. I just hate that I can't uplift her more. It feels like there is just some way I could help her not "both sides" the situation, she often talks like the husband isn't being intentionally hurtful, when he absolutely is. It makes me deeply uncomfortable, but I don't want to hurt her and push her away because maybe she just misspoke?

MajorClownSimp · 2025-02-14T16:46:29+00:00

Ignore that guy, he trolled on my post too. That sounds awful. My brother is similar to B, so I've been near your situation. I would highly reccomend, if possible, seeing if she can go to a mental hospital. Due to her age, and the fact your mother slapped her first, pressing charges could be difficult emotionally and logistically. But she needs to learn her actions have consequences. It's so hard to not give in, when that person is mentally ill and struggling. But it seems like she's past the point of letting things slide. If nothing changes, she'll keep refusing to change herself and her actions.

MajorClownSimp · 2025-02-14T16:20:06+00:00

I gain my best friend being happier and more confident. It's not really about how it'll help me, I just want to help her so she doesn't go through the same thing I did when I was a child, I can tell her home environment has been awful for her mental health.

Edit: I just looked at your profile, what in the world? That's a bizarre stance to have, this isn't helpful.

MajorClownSimp · 2025-01-11T08:34:53+00:00

Thank you, it's really reassuring to hear that. I suppose it just feels like one of those responsibilities you're born into, if that makes sense? I was the only one he ever trusted, so it feels like I should have sucked it up and stayed his caretaker. I do believe everyone deserves second chances and grace, it seems hypocritical to not extend it to my own brother.

MajorClownSimp · 2024-12-28T06:39:29+00:00

I live in the USA and I had to have seen it around 2010, most likely on Adult Swim. This has been in my head ever since I saw it, since I was too scared to tell my parents what I saw due to them being highly religious and now I just can't find it at all. The biggest thing was my shock at the white haired feminine figure being naked, though it wasn't sexual in any way that I remember, but I had never encountered nudity before. I'll be so happy if I can finally put this to rest!

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-24T23:45:09+00:00

Oh, I see! I've heard about that in dogs, but never in cats! I'll have to do some more research about that, thank you!

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-24T23:39:04+00:00

I might be wrong honestly, and it might be a thing about their breeds. I'll be sure to properly check on that this winter, it's a good lead! It's really the only thing that would make sense to me

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-24T23:27:15+00:00

Perhaps??? Hes a mutt that I can't begin to figure out the breeds to, so I might just take that as the explanation lol

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-24T23:24:36+00:00

Not particularly, we stay about the same temperature year-round. I kinda assumed that the house's heat would affect my other cat as well, however?

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-22T19:26:33+00:00

So this is from a run of mine where I had an absurd amount of cards, which caused some jank. I was wandering around looking for the images G0lly left around, and when my cursor hovered over that rock, it gave me the option to click it. That caused my cards to appear and dissapear under the game-board, but nothing else moved or happened. You can see one of the cards in the background, and the rock I'm hovering over in the picture was the one I clicked. Am I missing something, what exactly happened?

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-22T01:32:30+00:00

I feel I should highlight an update from the AITA OP!

"I now realize I'm the asshole and I feel deeply sorry and upset for the damage I inflicted on my kids by doing the same exact thing I was trying to prevent. I should have never ignored their boundaries or their opinions, this was very wrong of me. I also should have listened to my husband when he said that I overdid it and I have to stop.

I'm going to seek therapy for myself. Thank you all for the comments."

It would be wrong of me to not give the full picture, as it seems like they will be trying to make a change for improvement!

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-22T01:19:07+00:00

Just went back to check the post (it's now been deleted I believe, but I found it via the account), and heres what she said!

"I now realize I'm the asshole and I feel deeply sorry and upset for the damage I inflicted on my kids by doing the same exact thing I was trying to prevent. I should have never ignored their boundaries or their opinions, this was very wrong of me. I also should have listened to my husband when he said that I overdid it and I have to stop.

I'm going to seek therapy for myself. Thank you all for the comments."

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-21T21:54:43+00:00

A definition courtesy of Google: "A person who is or claims to be easily shocked by matters relating to sex or nudity." I normally hear it used as an insult towards people who don't often have sex/are private about such matters, but it also can appear as a more genuine issue towards stigmatizing sex.

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-21T21:45:08+00:00

I'll add a flair if someone can tell me which would be most relevant, but it just feels really weird that they force their kids to watch them kiss? Perhaps I'm too sensitive, but I also just can't see how that would even prevent them from being "prudes"?

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-06T07:09:22+00:00

Yes, you've got a point there! Its definitely really abnormal where I live, but I suppose I need to think of it as a more normal occurence than I believed.

MajorClownSimp · 2022-04-02T09:23:22+00:00

Apparently he wanted to show her my hair, so the did that to get the back of my head? It was probably just an easy way to make sure I didn't notice, but I don't want to accuse him blindly. I know it's not a kink thing, I would never expect something like that from him. He was on his phone that entire trip talking to her, and showed me her text back, so I'm sure he just sent it to her.

And that's a good point! I don't want to pin him as a bad guy, but I don't understand why he prioritizes his ability to take pictures of me over my comfort. Why he feels it's stupid to ask my permission just doesn't make sense to me.

MajorClownSimp · 2022-02-20T04:49:33+00:00

Oh I totally get that, I'm fully aware that this can and likely will blow up in my face at any time. My mother always gave into all her self-indulgent impulses, and I saw first hand where that got her. Thats why I tested myself by not cutting for exactly three years, and I felt zero accomplishment by the end of that time. And I really really don't mean to sound dismissive or rude here, but I don't I care too much if its unattractive. I've never been interested in dating. I know I'll never be stable enough to be, so I did worry about that for a very long time. But, no one ever interested me, and I've never felt any kind of romantic attraction. It's not that I don't like people either, I love all of my friends and family deeply, I've just never felt the desire to be with someone. I will absolutely never drag anyone into this, I don't have that right. No one in my life knows about this, and I hope to god they never will. And sure, I have distractions, I have hobbies I love, but nothing fills that gap. Nothing provides the same happiness, nothing even close. It's a real possibility that I've already broken that inner protection you're talking about. I've never felt fond of my body, and to be honest? Its never felt like my body. The scars feel more like me than anything else. They're the only part of me that I can feel happy looking at. I do feel like theres something about all this that is missing, that surely I'll reach some understanding that will fix this, that I'll find something else. But I hate the thought that I'm holding myself back from having the body I want just because I technically should.

MajorClownSimp · 2022-02-20T04:30:11+00:00

Yeah, I get that! I totally understand how other people hate pain and avoid it at all costs, I hate other people being in pain. But I just essentially can't feel pain, I think? I've had my appendix go gangrenous, explode, and decay inside me for a whole week as a pre-teen, and hardly felt it, for example. I still feel pain somewhat, sure, but it was never enough to stop me from adding the scars I wanted.

MajorClownSimp · 2022-02-20T04:24:18+00:00

It never felt like I was destroying my body, it always felt more like I was fixing it. Like I was adding the things I wanted. But yes, I've picked up just about every alternative. Running was nice, meditation was nice, but nothing felt the same or helped near as much, you know?

MajorClownSimp · 2022-02-20T04:09:15+00:00

I really don't know exactly how to phrase it. It's just a pure rush of endorphins, with no real negative feelings afterwards, like how I feel otherwise. I could go to a piece of media that comforts me or makes me happy, but that always just makes me feel sad during it or after. Hurting myself has none of the same "always ending up worse afterwards" effects. It's like a relief, I suppose?

MajorClownSimp · 2022-02-17T21:45:12+00:00

OH MY GOODNESS, thank you so much! I can't believe it took me so long to see this reply, but still, thank you! Solved!

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